Scotch.

[side_show]

Ha - my friend has a hyphenated last name of Jewish origins and I was telling him just yesterday (having not read this thread) that he should marry a girl with hyphenated last names of a drastically different ethnic origins, and then they could just jumble the order of all four together like Hellman-Wong-Speitzer-Chang or something.

[theinevitable]

yeah. The best part is...
the names are not divided along any sort of lines, in real life. They each have one English name and one non-english name. have I mentioned that they are hell of cute, too?
So cute. So cute.

[Nabubrush]

yeah. The best part is...
the names are not divided along any sort of lines, in real life. They each have one English name and one non-english name. have I mentioned that they are hell of cute, too?
So cute. So cute.

Everyone is, these days.

[Golfhaus]

Hellman-Wong-Speitzer-Chang

Mmm yes... I'm getting advanced maths... I'm getting... a definitive paper on string theory...

I started thinking about mayonnaise and "Everybody Have Fun Tonight," myself.

[Gimpson]

My fiancee is currently grappling with whether to change her name or not.  I'm indifferent.  She's a Braverman an I'm an Olson, and though Braverson would pretty much be an awesome last name, I'm really just not interested in changing my name (nor do I think she should have to change hers). 

Anyway, the combined last name thing can lead to some ugliness sometimes. 

[linnea]

My fiancee is currently grappling with whether to change her name or not.  I'm indifferent.  She's a Braverman an I'm an Olson, and though Braverson would pretty much be an awesome last name, I'm really just not interested in changing my name (nor do I think she should have to change hers). 

Anyway, the combined last name thing can lead to some ugliness sometimes. 

My younger sister just got engaged, and I guess that she's gonna take his last name. He gets really, really worked up into a lather about Women Who Keep Their Names because he thinks it's bullshit. I cannot imagine that it would piss anyone off that much... but whatever, dude.

[jaydub]

I had wondered occasionally why I hadn't heard of anyone else named Villaraigosa.  It seems like there are a finite number of spanish surnames (I've run across Villar many times, and there was a lady with the Raigosa surname who worked here at one time).  Education.

[jaydub]

He gets really, really worked up into a lather about Women Who Keep Their Names because he thinks it's bullshit.

He knows that women can vote and own property, right?

[Asherdan]

And even sign contracts and shit, right?

That statement in the quote set off all kinds of warning bells.

[Ruta Bagas]

I've known a few guys who've taken a similar view - they saw it as just bucking tradition for the sake of it, a fuss over nothing and what-have-you. I've never for a second agreed with them, but none of them were exactly backward elsewhere - sometimes people are just unduly attached to some traditions and assume that because their implications wouldn't matter to them, it's unreasonable for them to matter to anybody else. So far as I can tell, this is not an idiosyncrasy that indicates raging sexism with any certainty, silly and unreasonable as it is on its own merits.

My personal preference is to end up with a family name one way or the other, though frankly I don't mind a jot whose. I do, however, have an irrational little prejudice of my very own about double-barrelled names.

[littlefallsmets]

This is the interesting thing...

I think it is well-established that I'm a pretty progressive dude.

Help people when you can and always try to at least never hurt and other than that, go wild if you're consenting.

And when you've been dating a girl for over seven years and living together for over five, the conjectural discussion of a marriage comes up occasionally and... y'know... that's fine. I'm not opposed to marrying SOME day, just not until I have my life more sorted out and... she's even less into the idea than I am.

However, she says that if we got married, she'd want me to take a hyphenate of our names or just her name and... like...

No.

She wouldn't have to take my name, I'm completely indifferent on the idea but...

Fer God's sake, I'd keep my own name too.

I quite enjoy having the most common first name for males in the English language and then a middle and a last name that almost no one has ever heard of, let alone being able to spell or pronounce.

She possesses a maddeningly common surname and I'm like... no, sorry. No.

[Ruta Bagas]

...Does she know you can vote?

[V-Adore]

I quite enjoy having the most common first name for males in the English language and then a middle and a last name that almost no one has ever heard of, let alone being able to spell or pronounce.

She possesses a maddeningly common surname and I'm like... no, sorry. No.

See, this is one of my arguments, too. My given name is fairly common (it was utterly ubiquitous among girls born in the same half-decade I was), but my middle and last name are pretty uncommon and weird. The Gentleman Caller has a fairly generic, common surname. I'm afraid that if I take his name, a critical mass of Genericness might build up, obliterating all specifity in its path.

(This is before we get into the fact that, if I marry Gentleman Caller and have a son, we each have separate embarrassing family-tradition middle names we could want that child to have.)

[smick]

However, she says that if we got married, she'd want me to take a hyphenate of our names or just her name and... like...

No.

I had the same talk once with the special ladyfriend.   My initials are S. N. M.   Gotta hang on to that.

On a related note, I proposed once to a girl my senior year of High School.   She had the same first name and middle initial as I did.   If she took my last name, then we would have functionally the same name, with the exception of my middle name being Neil, and her's being Nicole.  I elucidated on the fact that we could use each others bank accounts.  Hell, EVERY account would be a joint account.   We could mess with people by using each other's IDs and then saying "Oh, I had a sex change operation, here's my ID from before!"

She said she wasn't ready to "settle down over a banking joke."  Fair enough... it still would have been awesome.

[jough]

Women don't need to drive.  There ain't no road between the bedroom and the kitchen!