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Title: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 15, 2015, 06:37:17 pm
Today I'm gonna scratch my arm a bunch because I got poison ivy clearing brush out of a fencerow.

Poison Ivy sucks.  I never got it until about 6 or 7 years or so, but now I do.  That sucks.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 15, 2015, 07:00:26 pm
Today I'm gonna miss the good old days of the internet when we just had a messageboard like this one with a thread called Today I'm Gonna. In those days I never had to think about stuff like this: How come for the last few weeks I have been getting one or two new "likes" nearly every day on the Facebook page for my book The Sloth's Eye, when from my Kindle sales figures it doesn't actually look like any of those people are buying my books?

Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 15, 2015, 07:13:31 pm
Today I'm gonna miss the good old days of the internet when we just had a messageboard like this one with a thread called Today I'm Gonna.

Me too. 
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 16, 2015, 12:12:25 am
Today I'm gonna have that feeling you get when you stumble across a video of someone you knew in college giving a TED talk. Not that I want to give a TED talk, but still.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 16, 2015, 12:35:43 am
Interview went very well. The interviewers were two guys around my age who were very friendly and talked a lot about how fun it is to work there, how cool their projects are, etc. I did not feel like they asked me any tough questions. I will hear whether I got to round 2 next week. Yikes.

I had to turn in a research proposal, and one of the interviewers was grinning because my proposal matched up with his plans for the next step on his current project.

On the way there I took the wrong train, I guess, and ended up wandering lost on Wall Street. I gave myself 2 hours to get there, assuming that was a crazy buffer, but still got there barely on time. Hopefully if I get the job the daily commute wouldn't be that bad...

Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 16, 2015, 04:36:14 pm
Yeah, kids these days tend to be fairly jaded. I know mine are. We must have had this conversation a half-dozen times at Disney World--at fuck*ng DISNEY WORLD:

Me: We want to go on [attraction that's not a roller coaster].
Oldest kid: What's that?
Me: [describes as best I can]
Her: Sounds boring.
Me: Well, it's right here, there's no wait, and we're going on it.

And EVERY SINGLE TIME she enjoyed whatever it was. Eventually you think she'd pick up on the pattern and stop calling everything boring before she experienced it.

So yeah, you're doing fine, and hopefully someday he'll appreciate it. And odds are good if he actually GOES to summer camp he'll have a great time.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 16, 2015, 06:30:31 pm
Ash, as a former camp counselor, I am going to say if your kid wants to go to camp for the whole summer you are doing something really right. Most kids at that are terrified of the thought of being away from home all summer. You are clearly teaching that kid self-reliance and that is really awesome. The employees of the camp who experienced older generations (as in, even my wimpy generation) said this level of parent-reliance is a new thing.

The jaded thing is very real. I think for me there was a problem with the difference between adult fun and kid fun. Or even normal-person fun and weird-nerdy-kid fun. My parents always took us on fancy, expensive trips to places that I found completely boring as a pre-teen and teen. The vacations I loved were going to see our cousins, or going to a town with cool museums. I still love those, but now that I have seen the working world reading on a beach and having a guy bring me drinks seems pretty appealing.

Damn I miss the beach. Maybe I'll go to the shore this summer?

Just bought my plane ticket to go to my friend's wedding in St Louis next month. So that's pretty exciting.

Just got an email for an interview with another internship I applied to. This one is unpaid, but the older people I know who worked for this agency got jobs out of it. The trick is going to be keeping the plates spinning so I can hold out until I hear about the paid position.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 20, 2015, 06:47:25 pm
One roommate is graduating and moving out, so he's trying to sublet his room through the end of our lease. Other roommate's friend is moving in but isn't available until the start of the next lease. Somehow this keeps getting more complicated, to the point that the guy who's moving out feels like 3rd roomie is purposely fuck*ng with him. It is less obvious to me which link in this chain is being an inconsiderate flake. But I have suspicions.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 22, 2015, 01:53:37 am
More interviews next week, but no news from the one I just had (which is my first choice both by interest and $$$$).

Meanwhile, friend in Brooklyn is subletting her place for the summer for a cost that works out if I calculate how much going into the city 5 days a week all summer will cost (ie, saved transportation costs would balance out the rent being twice as much). If it weren't the beginning of Hectic Hell End of Semester Time I would maybe try to figure that out. But trying to find a subletter while doing all this other work AND doing interviews is a no-go. Still gonna fantasize about Bushwick Summer though.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 28, 2015, 07:09:44 pm
Is this thread dead now?

Realizing in full the amount of shit I need to turn in next week. Yesterday I relaxed after turning in a huge paper and that was an error. Meanwhile internships are still not getting back to me, and if I have to go into NYC multiple times next week for interviews I am going to be so pissed. I applied to all this stuff months ago with the idea that I could get it done before crunch time.

I have an interview somewhere in Manhattan tomorrow and they have not gotten back to me about where they are. There is no result on google for their manhattan office (it shows me their offices in Boston and Chicago) and their website only lists the two main offices. I double checked and the job listing definitely says NYC Branch Office but I can't figure out where i am supposed to go.

Meanwhile, internet is down for the entire Rutgers campus because of a DDOS attack and so I can't use the computers at school that have the programs I need. So I'm poking around trying to find all the map files I need to download so I can put them on a flash drive. Ungh.

I know I will get this all done, and after that I will get to relax (or just focus on freaking out about jobs). It's just the usual aggravation of every single thing being due during the first week of exams, and nothing due the second week.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 29, 2015, 02:20:43 am
I just got an email about another interview later this week and I changed my mind. I am not pissed, I am happy. Please give me the job, nice people who want me to come in for a second interview. I am glad you took the extra time to think hard about who to pick, now that I know that you picked me as a finalist.

I also just found out my last thing isn't due next thursday. There's one more long homework assignment for my GIS Mapping class that is all about database frameworks that is due the next week. For some reason I am happy about that-- one last chill assignment where I get to learn cool computer stuff. I am much happier about that being my last work due, instead of this inventory of historic buildings in my neighborhood that I am going to half-ass. Or even quarter-ass.

Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 29, 2015, 02:26:37 am
Did you find out where the mystery interview location is? Or is finding it part of the test?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 29, 2015, 03:19:01 am
I still can't find it. I am going to call their head office first thing tomorrow. Also while I am in the city I am going to buy a dress shirt or two so I don't have to keep wearing the same one every time I wear a suit. I did some internet searches and found a company that other skinny tall guys said seems to stock a lot of skinny neck /long-arm shirts.

(also got an OkCupid message back from a cute Jersey girl who likes linguistics and cooking and guitar music, whoa whoa whoa)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 29, 2015, 03:45:43 am
Did you find out where the mystery interview location is? Or is finding it part of the test?

Is this like Ray with the magic shoe hiding the money in the lawn and the delivery guys have to fight over it?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 29, 2015, 09:47:55 pm
It was not a test, those people just don't have their shit together.

1. I had to call 3 different offices before someone answered the phone to tell me where their NYC location is.
2. I got to the building and there was a security guard who wouldn't let me go upstairs. He was not familiar with the organization or the woman I was supposed to meet (their NYC office is very small).
3. The woman I was supposed to meet wasn't there. So I met with some very nice junior guys, who asked if I was sure I'm not interested in a full-time position. I joked that I could drop out now if they'd hire me with half a master's degree.

The interview went well, apart from all that. The job sounds much more like being a receptionist/administrator than I would prefer, but it's paid and I am running low on options. I also finally got a response from my backup plan, an unpaid job with the city, saying that the position has been filled but they are forwarding my resume to other sections of the department.

The fancy shirt store was the best place I have ever shopped. It is this company that makes really great simple traditional men's shirts (http://kamakurashirts.com/) and the office was staffed by pretty Japanese women. They measured me and brought a stack of shirts in my size, gave suggestions about what looked good, etc. Maybe I got better customer service than I am used to because I walked in in a suit.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 29, 2015, 11:19:17 pm
That sounds like the kind of place it would be good to spend the summer at so you'd learn how to recognize a place you don't want to take a real job at. If they can't get a simple job interview right, what do you think the rest of it must be like?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 29, 2015, 11:20:32 pm
You got better customer service than you're used to because they're Japanese. It has nothing to do with you.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 29, 2015, 11:54:26 pm
Yeah, true. That was some insanely perfect service. And it definitely got me into a state where I was so wrapped up in the experience that I wanted to ignore price tags.

I think I also felt fancier because I was wearing a suit. It is not often that I shave two days in a row, much less shave two days in a row and put on a suit and tie.

Yes, I think working there for the summer would be fine and I would learn a lot. Even if part of what I learned was "how to recognize a train wreck of an organization."
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: jay-ell on April 30, 2015, 03:38:55 am
I did some internet searches and found a company that other skinny tall guys said seems to stock a lot of skinny neck /long-arm shirts.

Do you have a link? Asking for a friend.

Thanks for creating a new thread just in time for me to come back from my ridiculous hiatus so that I can catch up all of your lives without having to page through the old one and try not to comment on things that are ridiculously outdated. That was considerate.

I got a job, I guess some of you know that from Facebook. It's pretty awesome. Right now it's about 12-15 hours a week but they tell me that I can expect that to increase after I'm trained to open and close and when we get into the busy season, which is June/July/August.

It's an education supply store, which makes people think of pencils and notebook paper, but we have traditionally catered more to teachers and home-school parents than to regular people. The store moved into a new, dedicated building last fall and the retail space is 17,000 square feet, plus a warehouse that serves the web store. We sell an amazing variety of stuff, from lesson planners, workbooks, and classroom posters to kid-appropriate lab equipment, math manipulatives, every kind of art supply you can think of and some you can't. The owners have devoted almost half the retail space in the new building to toys and games. They apparently hired me because of my experience at the board game shop, because they want to expand their game section (the selection seems random and not particularly balanced; I think they just ordered stuff from companies that would give them free display racks) and they are hoping I can advise them about what to order and how it should be marketed. Which, of course, I am more than happy to do.

It's pretty much the perfect job for me right now, except, I mean, it's retail pay. But it's mostly hours when my kids are at school, and a few weekends. I've got 2 whole weekends off in May, which was unexpected but nice.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 30, 2015, 04:38:26 am
The store I went to was Kamakura (http://kamakurashirts.com/). They supposedly carefully studied men's shirts from mid-century preppy staples like J. Press and Brooks Brothers (who have changed their fits to be more "modern") to design theirs. Of course theirs have modern touches too (like not being super baggy) but they apparently kept some little things the other brands didn't? Who knows, the shirts are great either way.
I really wanted to buy a tie, they were all awesome, but I do not need any more ties. My dorky skinny 2009 ties will do for now.


They have 4 fits, "New York" "New York Slim" "Tokyo" and "Tokyo Slim."
I am not sure of the differences there. I tried on what the woman helping me suggested, and she and the guy at the counter agreed that the other ones would be too big around the shoulders. This shirt fits me like a glove. Maybe a little tighter than I would have gone for, but they told me to try it on with my jacket and... wow. It feels good. They are pricy ($75 each...) but I am a crazy spendthrift.
I do not know if the Japanese are known for their long arms, but I guess they tend to be less heavy than Americans? Anyway, at Macy's they only had a few shirts in my size, and here they had a whole bunch and all of the patterns were nice looking. No weird shiny "non-iron" shirts or funky colors. Just simple stripes or checks or plain colors.

(I know you all wanted tons of info about the fancy shirts I bought. So you're welcome.)

immediate edit: the different styles are described here. (http://kamakurashirts.com/contents/styleguide/)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: jay-ell on April 30, 2015, 07:22:36 am
That is actually super helpful. I happen to know a certain man of Slight Build and Long Arms, now the trick is to convince him that is is OK to occasionally buy clothing that has not been previously worn by strangers.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 30, 2015, 01:20:10 pm
Japanese are not known for being tall. It looks like made those "New York" sizes specifically for Americans, they don't sell them on the Japanese site.

They say they take pride in creating shirts that bring bliss. (http://www.kamakurashirts.net/shop/pages/about-us.aspx)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 30, 2015, 01:21:55 pm
JL, I can't remember if we ever got the end of the story about the board game store. Did you quit or did it go out of business?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 30, 2015, 05:08:23 pm
Yeah, reading a little further it looks like the "slim" version of each style is made for (gasp!) guys with longer bodies than you would expect from their neck size. I appreciate that.

Today I got an email explaining that one of my final projects is due a week later than I thought it was. I'll take it.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: jay-ell on May 01, 2015, 09:05:18 pm
I quit because I thought he was making terrible business decisions, and they closed less than six months later. #vindicated
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Post by: theinevitable on May 04, 2015, 02:11:54 am
I am apparently the GIS Wizard because I know how to look up my questions on google. In the land of the blind, the one-eyed mapper is king.

There is one part of my final project left to do, and the instructions are vague in a way I can't figure out. "Use at least two tools from the _____ toolbox." I am pretty sure I used those tools to make every single map (they're the tools for... applying shapes to data) so I am at a loss here.

(my maps look so cool, but convey information that nobody wants or needs. All of my slides for my presentation are basically "I thought that ____ might have an influence on housing prices in this town nobody has heard of, but according to my data analysis it doesn't." Nothing is clustered in any way that seems meaningful. But my graphic designer buddy sent me a few pointers so my maps look acceptable.)

I hear tomorrow about that summer job I really want. Hopefully good news.

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Post by: AugustWest on May 04, 2015, 07:56:12 pm
Wow.  There's actually a step down from Milwaukee's Best Lite Ice.  Who knew?
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on May 04, 2015, 08:19:44 pm
Holy shit Costco beer. It better be REAL cheap.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 05, 2015, 02:54:47 am
I found my favorite St Louis beer out here. (https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ-DUCFKd_jqPHD8ZDC8f9-wGYzeuSnOI6TegxfADqbEmYSSXRL) It costs a lot more here. But I drink a lot less (at least, I drink less at home) here because of their crazy liquor store laws. So $9 for a six pack is OK, it lasts me a couple of weeks.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 06, 2015, 04:30:21 am
My professor said so many nice things about my final mapping project. I explained how I made the last map and he got a big grin on his face. That felt good.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 06, 2015, 06:12:31 pm
Well, shit. Didn't get that job. Now a little worried that I have nothing lined up for the summer.
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Post by: jay-ell on May 06, 2015, 08:51:05 pm
That sucks, inev. Hope you get something even better. Their loss, anyhow.

I got my first paycheck today. One hundred and three smackaroonies. Not much, but it'll more than cover the amount I expect to spend in my own damn store this month, so that's something.

My kids are off school for three weeks starting next Wednesday and I'm stocking up on stuff to keep them busy so I don't strangle them. I justify this to myself by looking back at how much I spent on Mama School last time they were tracked out, before I had a 30% employee discount on everything.

Someday I will get a job where I can just make money and not spend it on the things I'm supposed to be getting other people to buy.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 09, 2015, 06:39:45 am
Gave up on getting anything done at 5, took the train in and met some friends visiting NYC from St Louis. Ate a delicious home-cooked meal, drank beer, then took the train home to Jersey. The lady who cooked was very good at cooking, and her boyfriend had a great record collection that he wanted to talk about. Life is good.

This all came because I called my mom to complain about all the work I had to do, and she told me to shut up and take the day off. In nicer words. She was right, I feel way better now.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 11, 2015, 05:11:47 am
Turned in my last assignment of the year. Suddenly all the dumb shit I wanted to do instead of working for the past couple of months doesn't sound that appealing. So I cleaned the kitchen floor at midnight. It didn't really get any cleaner-- there are still discolored pathways where we tend to walk. I used 1/2 cup ammonia to a half bucket of water, maybe I just didn't scrub hard enough?

Lately I have been playing SNES games on my computer, do you guys have any suggestions? Just finished Chrono Trigger, starting A Link to the Past. FFIII and Earthbound are on the list.

Tomorrow: summer job search hardcore mode.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on May 11, 2015, 09:56:46 am
It's NES and obvious (?) but Contra!!
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Post by: AugustWest on May 11, 2015, 03:50:39 pm
That's hella competent, brother.  Hell. of. competent.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 13, 2015, 04:40:50 pm
Going totally stir-crazy. There is only so much time I can fill with reading and cleaning. I am trying to think of this as a good mental habit, the need to be working on something. Much better than my usual fear that I am a fundamentally lazy person. Strange how a week ago all I wanted was a full day to relax, and now all I want is something productive to do. This too shall pass.

One internship is finally being really good about communicating with me, and of COURSE it's my last choice of last choices. Unpaid, doing land use research (which I know almost nothing about), with a commute to the city. A friend of mine from college works in this office, but I am torn about whether to let him know I am coming in for an interview, since I would definitely take any other job over this one. Although it certainly sounds prestigious, in the way that city government bodies sound fancy to me and possibly only me.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on May 15, 2015, 12:44:07 am
I guess it would be ridiculous to suggest that maybe you should go to a doctor?
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Post by: theinevitable on May 16, 2015, 06:56:29 pm
Talked to a classmate at the graduation BBQ yesterday who said he might be able to get me a job working with him if I don't find anything soon. Torn between just jumping on it as a semi-sure thing and the fear that I'm pigeonholing myself as an academic/research guy. It's a vicious cycle where I don't have any concrete planning experience, so I only get interviews for research positions, so I only have research experience, etc. This would be doing something pretty completely un-related to any of my planning interests (researching access to healthy food in poor neighborhoods of New Jersey), but it would pay really well and only be a 10 minute walk from home. Definitely better than working at the bagel place.
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Post by: wombat on May 16, 2015, 07:25:15 pm
That sounds like an interesting subject, it's in your field, and it pays well and is a ten minute walk commute? I'm really not seeing the problem here.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 16, 2015, 10:25:51 pm
It is nominally in my field, but I am not really interested in food access stuff. It is also not something where I will meet anyone who could give me a job-- I would be sitting at school on a computer all summer. So it's better than doing nothing or something entirely outside my field, but majorly inferior to even an unpaid position where I would actually be working on building/development projects, meeting people who work in the field, etc.
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Post by: wombat on May 17, 2015, 01:48:04 am
I guess it's a question of whether you need the money to eat or whether the money would just be nice.

I don't think I'll ever get used to the idea of living in a world where it's hard to get a job that doesn't pay you anything.
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Post by: wombat on May 17, 2015, 08:09:01 pm
Tomorrow I'm gonna meet a pug that I might adopt.

I'm kind of anxious. I really want a pug right now. Don't tell Rose, but it's really boring to have only one elderly blind pug.  I already applied for another really cute brindle pug mix from another rescue and they dropped the ball on the paperwork and by the time I called to follow up someone else had adopted it. So I hope I don't make the mistake of taking any old pug that seems OK.

The thing that seems cosmic though is - this pug's foster person is the same woman I got Rose from. This is highly statistically unlikely given that this rescue places over 400 dogs per year, so they must have a LOT of foster homes.

Oh, and the Tech Staff is not here to help decide. He's on a trip to Italy. He told everyone he was going to come home to a strange pug, I think he likes the idea of doing it that way.
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Post by: lprkn on May 17, 2015, 08:11:08 pm
Potential for more incoming smushface doggie pics? Alright!
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Post by: wombat on May 18, 2015, 01:48:24 am
Potential for more incoming smushface doggie pics? Alright!

You know I'm not sure if Rose wants a new sister - she's the one who liked to cuddle but she seems to be doing fine as an only pug. I'll remember to mention to her that she would have someone to shoulder part of the burden of photography.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 19, 2015, 08:35:16 pm
Eugh. After all our travails with replacing my outgoing roommate, we found a person for next year, and another person to sub-let for the remainder of this lease (mid-May through august). Our landlord said he didn't want a subletter for more than 2 months. We talked it through and decided we would fudge the dates the guy was moving in and out a little, and who cares-- the landlord lives out-of-state and none of us have ever even met him. Just random maintenance guys who he sends sometimes. So tomorrow the subletter is moving in. Guess who just called saying he's in town and wants to meet us at the apartment to talk about signing the lease for next year?

Today I'm sweatin' to the oldies and cleaning out my bedroom. Since the other roommate moved out I moved everything except the bed/dresser/desk into the other bedroom and have been dusting and vacuuming. Turns out I have way too many shoes, sweaters, and CDs. What the heck do I do with this box of CDs? I only use them on long drives, but can't quite bring myself to throw them out. I tried to sell a bunch before I left St Louis, and the guy wouldn't take them because they're all slightly scratched/worn from being in a big CD binder for years and years.
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Post by: AugustWest on May 20, 2015, 02:12:10 pm
Burn them over to a storage format and sell those things.

When I first read this sentence I saw "Burn them over to a strange format..." and I wondered what the point of that would be.  Also, what qualifies as a strange format? "Uh, this is a rare Bolivian Mp3 compression scheme that Pat Reynolds turned me onto."
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Post by: theinevitable on May 20, 2015, 02:43:40 pm
Obviously Pono.
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Post by: AugustWest on May 20, 2015, 02:47:25 pm
Obviously Pono.

Neal Young is offended by your shenanigans.
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 21, 2015, 06:33:38 am
I guess it would be ridiculous to suggest that maybe you should go to a doctor?

Nah, let it fester. Maybe it'll turn into gangrene. That'll make for some fun pictures.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 21, 2015, 05:42:01 pm
Got offered an unpaid internship. It is only 2-3 days a week, so my next step is trying to find a part-time paid job. My friend works at this office and likes it, and other people I talked to said it is a really good opportunity to make connections and learn stuff. It would be working for the office that looks into proposed land use/zoning changes in Manhattan-- they talk to neighborhood representatives, research outcomes, etc.
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Post by: wombat on May 21, 2015, 08:49:36 pm
Bagel shop!
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Post by: theinevitable on May 26, 2015, 02:56:26 am
Went to a memorial day cookout a classmate threw and everyone there was married, some with kids, and the main topic of conversation was buying houses in suburban New Jersey. Not what I expected from urban planning school. Definitely made me feel "27 years young" though.
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Post by: AugustWest on May 26, 2015, 04:00:41 pm
Nothing wrong with either side of that experience but I gotta say, the more years I get behind me the more I think you're better served by holding off putting on the harness of obligation a little bit and making some of your own hay.

As a happily married fellow who got married at 22, I heartily concur.

On the other hand, I had my children early so I'm still young enough to enjoy my empty nest.
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Post by: AugustWest on May 26, 2015, 05:40:24 pm
Unless I screw up and, y'know, piss off a hoss over a haircut so he crushes my skull:

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CF7w4i8VIAEz2qF.jpg:large)

Or a tragic tool and equipment accident gets me:

(https://scontent-lax1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xtp1/v/t1.0-9/s720x720/11150374_831866786883429_4079099960727651788_n.jpg?oh=acc050713682c90b8b06b3f2fde3884f&oe=55C4E783)

But that's what AD&D insurance is for, right?

You can't be expected to live in a bubble!
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Post by: jay-ell on May 26, 2015, 06:44:25 pm
Yeah, I really tried to hit the middle on that. If I can keep my shit from falling off I ought to hit sixty, have no kid-raising obligations and be ready to pull the cord on the retirement parachute. Hopefully that leaves me some years still in the tank for further tomfoolery and/or shenanigans.

Yup. Married at 22, and my baby girl will be 18 four weeks before I turn 47. Even if they stay at home through college, my nest will be empty long before I get my AARP card.

Still, two and a half decades is a long-ass time to wait for the freedom to sleep in on Saturdays and putter around in the garden on Sunday afternoons.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 27, 2015, 04:57:16 pm
On hold with an NC hospital system because I went to urgent care when I was home (persistent sore throat that my mom said might be some kind of infection). They told me there was nothing to do, drink lots of liquids, etc. Then they sent my parents a bill for $400. So I called, went through a whole frustrating process to give them my insurance info for the second time. 5 months later, they have sent me a bill for $400.

Every interaction I have had with the insurance system has made me want to throw a brick through a window. Sassy on the phone because I don't know which number on my insurance card is my ID number-- the card has "SR Number" and "Policy Number." Jeez louise.

Nothing will top when I had insurance through my union and they couldn't tell me what my coverage was. They directed me to a brochure that explained how much coverage I had based on when I started working and how many hours a week I worked. The question is, if they can't even tell ME what I'm paying for... how do they know what claims to pay for?

I still get mail telling me about my benefits through that union, which I have not paid dues to since last July. Come on guys. The mail is addressed to the apartment I lived in in 2013, because they never updated my address any of the times I told them to.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on May 28, 2015, 01:07:55 am
Man, when I had insurance it was so so so much like that.  On the phone with 2 different entities for over an hour to give them my right address, still never got a bill, etc. in mail.  Got a $3 dollar credit for some unknown reason at some point but then could not pay my bill over the phone because it only worked if the bill was exactly 107.56 or something.  Didn't pay my last bill for like 6 months because of this last thing.  Just sent the check in last week.  First time I have ever paid a bill by check.

It's the only time I've ever been like fuck the democrats.  If you are going to "force" somebody to do something you should probably have a decent system.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on May 28, 2015, 02:24:22 pm
On hold with an NC hospital system because I went to urgent care when I was home (persistent sore throat that my mom said might be some kind of infection). They told me there was nothing to do, drink lots of liquids, etc. Then they sent my parents a bill for $400. So I called, went through a whole frustrating process to give them my insurance info for the second time. 5 months later, they have sent me a bill for $400.

I've spent a lot of time thinking about health insurance lately (my company is rolling out new insurance, in the guise of "consumer choice," but really it means "either pay more, or take a cheaper plan that incentivizes you to not go to the doctor"). Verify if your coverage involves a deductible; if so maybe you really do have to pay $400.

Yeah, I really tried to hit the middle on that. If I can keep my shit from falling off I ought to hit sixty, have no kid-raising obligations and be ready to pull the cord on the retirement parachute. Hopefully that leaves me some years still in the tank for further tomfoolery and/or shenanigans.

I so look forward to spending my children's inheritance.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 28, 2015, 03:02:08 pm
Quote
Verify if your coverage involves a deductible; if so maybe you really do have to pay $400.

That is my fear, but the bill they sent me said "uninsured" and under insurance provider it was blank.

Also, I am not sure why it costs $400 to tell someone to go home and rest and drink water.

Well, I faxed them a copy of my insurance card, so now I can at least feel fine about it until they send me another bill in 3 months.

Going to St Louis friday for my friend's wedding. A girl I posted a lot of sad things about being in love with 8 years ago.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 01, 2015, 02:26:20 pm
Jewish people sure know how to do a wedding. The rabbi played it with a light touch, explained the prayers and ceremonies, etc. The couple and the rabbi stood in the middle of the room on a platform with everyone seated in a circle around them... it was perfect. I was behind the rabbi so I could see the looks on the couples faces as they said their vows. It was like peeking into a beautiful, intimate moment.

Then we all got drunk and cried a lot of happy tears. What a nice night.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 01, 2015, 03:11:11 pm
I assume you hoisted them in chairs, and the bride feared for her safety. That's always fun.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 04, 2015, 05:02:59 pm
This job feels basically like "the West Wing." Everyone is walking around at high speed and taking phone calls/writing emails while continuing to talk to me. Writing up a summary of some reports so the elected official can read them before doing a TV interview on the topic. And doing a super-secret grunt work project about something where the city might be getting sued.

Also, all at once realizing why people say that a liberal arts education prepares you for everything. If this is what urban planners do I do not understand why you need a master's degree to do it. I could have learned GIS in undergrad (or over a summer or something), do I really need 2 years to pick up standard practices and principles? So far it's all going to meetings, reading reports, writing reports, etc.
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Post by: wombat on June 04, 2015, 05:08:24 pm
I was just thinking lately that these days it seems like a masters is the new bachelors degree. Maybe there is more to know. Or maybe I'm a cynic but I feel like part of this is just a way to keep people from competing in the workforce for another couple of years. And giving people more hoops to jump through reduces the number of resumes you have to read to make a hire.

This isn't a new trend though I guess. I remember as an undergrad working in libraries, the most senior staff had worked their way up from shelving books, but the new hires at the same level had to have library science degrees.
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Post by: AugustWest on June 04, 2015, 06:18:41 pm
Also, all at once realizing why people say that a liberal arts education prepares you for everything. If this is what urban planners do I do not understand why you need a master's degree to do it. I could have learned GIS in undergrad (or over a summer or something), do I really need 2 years to pick up standard practices and principles? So far it's all going to meetings, reading reports, writing reports, etc.

I could probably teach you what you need to know out of law school in 6 months or less.  But you got to earn your creds to get the cred so you'll have the cred.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 04, 2015, 08:24:34 pm
OK, after interacting with the undergrad interns I might need to reassess my ideas about grad school. Maybe I am underestimating what I have learned. And forgetting how much I learned between college and grad school.
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Post by: wombat on June 05, 2015, 01:52:28 am
It's still an interesting question whether you could have learned those things on the job in the same number of years. While getting paid instead of paying.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 05, 2015, 05:11:17 pm
And forgetting how much I learned between college and grad school.

See, this. The real-world experience between college and my MBA was invaluable; it gave me the means to better understand what we were learning in class and how it actually applied to real things. I think someone who goes for an MBA immediately after college is probably wasting his/her time.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 06, 2015, 04:47:39 pm
Yeah, OK, 3 days in I am pretty sure being an urban planner is good.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 17, 2015, 01:37:14 am
Had an insane meeting today where I felt very confident that I have picked the right thing to do, at least for a few years. But when this one woman was speaking I was thinking about some joke about "mere millionaires displaced by billionaires." Maybe an Onion headline?

then tonight I went to a community board meeting where people jeered at a dude who was trying very hard to explain politely that sometimes there just isn't enough money to preserve every rotting old building/pier/post-industrial-remnant. I do not want that job. This one lady seemed very unclear about how levels of government and budget work, and was arguing that if it was a real priority it would be getting done no matter what the cost. People in the audience clapped. Interestingly this was mere blocks from Wall Street, but I guess so was Zucotti Park.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 17, 2015, 02:11:57 pm
Lesson of the day: before you go to the bother of waking up and taking the 6am train to a breakfast meeting, check whether the meeting is at a stuffy uptown place with a dress code. Sorry sir, we only allow guests with jackets.
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Post by: wombat on June 17, 2015, 05:00:26 pm
Was this a meeting for urban planners? I am disturbed at the idea that our urbans are being planned by people who think it's normal to congregate in a place like that.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 17, 2015, 05:09:55 pm
No, it was some Building Trades thing at a fancy club uptown (New York Metropolitan Club). Lots of real estate and development people. I was going along with the elected person I am working for.

Urban planners, for better or worse, seem much more like the trendy new restaurant crowd.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 18, 2015, 05:25:52 pm
Grade school graduation for my oldest today. (I don't remember grade school graduation being a thing in my day. But whatevs.)

As part of the production they had a slide show of each kid holding a sign with three words they chose to sum up their elementary school experience.
My daughter's read "Wombats For President."
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Post by: jaydub on June 18, 2015, 10:27:05 pm
There was a pre-K graduation for my boy last year, and his Kindergarten one was yesterday.  Neither of these things were necessary IMO.  Eighth grade only if you're skipping high school and going into a trade.  Which isn't a thing in 21st century America (but was in 20th century Australia).  I'm all for recitals, and end-of-year-parties and whatnot, but Graduation to me implies 1) a change of location is impending, 2) a certificate worth something is conferred, and perhaps related, 3) a degree of accomplishment other than showing up and taking up space is required.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 19, 2015, 04:12:14 am
"Wombats For President."

Of course we'll need to see a photo of this.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 19, 2015, 02:54:46 pm
I'm all for recitals, and end-of-year-parties and whatnot, but Graduation to me implies 1) a change of location is impending, 2) a certificate worth something is conferred, and perhaps related, 3) a degree of accomplishment other than showing up and taking up space is required.

QFT. #1 is kind of there, if you want to call moving from elementary school to middle school a change of location. #2, no. #3, not really.

To a fair degree, I think the elementary school graduation is more for the parents than the kids. Look how awesome your kids are! Aren't you proud!
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Post by: jaydub on June 19, 2015, 05:07:01 pm
Look how awesome your kids are! Aren't you proud!
I'm proud of my kid when he throws a ball in the right direction, or puts his shoes on the right feet.  I have a low bar when it comes to parental pride.
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Post by: wombat on June 19, 2015, 05:34:07 pm

My daughter's read "Wombats For President."

Why more than one?
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 19, 2015, 05:44:56 pm
Why more than one?

That I don't know. I am glad that she chose to embrace her role in the school play, though. At first she was like "People are going to laugh at me!" and eventually she figured out that was the point. Her role was comic relief, and she had more and better laugh lines than anyone else in the play (not to mention her character is the only one of the super-heroes who escapes the villain's initial attack, by burrowing to safety). I told her, "Anyone who chooses to laugh at you personally because of what happens to your character in the play is a damn idiot who is not worthy of your time or attention."

I usta think they tuned that stuff out but then I started seeing the oldest boy operating on some of those and I realized that they hear you, they'll just be double-dutched if they'll let you know it mattered to them.

I suspect (and hope) you are correct. I have to remind myself: she's 12. Everyone's pretty dumb when they're 12. I sure was. She's got time to improve.
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Post by: jaydub on June 19, 2015, 10:54:26 pm
This shit (http://ktla.com/2015/06/19/lake-fire-continues-to-burn-near-big-bear-evacuation-orders-air-advisory-in-effect/) broke out
In case you love gory (or burn-ey) details (http://inciweb.nwcg.gov/incident/4302/)
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 20, 2015, 07:02:53 am
Elementary School graduation is an offshoot of the we must constantly encourage the kids school of thought that rose up in the 80s. It's the same mentality that brought us everybody gets a trophy and soccer where they don't keep score. It was bullshit then and it's bullshit now.
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Post by: AugustWest on June 20, 2015, 05:05:45 pm
The kids are all right.
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Post by: jaydub on June 22, 2015, 07:33:16 pm
(https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/0/0f/TheKidsArentAlrightSingle.jpg/220px-TheKidsArentAlrightSingle.jpg)
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Post by: theinevitable on June 23, 2015, 01:03:08 am
A great thing about having been a weird and picky kid is that now I get to try foods for the first time that everyone else is jaded about. Over the weekend I ordered a bowl of mushroom risotto and ate it with a good IPA. I'm still thinking about it.

Mushrooms, man. How can they be so good. People of TOUAMB, what are your favorite mushroom-based recipes? What types of mushrooms should I eat? I also recently ate a cheeseburger with a (fried? it was crispy) portobello on top, that was one of the best burgers I've ever had.
I am also into a thing JL mentioned at some point-- making pasta sauce with half a pound of ground beef/pork and half a pound of mushrooms.
Seriously, I am realizing that 3 or 4 of the best meals I have ever eaten have been mushroom-enhanced. Maybe I need to try the magic kind and eat mushrooms ON mushrooms.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 23, 2015, 02:09:36 am
Mushrooms, man. How can they be so good. People of TOUAMB, what are your favorite mushroom-based recipes?

How can you pick just one. Mushrooms are so good in so many things.

Maybe I need to try the magic kind and eat mushrooms ON mushrooms.

Just an fyi, magic mushrooms are delicious.
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Post by: Bobby Isosceles on June 23, 2015, 02:26:37 am
Today, I'm gonna watch this 20 times in a row: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lHgbbM9pu4
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 24, 2015, 02:53:19 am
Today, I'm gonna watch this 20 times in a row: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lHgbbM9pu4

I couldn't get all the way through it even once.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 24, 2015, 05:10:01 pm
I have a recipe for asparagus and shiitake mushrooms in a soy sauce/sesame dressing that's really good.

Porcini mushrooms in a pasta sauce, that's-a good right there.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 26, 2015, 09:57:23 pm
Installed a window AC unit, found out they're (slightly) upping my scholarship for next year, bought a Raspberry Pi, and my sister can (some day) get married in all 50 states. Pretty good day. And I haven't even made dinner yet, that might cross the line into Great Day.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 28, 2015, 03:17:19 pm
Yesterday I ate empanadas from a cart in Queens that tasted exactly like the ones we ate from a roadside stand in rural Chile when I was 14. It all came rushing back. So freaking delicious.

Then I walked around in the rain for the rest of the day. My whole body kind of hurts. I saw a crowd of people almost get hit by a car, which confirms my distrust of just lunging into the crosswalk as soon as the light changes.

And then I went to a party that a friend of a friend invited me to, which was nice. I met a girl there who I used to chat with on AOL Instant Messenger in 9th grade. Surreal. I knew she was going to be at this party because we are facebook friends, but it was still strange.

I spent the whole party standing awkwardly until I heard a guy telling someone he's a programmer, and then we chatted about programming languages until it was time to go. 2.5 hour trip home was not the most pleasant ever.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 29, 2015, 08:41:48 am
Yesterday I ate empanadas from a cart in Queens that tasted exactly like the ones we ate from a roadside stand in rural Chile when I was 14. It all came rushing back. So freaking delicious.

Wow, awesome!
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Post by: theinevitable on June 29, 2015, 03:50:51 pm
My mom was annoyed that I don't remember the intervening times my grandma has made us empanadas at home. But when my grandma makes them they are baked (not fried) and she puts Weird Traditional Fillings in them. Raisins mixed with meat are involved.

The healthcare saga continues, they keep sending me these bills for urgent care even though I have called 4 times to ask them why they aren't applying my insurance to it. Every time they say "oh OK I'll fix that right away" and then send me another bill.
(and I know this is "one of those things" but $340 to go see a doctor who told me to sleep and drink water? seriously?)
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Post by: jaydub on June 29, 2015, 10:39:46 pm
(http://i61.tinypic.com/4tkrqf.jpg)
Then I walked around in the rain for the rest of the day. My whole body kind of hurts. I saw a crowd of people almost get hit by a car, which confirms my distrust of just lunging into the crosswalk as soon as the light changes.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 01, 2015, 12:41:33 pm
Left one of my Sonos speakers outside overnight, in the rain. So, day's off to a good start.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 01, 2015, 03:10:39 pm
Started the day listening to a lady scream and cuss at the bagel guy because she had been waiting too long for her bagel sandwich. Said a silent prayer of thanks that I no longer work in customer service, and that I did it in supposedly a very polite city.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 05, 2015, 11:31:56 pm
My old buddies are playing their second-to-last show with the original lineup tonight. I am debating whether to ask when the last show is, I might be too tempted to do something dumb.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 06, 2015, 01:31:07 pm
Left one of my Sonos speakers outside overnight, in the rain. So, day's off to a good start.

Forgot to mention last week: I parked said speaker in front of the dehumidifier for 36 hours, then plugged it back in and it worked. Miracle of miracles.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2015, 10:13:28 pm
Every time I start a new thing there is a battle where one part of me (the big part) is saying "you've really done it this time, dummy-- there's no way you're gonna pull this one off." I am mostly ignoring it, but I definitely spent my first day of work today poking around in the census files trying to figure out what I was supposed to be doing.

The good news is that the work I did do was a re-do of something my predecessor had done (that nobody told me she had done), but she had totally mislabeled her sources and done it wrong. So I came out looking at least competent.

Better news: got my Raspberry Pi running great, I have two memory cards to swap out. One is just a generic linux system to screw around and learn stuff, the other boots right into an emulator for playing SNES and other retro games. Getting rug burn on my elbows from lying on the floor playing games is bringing back major little-kid memories.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 07, 2015, 06:18:26 pm
If spending hours doing it was not sufficient nudge that I need to learn to automate this stupid data entry task, I keep realizing/discovering things that mean I need to start over and do it a different way. It does not help that some undergrad intern is "helping" me who seems to be following a different set of instructions that magically appeared, at some point. His argument at this point is that we should tell the boss we can't re-do it the right way because it would take too long. What is that.

Really, what is the deal with your bag taking up a seat. What alien world do these people live on.
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Post by: AugustWest on July 07, 2015, 06:55:12 pm
Shoulda sat on it.  And farted.
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Post by: pmcd9 on July 08, 2015, 08:14:21 pm
Tuesday work news: huge accident makes man late to train station and miss his train except he didn't because the train was cancelled. Man does not go postal, man resigns himself to the fates and catches next (last) train. However, since the train is at double capacity because of cancellation, man has to walk down stuffed train and gently pickup man's backpack from seat and deposit it in owner's lap while asking him if his "piece of shit really needs it's own fuck*ng seat?"

Today you are my hero!
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Post by: pmcd9 on July 08, 2015, 08:20:55 pm
On my half year check there is 8.71% less of me.

Is that how much your heart weighed?
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Post by: theinevitable on July 09, 2015, 02:32:14 am
Spent 12 hours working today, topped off by an infuriating meeting for residents of NYC public housing. I do not know how you can work full-time at a government agency and never learn how to explain things to the public. This was an entire meeting of people groaning/exploding with rage as bureaucrats used government/legal/planning jargon without explaining what the acronyms mean.

I think I sometimes err too far on the side of assuming people don't know anything, but jeez louise these people were awful. Topped it off by making people fill out comment cards to ask questions, which means most of the crowd felt like their questions were not being answered, so the least pleasant of the crowd started just yelling.

Nobody won. That was a bad meeting. I kind of assume they're all like that, though.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 11, 2015, 03:24:52 pm
My job at school might turn into Getting Paid to Code. Which would be so cool. At least for next week-- the guy they used to have make little scripts to sort/prune excel files just left for another job. So if I can figure out how to do it, I will be getting paid to practice my python. nice.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 13, 2015, 04:55:41 am
I kind of thought one of my classmates had a crush on me, but observation has indicated that she laughs that hard at everyone's jokes. Either way: her laugh is a thing of beauty. It's very loud, and she throws her head back. She is in her 30s but has the pure laugh of a child.

Also I want to somehow steal her apartment in Jersey City. "Garden level" ie well-renovated basement of a brownstone, kitchen/living room, bedroom, and bathroom with a little courtyard backyard, 2 blocks from the train into downtown NYC, which is a maybe 10 minute ride.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 21, 2015, 03:30:29 am
Well, if nothing else, I am learning a lot of microsoft excel tricks this summer.

As I finally finish this frustrating data-scraping project, I wonder if my data is going to Make News or Do Nothing. Steeling myself for the second. I think maybe my boss will write a strongly worded public letter about it.

Playing Final Fantasy III on my Raspberry Pi, and it is making me realize how amazing modern video games are. And at the same time, maybe corny writing can hide better when the graphics are 16 bit.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 21, 2015, 08:43:26 pm
I have an enormous crush on a woman who works in my office. I let slip that I can't come to a community meeting tonight because I have a date and she is teasing me. I think I am blushing like a 13 year old.

She is just my type, apparently-- bureaucratically powerful 30-something with a husband and a small child.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on July 22, 2015, 05:23:39 am
This is an OK thing. I am consistently surprised how many people just can't make Excel dance when they shoot their gun.

In between that kind of experience and if you keep going into programming language and add some database background I can hire you to be my replacement when I get tired of this place.

This is my backhanded way of saying it sounds like you are doing Neat Things.

So, like, I'm moving to L.A. next month if you are trying to get tired of that place by September 1st?  I can make sandwiches super fast, play bass, roll cigarettes real well (I will need a smoke break every 30 minutes but I can be fast about it), make good coffee (only available iced, need 24 hours advanced notice)…let's see…uh, make half-assed attempts at making Excel do stuff?
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Post by: theinevitable on July 22, 2015, 12:05:03 pm
The goal here is to meet one of the powerful 30-somethings before they get to the husband and kids part. Or maybe when they're an increasingly powerful 20-something.

This woman at work is head of the planning department at our office, and daaaaaamn.

(Date was not great, as if that's news worth reporting.)

(girl, you're a hot 20-something with an entry-level job now, but I can see the moderately powerful 30-something with kids you have the power to become)
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Post by: KeithHernandez on July 23, 2015, 12:18:23 am
Goddam FormerMet, that is a perfectly cromulent list of attributes for what you want to do as well.

I've gotten more comfortable with smilies, so…

 :)
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Post by: KeithHernandez on July 26, 2015, 02:25:04 pm
Woke up early to walk all 14000 feet above the world and shit
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Post by: theinevitable on July 30, 2015, 02:16:38 am
Ran to catch the train, caught the train, it was the wrong train. Express train to the Jersey Shore, no in-between stops. It made me feel better that there were 7 other people on the train with me who made the same mistake. You'd think if you were going to switch around the train schedule you would put up some signs or make an announcement before the train started moving or something. Or, and this is gonna sound crazy, put a sign somewhere on the train that says where it is going.

St Louis tomorrow. And today I agreed to work a few hours or 1 day per week max during the school year at my NYC job, still unpaid but I think it's worth it if I can work from home and don't have to take the train in more than once a month or something.
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Post by: wombat on July 30, 2015, 12:49:31 pm
You left out the best/worst part of this story, you mentioned on Twitter that you told someone else it was the wrong train and they got on too. Awkward!
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Post by: theinevitable on July 30, 2015, 02:58:37 pm
Yeah, that was extremely awkward, but I made eye contact with him when we realized what had happened and he shrugged and smiled.
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Post by: AugustWest on July 30, 2015, 04:12:00 pm
I am going to get increasingly sarcastic via twitter if this goes on.

Not that!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 30, 2015, 05:46:50 pm
Ran to catch the train, caught the train, it was the wrong train. Express train to the Jersey Shore, no in-between stops.

Did you then hang out at the shore for the day, as long as you were there?
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Post by: pmcd9 on July 30, 2015, 08:02:55 pm
This is an OK thing. I am consistently surprised how many people just can't make Excel dance when they shoot their gun.

I can't make Excel dance, but I've never really tried very hard.

Also, congratulations on not making the news.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 05, 2015, 06:05:44 pm
Today I got introduced by the politician I work for to someone as "ahmed, from my office, I think you've met." The guy looked confused, because Ahmed is my 30-something boss (also a short, chubby, bald middle-eastern man). She also told me she's lived in NYC her entire life and has only been to New Jersey 5 or 6 times.

(She is awesome though, I am so charmed by her.)

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Post by: theinevitable on August 06, 2015, 02:31:21 am
Wombat, today another person told me I should pursue a PhD, and this time it was only tempting for a few minutes because I thought about all of the things you have said about it. My conclusion is that, sure, in a world where I had infinite time and money I would love to do it. I think maybe if I discovered I never had to do a job again that would be the first thing I did. But only in that condition-- one where I could walk away at any time.

I do not want to dedicate the rest of my life to doing one thing. And I sure as heck don't want to spend the rest of my days in some college town.

Today I did research for this giant, enormous, many-year long project they want me to do some super-preliminary research for. I spent all day reading schedules of public meetings and summaries of citizen complaints. Damn, people are crazy. My favorites:

1. Why are you relying on building better subway stations and roadways, when you could build a trolley system?
2. Obviously any market-rate housing built is going to be luxury, because that's all you can build in Manhattan anymore. But (this was in 2008) the market is going down, isn't it true that no one will buy it? Won't they just build that fancy housing and fail to sell it?
3. The public school curriculum in Harlem needs to stay the same, I don't care what you people say!
4. You need to pass a law that all real estate transactions must be approved by city council, or by the neighborhood board
5. you need to pass a law that guarantees jobs to people in my neighborhood

The answer to almost all of these was "ma'am/sir this meeting is about height restrictions on apartment buildings." So yes, real life is just like Parks and Recreation.

#2 is especially perfect, because I was trying to explain to some friends the other day how weird some people's ideas are about how real estate works.
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Post by: wombat on August 06, 2015, 02:46:55 am
Inev I think you are sensible enough that you would have figured that stuff out on your own, but I am very glad to have helped.
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Post by: AugustWest on August 06, 2015, 01:03:30 pm
So yes, real life is just like Parks and Recreation.


After 20 years in state government, I feel comfortable in saying that real life is even weirder than P&R.  I really didn't watch much of P&R, good as it is, because it's just too realistic.
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Post by: AugustWest on August 07, 2015, 03:41:19 pm
(https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQXsYQgw_kCoT5pzLlvuagH8UJbCoPjDZqGQkkr1W9N2-mGu5cB)
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 07, 2015, 05:14:35 pm
In Houston, if the rich want it, the rich get it. The poor must step aside.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 07, 2015, 08:42:59 pm
That tension is nuts at my job. No matter how pro-egalitarian voters/politicians might be in NYC, market forces there are insane. There is also legislation at the state level that limits what the city can do about certain things, like rent regulation (not to mention conflicting information about whether that kind of policy even works).

It brings me so much happiness that the carnitas recipe I make has become a permanent part of the rotation in multiple branches of my family. And they know this, so they tell me every time they make it. Sure, this is egotistical, I didn't even make up the recipe... but there are worse vices.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 08, 2015, 02:38:30 pm
I started getting weird Tinder messages lately, and I was not sure why. Just checked my profile and at some point I changed it to say "7'8, I have 6 dogs and cats (each). Instagram: Tall_Dog_Haver." I do not remember doing this.

The past few days this thing has been happening where I get home from work and I feel... almost drunk. I eat dinner and operate the rest of the night in slight confusion.

Maybe meatballs with fried cabbage combines to create a psychedelic compound.
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Post by: wombat on August 08, 2015, 07:28:19 pm
Sounds like someone left their phone lying around while they were logged into the app and had a funny joke played on them.
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 09, 2015, 11:10:04 pm
Do you like to pour wine along your peepee?
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Post by: theinevitable on August 10, 2015, 02:25:26 am
I do not know how to say this without it being whiny, but have not had enough social interaction recently that someone could have pulled that off.

Also, "tall_dog_haver" is 100% a joke I would make. I think it is a riff on a twitter thing.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on August 10, 2015, 03:53:48 pm
I have complained previously about the excess of gift-giving in our extended family at Christmas time. And now it's not just Christmas. My mom brought down the rope hammock she's had since I was a kid, and a stand for it. Which I should be really appreciative of, I know. But it's also another goddamn THING I have to find room for in my house, and I have this big frickin' metal stand in my yard that I have to move around when I mow the lawn.

I just about had a breakdown Saturday, when I was trying to diagnose a plumbing problem, and the amount of goddamned crap that we never use that I had to move in order to look at the pipes. Personally I am going to look into unloading some of my unused crap via eBay or Craigslist, and maybe that'll inspire the missus and/or the kids to do something similar.

But it got me thinking. I would really love to tell the extended fam, "We do not want THINGS as gifts. What would be really great would be, say, a Hilton hotels gift card. So when we want to go to California or wherever, that would help make that happen." Not sure how that would be received.
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Post by: wombat on August 10, 2015, 04:34:45 pm
I feel like that is just like asking for money, and there are definitely people who find that offensive. Of course you could say "let's stop exchanging things, the best gift you could give is coming to visit and doing things together" but I get the feeling you'd like that even less.

I feel like this is one of those things where you can't control other people, you can only control your reaction to them. Maybe your best bet is to accept the stuff nicely and then have a yard sale once in a while.
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Post by: AugustWest on August 10, 2015, 05:23:53 pm
If you're feeling less charitable, Craigslist or consigment stores are always an option.
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Post by: AugustWest on August 10, 2015, 06:53:13 pm
For stuff of a more than a nominal value I agree with the EggMan. You get to meet interesting people that way.


There's also really cool stuff in consignment stores, sometimes.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 11, 2015, 01:45:12 am
my parents do that thing. Way too many presents. It is getting more and more awkward as other family members retire or get old enough that they don't get to say "my mommy got you something." Whenever people try to shift it towards "let's follow x system so there are less presents" it somehow turns into even more presents. My parents are definitely doing it from a loving angle but I don't see how they can not realize how uncomfortable it makes people in the family who make less money than them.

I am trying hard to accept their present-love by coming up with stuff I want that they can buy me for holidays. Aren't I a great son?

I think I inherited the thing where what makes me feel the best is giving. But trying to channel my personal version towards doing rather than buying.


Got a notice from school that I have not paid my tuition for the upcoming year, because for some reason my student loans did not go through. Now I am fiddling around on this government website and it's telling me I have never applied for loans before. That doesn't seem right.

Immediate update: accidentally submitted duplicate loan requests. D'oh.
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Post by: wombat on August 11, 2015, 03:50:43 pm
Today I'm gonna sign a book contract. Not the book I wanted to write, or even the same book my co-author and I initially wanted to write together, but it's a book. So I can put off looking for a real job, which was what I said I'd have to do if I didn't sell a book this year.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 11, 2015, 03:56:01 pm
Congrats on not having to apply to jobs!

Today my punishment for complaining about how planners don't know how to talk to the public... is being told my report is illegible to anyone who is not a planner. (Also told to revise it in a way that I can't really do without redoing the research that took me like a month to do... in the next 2 days.)

I don't know if I buy the criticism, though, because as a planner I don't know anything about building permits either.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 13, 2015, 08:06:59 pm
Rewrote report with really pulpy newspaper-style sentences. I did not say "New Yorkers are being terrorized... by building permits" but came close.

Favorite tidbit: one developer bought a house across the street from a Department of Building commissioner and drove him to work every day. That's the best bribe I've ever heard of.

Last day working in NYC (until I return for real one day), celebrated with a long lunch. Ate dumplings and drank coke in a park, very satisfying. The $1.25 dumpling place is much better than the $1.00 place, I guess you really do get what you pay for. I think my baseline was low enough that I have eaten more dumplings in the last 3 months than my entire life up to now.
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 14, 2015, 02:50:37 am
that's pretty cheap dumplings.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 14, 2015, 01:04:38 pm
yup, 8 dumplings and a coke for $3.50 is the good life.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 14, 2015, 05:57:40 pm
Yeah, 4 dumplings is plenty, 8 is a lot, and plus a coke is ridiculous. But they are so good and I have limited willpower. I have mostly cut out the soda, but spicy food (like these dumplings once I dip them in sauce) makes me crave it.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 14, 2015, 08:12:11 pm
Also both spicy food and sugary things make me feel like I'm going to burp out chunks of my body, so I probably need to cool it with the dumplings.
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 16, 2015, 12:59:09 pm
yup, 8 dumplings and a coke for $3.50 is the good life.

When you factor in that it's New York City it's an even better deal. But NYC is weird that way. Everything is ridiculously expensive, but then there are these .99 cent pizza places on nearly every corner.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 19, 2015, 08:56:14 pm
Today in the annals of inev being a psycho:

I had to cancel social plans with a friend and she only responded "dude, boooooo, wtf!" and then did not read/respond to my further facebook messages. Spent all day thinking she was very mad at me and trying to decide whether I was the bad guy here. Turns out... some people just don't check their facebook constantly like I do. "No worries dude see you soon."

Very glad I have at least matured past the point of sending more messages once I start getting anxious about stuff like that. No matter how worried I am, I know that more messages than "I'm sorry, I hope we can reschedule soon." will only make me seem crazy.
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 27, 2015, 05:37:56 am
Goddammit I'm tired of being sick and plus doctor man called me and said they want to do more pictures of a lung because they can't tell if I have the angriest bronchial tube ever or if it's an equally pissed off blood vessel. The latter one would be not good.

You're operating at a very high level for someone who is about to die.
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Post by: wombat on August 27, 2015, 11:58:54 pm
How's it going with the lung?
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Post by: theinevitable on August 28, 2015, 12:15:22 am
Subletter moved out, he was a great roommate all summer but come to find out he busted a window. Apparently he got locked out and didn't want to wake us up, so he pried open the screen somehow and climbed in. So the screen was totally off its tracks and the bottom part (where the little doo-hickeys are that lock it in place) was all bent and wouldn't fit.

It turns out when you are as averse to confrontation as me, it is a great motivator to figure out how to fix something. Some things got bent around and clamped and squeezed and now the window functions.

When you come from a family that gets a little nervous about the idea of changing their own tire, fixing things is very satisfying. It's like I'm some kind of mystical wizard who can save money by understanding what a screwdriver is. (joking here guys, I'm sure someone in my family has changed a tire)
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Post by: AugustWest on August 28, 2015, 03:37:11 pm
Good job, dude.

Let me tell you, you never get into a project without having that little "what if I fuck it up" thought. Getting over it and doing a thing is bitchin' so enjoy your "I accomplished a minor thing and feel good about it" moment, because you should. Doing shit...IS...SO...RAD.



A-men!  I've spent the last 30 years gradually tackling bigger and bigger projects, and you never do completely get rid of that "what if I fuck it up" thought.  And in fact, my projects do have some tiny little fuckups that only I notice.  But there's something about doing a job yourself that gives you a certain pride of ownership.  Even little maintenance things or minor repairs.  Going from  "Hey, I can take this apart and fix it," to a working gizmo provides such a satisfying feeling of accomplishment.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 28, 2015, 07:01:51 pm
That is really tough for me too.

Update: the dollar dumpling place got shut down due to excessive rats and roaches. Uhhh, what about the $1.25 dumpling place, they're probably fine right?
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Post by: wombat on August 28, 2015, 07:22:46 pm
Are they nearby? Then there are two possibilities: A, they spend that extra .25 on the exterminator, B, they've got all the same rats and roaches and it's just that the inspector hasn't been by lately.
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 28, 2015, 08:19:31 pm
Are they nearby? Then there are two possibilities: A, they spend that extra .25 on the exterminator, B, they've got all the same rats and roaches and it's just that the inspector hasn't been by lately.

C, that .25 pays off the inspector.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 28, 2015, 10:30:02 pm
Well, I think the closure was due to a combination of the actual roaches and roach-friendly food storage habits. I guess I do not mind roaches existing in an area, provided the food is not interacting with them. Is that foolish? Do they send disease/ickiness spores through the air?

The restaurants are two blocks apart.

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Post by: wombat on August 28, 2015, 11:04:26 pm
Ha, Paul is right about option C.

I think roaches have to walk on your food to spread disease, but you can be allergic to them through the air.

I'm having trouble understanding what the internet is telling me about the home range of rats because everyone wants to use measurements like "square meters" instead of sensible ones like "city blocks". But really, it is just a matter of curiosity to me whether they would be the same rats. In practical terms, you are in New York, there are rats everywhere, it's also just a question of whether they are walking on your food or not.

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Post by: theinevitable on August 29, 2015, 05:44:27 am
Went on a nice date with a sassy lady today. She lives right by a state park with a name that is pronounced in a surprising way, after a supposed native name for the area. "Kee- seh - kwah - keh." Wanna guess how that's spelled?

CHEESEQUAKE STATE PARK
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 29, 2015, 10:58:07 am

CHEESEQUAKE STATE PARK


That is awesome! I hope it's not gauche to pronounce it the way it's spelled?
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Post by: wombat on August 29, 2015, 12:30:05 pm
I don't care if it's gauche. If it's wrong I don't want to be right.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 30, 2015, 05:14:52 am
Today I went to Asbury Park and walked around on the beach and the boardwalk. Ate some ice cream, drank some coffee, stared at some nice old buildings. It has been a while since I have been around so many people in bikinis. And dudes sunbathing, is that a thing? I guess that is literally a Jersey Shore stereotype, very tan muscley men.
For some reason that town is really "punk" in a strange way.

When did it become a thing that "punk" people are into kitschy 50s stuff? Like punk guys with t-shirts with pinup girls on them, women dressing to look like Bettie Page, whatever. It has definitely been going on as long as I have been aware of punk scenes, but like, whyyyyy.

I do not like it.

I also walked far enough down the beach that I got to Ocean Grove, which is an adorable tiny beachside town that is pretty much centered around a giant church. I spent 2 weeks there in middle school and went to Bible school every morning with my friend and his very religious family. It was weird seeing that town again something like 14 years later. That vacation was the first time I hung out someplace where you could walk/bike everywhere you needed to go, and I remember being really impressed by that.

School starts tuesday. And then Friday I am taking the train up and house/cat sitting for my friends who live in NYC, which will be great for Labor Day Weekend.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 01, 2015, 01:18:12 pm
How bout this pile of deep-fried swimming things I had last week.

(http://www.bigfool.com/pix/ellas.jpg)
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Post by: AugustWest on September 01, 2015, 02:52:10 pm
That looks tasty as all get out.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 01, 2015, 05:35:26 pm
We like crepe myrtles and have several.  They're pretty tough, cause I keep hitting one with the mower and it's still with us.
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Post by: wombat on September 01, 2015, 06:16:05 pm
I am not a fan of the crape myrtle but I learned that the Japanese name means monkey-slip, and the story is that's because the trunk is slippery and monkeys fall down when they try to climb it. Too good to fact-check and I try to think of how amusing that is when I see a garish bright pink one.
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Post by: wombat on September 01, 2015, 07:27:01 pm
From my experience with the garish pink ones my neighbors on both sides planted in places that shade my flowerbeds, hella fast growing indeed.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 02, 2015, 03:44:06 pm
Second day of classes, half my classes still haven't posted a syllabus or what books we need to buy. Of the two that did, one informed us the class will only meet every other week.

Meanwhile: Is it possible I have 2 copies of every single song in my iTunes library? Hmmm. I am just imagining an outcome where I delete what I think are duplicates and all my music disappears.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 02, 2015, 04:55:29 pm
Yeah, similar stuff going on here in re: trains. Thankfully my train commuting days are over... until I graduate and commute for the rest of my life.

I am running a script to compare the files in the two folders, and yeah it looks like everything in one folder is a duplicate.

At the same time, I learned that if you go to file>print from a playlist in itunes, it will make you a neat little CD insert with song titles and a mosaic of album art. Cool. Now to figure out how to game it to pick certain album art so that it doesn't put a lady butt on the cover of this cd for my cousin with an uptight mom.

The other computer thing I am struggling with right now: all this time I thought computers were "good at math," and now I learn they can barely handle fractions?  (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Floating_point#Accuracy_problems)I have been trying for many hours to get Python to solve this simple arithmetic problem, and I am having to do it in increasingly convoluted and silly ways because of how tiny inaccuracies get huge when multiplied by huge numbers.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 02, 2015, 07:46:48 pm
Ye gods. We just went to a "consumer-driven" health plan, which by my understanding means "you are incentivized to not go to the doctor." Sounds like you have the same plan!
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 04, 2015, 09:25:30 pm
I don't care if it's gauche. If it's wrong I don't want to be right.

Church!
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 04, 2015, 09:26:27 pm
When did it become a thing that "punk" people are into kitschy 50s stuff?

Since, like, forever!
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 04, 2015, 09:31:16 pm
I am running a script to compare the files in the two folders.

I know how this story ended and seeing your optimism here is pretty cute.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 06, 2015, 04:05:06 pm
Housesitting in a swanky NYC neighborhood for the weekend, and realizing there are certain parts of the city I would definitely not enjoy living. Places I could not afford to live to begin with. Maybe the kind of stuff I like only exists in relatively cheap places.

Eating so much good food. Walking so much.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 07, 2015, 11:18:31 pm
Went on a date with a hip designer girl who lives in Ridgewood, Queens and did not know the Parquet Courts have a song about her neighborhood. I don't know what to believe any more.
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 08, 2015, 07:50:12 am
I don't know what to believe any more.

You believe if fuck*ng hip designer girls who love in Ridgewood, Queens?
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Post by: AugustWest on September 09, 2015, 12:54:06 am
Man, my ice maker is bust and it's going to be a huge pain in the ass to fix it.  The tubing is leaking at a junction on the bottom of the refrigerator.  To get to it, the fridge has got to be either on its back or significantly tilted, necessitating and complete fridge/freezer emptying.  I'll just buy ice for a while.  Or drink things lukewarm.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 09, 2015, 02:23:52 am
Ice makers, and more specifically those ice makers that are connected to the front of the fridge and also dispense almost-ice-cold water, are one of the true luxuries in life. My last apartment in St Louis had one and ever since I have felt like a chump.

That fridge was also the origin of a moment of inebriated humor that we repeated for the rest of the time we lived together:

"Man, I love this ice dispenser, but it takes so fuckin' long for the ice to come out!"
"...the fridge is our mother. She nourishes us, and teaches us patience."
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Post by: theinevitable on September 11, 2015, 03:33:26 am
Realizing I still have a chance to drop this class I am iffy about and take "Public Sector Finance" instead of a wishy-washy class.

I also realize in this moment that it is a little infantilizing, but I am glad that I can't change my class registration between 11pm and 9am. I am full of beer and pizza at the moment. And you know how pizza makes us make rash decisions.

(rash decisions like signing up like a public finance class, oh the horror)
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Post by: theinevitable on September 11, 2015, 08:25:46 pm
Got into that class. I am happy about it.

Got hopped up on coffee and invited a bunch of classmates to my roommates/my BBQ tomorrow. If I'm going to spend all day making pulled pork and pies and salsa I may as well see some people I like there. Kind of last minute but oh well, come eat my fatty foods.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 13, 2015, 02:34:44 am
...none of them came to eat my foods.

One cool girl came and brought her incredibly cute friend. They did not eat and left early. All of my roommates' friends came. Blah.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 14, 2015, 05:10:07 pm
Yeah, the carnitas breakfast burritos I have been eating are nicely salted by my tears.

This is total justification to make myself feel better, but it was kind of nice to feel no remorse about checking out of the party as soon as I got bored. Watched some Trailer Park Boys and drank beer and ate a big slice of the pie I made.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 14, 2015, 06:06:14 pm
Eat you some paprika and you got the base of a hella tasty seasoning there.

Smoked paprika, please.
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Post by: jaydub on September 14, 2015, 06:46:12 pm
I'm coming across SO many recipes using smoked paprika.  Is that the hipster spice du jour?  I certainly can't find it at Safeway.  Maybe whole foods.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 14, 2015, 08:22:10 pm
I'm coming across SO many recipes using smoked paprika.  Is that the hipster spice du jour?  I certainly can't find it at Safeway.  Maybe whole foods.

Heck, it's the hipster spice of six months ago. It's all about ras-el-hanout, now. But you should be able to snag smoked paprika at Whole Foods, definitely Penzey's if you have one of those, probably Williams-Sonoma if you don't mind paying twice as much as you should. It is good stuff. I have actually seen it under the McCormick label but they may not distribute it everywhere.
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Post by: jaydub on September 14, 2015, 09:14:03 pm
Grounds for a home invasion ribs robbery
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Post by: theinevitable on September 14, 2015, 11:59:16 pm
Quote
hipster spice
I was annoyed by this phrase, but guess what I just called a grocery store asking for over the weekend...

sometimes a guy just wants a nice middle eastern spice blend.
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 15, 2015, 12:01:26 am
...none of them came to eat my foods.

One cool girl came and brought her incredibly cute friend. They did not eat and left early. All of my roommates' friends came. Blah.

Pity can?
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 15, 2015, 12:03:05 am
I have a bad case of Resting Angry-Asshole Face.

To be fair, you also frequently have active angry-asshole face as well.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 15, 2015, 12:43:31 pm
Whadda ya think about that as a starting point for beef ribs slow smoked for about 8 hours?

Why are you even asking us that?!? Go! Do!
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on September 15, 2015, 05:39:29 pm
Brown liquor + Pork = Good Weekend
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Post by: theinevitable on September 17, 2015, 05:36:09 am
Roommates saw/heard a penis the other day, freaked out, called the landlord. He sent an exterminator who said he didn't see any evidence of rodents in our apartment, and maybe one snuck in to check things out from elsewhere. He suspected they may be in the basement.

Just walked into the kitchen and saw a tail sticking out from under the sink. I don't think mice have tails like that. That is a fuck*ng enormous rat.

Fuck.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 17, 2015, 12:52:03 pm
Living out in the country, we get rodents occasionally, especially when it starts to get cold.  Glue traps are kind of cruel, but work well for mice.  Old fashioned Victor snap traps take care of rats.  Watch your damn fingers though.
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Post by: wombat on September 17, 2015, 03:56:15 pm
Great exterminator, if he could miss a whole rat.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 17, 2015, 04:38:57 pm
Well, I think the rat is coming up through some hole somewhere, from the basement.
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Post by: wombat on September 17, 2015, 05:43:45 pm
They leave evidence though, unless literally all it's doing is sticking its head out to say hi and leaving. Aside from droppings they leave smudges along the walls where they run and you might see places where they chew on stuff.

Rats are really interesting animals and I have a lot of respect for them in the abstract, but damn if seeing one nearby does not make me totally panic. We've had them in the yard sometimes when big construction projects nearby have displaced them. If there was one in the house, I might just move the hell out.
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Post by: wombat on September 17, 2015, 06:36:58 pm
To be fair, I used to kill mice with my bare hands for part of my living. So I do have some rodent murdering cred. But only the small ones.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 17, 2015, 06:52:38 pm
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Rats are really interesting animals and I have a lot of respect for them in the abstract, but damn if seeing one nearby does not make me totally panic. We've had them in the yard sometimes when big construction projects nearby have displaced them. If there was one in the house, I might just move the hell out.

Yeah, when I have seen rats walking around in NYC (eating food on the subway tracks, popping out of garbage cans) I only think "huh what an interesting animal!" But seeing one when my guard is down, inside my house, is too much.

Have I told you guys my punk band name, Rat Park? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rat_Park) And/or "Rats in the Park." This is now the top choice because I decided "Vacancy Decontrol" is too similar to the band "SS Decontrol."
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on September 18, 2015, 06:39:03 pm
I vote for the palms.

(Obviously no point in voting for "just chill.")
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on September 19, 2015, 12:46:31 pm
Seriously, though, I forgot that much beer?

Troubling...
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on September 19, 2015, 12:47:52 pm
How much beer do you have to drink to forget that much beer?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 21, 2015, 12:59:02 pm
Seriously, though, I forgot that much beer?

Was it crappy beer? Easy to forget that, at least for me. A while back I was rummaging through the fridge and went "Why is there a Heineken in here?!?"
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on September 26, 2015, 02:45:06 am
Feeling real weird about this "everyone thinks you're gay" thing, you guys.

This group of cute women in my program were SHOCKED that I do not date dudes. What?

Then they started listing the things that made them think this, and, damn... I guess fuck acting "straight." I'm not going to stop talking about feelings, or stop talking excitedly about the things I'm excited about, or stop telling funny stories with funny voices and facial expressions.

Also enjoyable that they said I must be gay because I am not openly trying to fuck any of them.
First: oh, you can't tell that I'm trying to sleep with you?
second: wait, is every other guy trying to sleep with you every minute of every day?

They also mentioned my common conversation topics. I guess in trying to avoid talking to cute girls about d&d, anime, and computer programming I somehow turned into a guy who talks about clothes, cooking, and feelings. Yeesh.

And to be clear, these were not some lame homophobic boring girls. I think that's part of it. They were like "oh, Dan might not be stereotypically gay, but you can totally tell that he likes guys." Even the lesbian girl thought this.

Come on people. Hove some dignity.

(Clearly I need to find some way to show interest in women a little more openly, because apparently I am succeeding too well at trying not to stare at their chest/butt. Even before this conversation it has become apparent to me that women cannot tell when I am interested in them, even when I think we are flirting.)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on September 26, 2015, 06:13:40 pm
Also, there are fuck*ng enormous flies all over my house, and I can't help but think this is related to our landlord putting out penistraps but not telling us where they are.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on September 27, 2015, 10:19:03 am
You can tell them that even though you're gay you would still put it in their butt in a pinch.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on September 27, 2015, 08:53:16 pm
Yeah, I mentioned this to another friend in the program and she said "oh, when I saw 4 cute girls following you around at every school event, it did not occur to me that they could think you were gay. I thought it was pretty clear what was going on."

I did decide that I was going to hit on one of them a little obviously. That went OK.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: side_show on September 27, 2015, 09:49:08 pm
Maybe it's the c*ck traps all over your apartment that makes ladies think this? 
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on September 27, 2015, 10:10:12 pm
Maybe it's the c*ck traps all over your apartment that makes ladies think this?

If the board crashes and never comes back right now, at least we know we went out on a high point.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on September 27, 2015, 11:36:12 pm
Related to penis traps:

My friend was recently very confused, and making me confused, because we were chatting and she said she couldn't understand what I'm learning about in class. I was a little concerned that she did not know what the "Great Recession" was.

And then we figured out that she had installed a silly browser extension that changes various economics buzzwords to "snake people" phrases (like about how it is only natural to eat inferior people, etc), and every time I typed "great recession" she was seeing "The Time of Great Shedding."
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on October 03, 2015, 02:34:19 am
Thinking about the whole "you don't act interested when you talk to women" thing, I realized that at some point I stopped trying to be funny when I talk to girls I like. WTF? I can give a presentation in front of 30 people and have them laughing, but when I go on a date I'm like "so, what do you do? Oh, that sounds interesting." Lighten up, dude.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on October 06, 2015, 11:37:05 pm
The thing I worried about all summer happened: they hired a new guy who is actually a data person, and he came into the meeting Monday and started asking questions that made it apparent that I did several things wrong all summer. He knows his shit and it was horrifying. I knew I didn't know what I was doing, but nobody was answering my questions so I just kept going.

Well, OK, I did the statistics and stuff right. It was more about the sources I used and things like that. Still a lot of work to redo.

I am going to look at this as, I get to keep getting paid a ridiculous amount of money to practice my data skillz.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on October 07, 2015, 02:15:37 am
I'm glad because I talked to my dad and mentioned this, and his advice was basically what I am already doing-- mention to the guy that I'm glad he caught those errors, and try to hoover up as much of his brain as I can.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: KeithHernandez on October 07, 2015, 03:11:51 am
Yo man, I can do those things.  Those ones about the words and acronyms I don't understand.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on October 07, 2015, 05:38:02 am
Really I just need to find a way to get a focused workflow going. Right now it's a lot of


With a lot of interspersed "look to see if anyone has emailed or texted me" and that kind of crap. I may need to start doing work in a lead-lined room, "self-control" isn't cutting it. (Although I just spent a solid hour solving this programming puzzle without thinking about looking at my phone or even looking at the clock, so clearly the control can be there when it wants to be.)

I think this job has also taught me a lot about excel. Fixing this error on the stuff I did early in the summer is painful, but as I move towards the late-summer sheets it's more of a "paste the correct data into the input column and watch everything fix itself." That is satisfying.
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Post by: wombat on October 07, 2015, 02:43:06 pm
I don't understand how that isn't a focussed workflow. There is no "post on messageboard" or "check twitter" anywhere in it so what is the problem?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on October 12, 2015, 03:42:18 am
Writing a paper where I have to pick a neighborhood to do a short profile of. I picked the Tenderloin, in San Francisco.

...the way people write about poor neighborhoods is totally fucked. This is obviously a neighborhood with major problems, but every single article I have read from SF Chronicle has made weird, flippant jokes about "crackheads" and bum fights and Thunderbird. "no, the new museum in the Tenderloin is not a used syringe museum." What the fuck? Even articles about good things happening (new public school, immigrant businesses thriving, whatever) have to make some little aside comment about homeless people peeing on the sidewalk.

...until the last 7 years, when suddenly they want to talk about how "gritty" and "authentic" it is, and how tech companies are really cleaning up the neighborhood. Article calling hipster residents "urban pioneers" right next to articles about the immigrants, day laborers, and kids who have been there all along. Can you be a "pioneer" in one of the densest neighborhoods in one of the densest cities in the US? I guess only if the people who were there before aren't "people," right?

I am all for not sugar-coating it. It's a dangerous neighborhood with open-air drug dealing, lots of violent crime, and yeah there are homeless people sleeping on the sidewalks. But the tone is just too flipping much.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 12, 2015, 08:05:37 am
calling hipster residents "urban pioneers"

That analogy is perfect. The crackheads, etc... are the Indians of the neighborhood that need to be fended off and driven away in order to establish a new settlement for the white man.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 13, 2015, 01:26:12 am
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That analogy is perfect. The crackheads, etc... are the Indians of the neighborhood that need to be fended off and driven away in order to establish a new settlement for the white man.

And just like the original pioneers, it is incredibly racist.

(it is not racist to move into a poor neighborhood, but it is racist to do it and call yourself a "pioneer.")

(Although I guess if you are using the term "pioneer" to mean someone who is entering a tough place and making it their own while maybe displacing others who were there first, I guess that is... fine)
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 13, 2015, 10:33:45 pm
(it is not racist to move into a poor neighborhood, but it is racist to do it and call yourself a "pioneer.")

I assumed the term was being used in a derogatory manner. People are actually self identifying as urban pioneers?
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Post by: theinevitable on October 14, 2015, 12:16:12 am
Yes. And being called that by the newspaper approvingly.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 15, 2015, 03:41:16 am
On re-reading it seemed like all CW Nevius these days. A google search for "CW Nevius Hate" led to a lot of people talking about what a shit he is. Still, no excuse for giving that kind of stuff a platform.

San Francisco is high on my list of "ugh why does everyone want to live there, I wish fewer people wanted to live there so I could live there."
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2015, 05:25:37 am
Another prof told me to get a PhD. Ugh.
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Post by: wombat on October 21, 2015, 12:24:52 pm
Another prof told me to get a PhD. Ugh.

You have to know how to interpret this. It's a compliment, it means they think you are smart and good at this. (Rather than meaning, say, "you'll never make it in the real world.") But their experience of life is so limited that when they want to say something nice about your abilities and how far they think you could go, they can't think of anything else.

So don't take it seriously as actual, like, instructions.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2015, 03:07:20 pm
This time it kind of was literal. Because the conversation was about how I am not really having a satisfying time at school, except for when I have open-ended research projects where I spend months reading interesting books and then write large papers about the ideas in them. Which is not what urban planners do.

But, again, I realized this summer that I do enjoy actual urban planning. I just don't enjoy some of my classes about it very much, for some reason.

It didn't help that she kept pointing out really cool sounding theory classes I could take in other departments to "see what it would be like."

It was a good meeting overall, though, because I have kind of wondered since I started working for her (this woman is my boss) whether she is disappointed in my work. I guess she is not.
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Post by: wombat on October 21, 2015, 04:29:26 pm
Well they always mean it literally. It's just usually bad advice so you should not take it as advice.

To jump from "I like doing research and writing large papers" to "Oh, do a PhD, that's exactly what that is" is basically career counseling malpractice. Did you discuss what kinds of jobs it would open up to you and what it might make you seem overqualified for? Did you discuss the income differential between people with masters degrees and doctorates? Do PhDs in your field get support or would you have to pay tuition? Can you afford to forgo several more years of income?

If you didn't discuss any of this, it's not advice, it's a nice compliment. It's nice that she thinks you are smart and doing good work.

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Post by: wombat on October 21, 2015, 05:23:22 pm
And in this particular case, surely it would be better if the people who were making up PhD level theories in urban planning had some experience in planning some actual urbs first.

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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 21, 2015, 05:41:10 pm
The girls were having a don't-laugh contest last night. It was the oldest's turn to not laugh, and she was doing pretty well. "Ooh, let me try," I said.

I looked her square in the eye and said "FARTS."

Round over.

(Of course, this led to them saying "Farts!" to each other repeatedly on subsequent turns.)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2015, 11:23:45 pm
Yeah, definitely not getting a PhD unless I meet lots of people with PhDs doing cool things that are related but not in academia sometime soon.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 24, 2015, 02:26:58 am
Such is my legacy, apparently.

You could do worse.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 24, 2015, 06:34:51 pm
Worked til 11, then got drunk on rum and cream soda with the non-crazy roommate and watched Sunset Boulevard and ordered a new coffee grinder. Grad school life.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on October 26, 2015, 06:03:06 pm
Read my favorite article of the week...

http://kitchenette.jezebel.com/more-of-the-worlds-worst-restaurant-customers-part-2-1738471431
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Post by: theinevitable on October 26, 2015, 07:56:48 pm
I've probably said this recently, but any time I am feeling stressed at school I remember dealing with those people at work.

Since coming to grad school I have sometimes thought "geez the whole human race stinks" but never "I wish the planet would burn up in a nuclear apocalypse at this moment."
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Post by: theinevitable on October 28, 2015, 03:29:50 pm
Unfortunately urban planners work with the public pretty intensely. Hmm.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 02, 2015, 07:24:26 am
Two things.

In that first story, the pizza delivery robbery, could you really consider them as customers? I'm not sure that relationship had actually been established.

Secondly, I kinda have a little sympathy for the lady who couldn't get butter for her rice. What kind of bullshit restaurant doesn't have butter? And in the absence of butter, wanting to add back the beans seems reasonable to me. I wouldn't have acted like an ass about it, but I can understand her frustration.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 03, 2015, 04:53:32 am
I watched a really interesting video yesterday that was using woodworking with hand tools as a metaphor to explain a programming issue. Or rather, he was using it to make the point that the tools you use matter, because they change the way you look at the problem. He also had some interesting examples of how woodworkers in the pre machine age figured out how to make things come out correctly. Very cool stuff. He had a good line about some particular machine that is used for (something) with large boards, but can only handle boards up to a certain size. And how once you have learned to use this machine, when you have a project that requires even bigger boards your inclination is to try to find a bigger machine, while the guy using hand tools will look into methods to solve the problem with the tools he has.

Also the line "until you look at an ant colony under a microscope, you never realize how often ants burst into flames."

Signed up for classes for next semester, the final frontier. 3 out of 4 classes have the word "economics" in the title, although probably none of them would be recognizable as such to a-cap. I broke my streak, it's the first semester since freshman year of college that I will have to be at a class before 11am.
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Post by: AugustWest on November 03, 2015, 01:30:10 pm
Nice work!

And those kinds of weekends are why I refer to work as my resting place.

I hear you.  Boy do I hear you!
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Post by: AugustWest on November 03, 2015, 04:31:56 pm
Problem solving and how resources shape thought? That's all kinds of interesting stuff.

I thought I was pretty good at this stuff, but the last couple of years have really given me the masters course. I would have struggled to trim the noses on the rafters, but somewhere along the line I figured out that if you get the first one right you can use it as a template for the rest. Which leads to stuff like this:

(https://scontent-lax3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/12195773_911683295568444_8840043731350477429_n.jpg?oh=9e2d543d8203b11f0593f31a27628108&oe=56F9DC9E)

I took a trim piece and cut in the shape needed to nestle the rafter nose on the top plate while matching the roof angle and then used it to cut all the rafters identically. Bip Bang Boom Done.

(I also cut the template piece right, estimating the roof angle by eye, the first time. That's where practice comes in.)

A lot of times you need to sit down and walk through all your options, sometimes you need the right tool, sometimes you need the right process and sometimes you need to dick around with both.

After learning how to learn, learning how to problem solve is a prime reason Hu-Mans aren't still wriggling in the mud like base beasts.

(thanks EggMan)

This describes my home repair/improvement/construction experience so well.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 03, 2015, 04:34:54 pm
I was just organizing my bedroom a bit, and noticed that all of the sticky notes on my desk with tricky programming concepts on them are things that I now find really obvious and easy. Getting better at things is very satisfying. But I need to write new ones for the new stuff, of course.
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Post by: AugustWest on November 09, 2015, 03:29:47 pm
Jeepers fuck*ng crappy crap. I think I lost too much weight to survive the winter.

What the hell is this cold shit? It's like i lost a super power.

Don't say that!  I'm on a roll here and I want to keep losing. 
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Post by: theinevitable on November 10, 2015, 06:51:40 am
In my Community Development class we were talking about how homeowners who were underwater on their mortgages after 2008 always felt like it was their own personal failure, and I thought that sounded really sad, that people would blame themselves for something like that. Then later in the day I said something about working at a grocery store after college, and someone pointed out that I graduated at the pit of the worst job market in decades.

(Sticking around for 4 years was definitely a personal thing, but I think I'm better off for it. Maybe 3 years would have been enough.)


My laptop is slowly crapping out on me, and I looked at the numbers and figure out that if I get the cheapest MacBook it will have the same specs as my current laptop, but only 1/4 the hard drive space. Is that progress? (Yes, because its battery doesn't die after 2 hours and it weighs like 1/3 as much.)

Alternative is to get this beautiful sucker (http://www.dell.com/us/p/xps-13-9343-laptop/pd?oc=dncwt5128b) and run some variant of linux on it. I can't go back to windows.
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Post by: AugustWest on November 10, 2015, 01:40:48 pm
but only 1/4 the hard drive space.

I thought everything was on the cloud now anyway.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 15, 2015, 05:37:16 am
Spent all day at a comedy festival in NYC. Some funny stuff. But what I can't get out of my head is this incredible Italian sub I had for lunch. Capicola and prosciutto, perfectly crispy roll, mozz and sweet peppers and arugula. Holy shit. Probably the best sandwich I've ever eaten.

Also I saw a cute girl chug half a bottle of Heinz ketchup. So that was... somethin.
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Post by: wombat on November 16, 2015, 10:15:00 pm
What a cruel thing to do to a snake.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 16, 2015, 10:47:51 pm
Damn, my boss pulled some straight-up Office Space style stuff today, and I cannot tell if I am being a wimpy pushover with a red stapler, or a smart guy who knows not to push the issue when it's clear that his work was not satisfactory.

I have some sniffy feelings about this but I am going to process a little more. Trying to determine how to play this so that it is very clear that my intention is "you seemed unhappy with my work, since you reassigned several of my responsibilities to other people. Do you have any specific feedback about what I was doing wrong?"

"I tried to get feedback from you for months and you never gave it so I assumed I must be doing OK" should be apparent without being said out loud, I think.

(this is the lady who mere weeks ago was making affectionate faces and telling me to go for a PhD, so I don't know what the fuck.)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on November 17, 2015, 02:54:06 am
Speaking from experience, there are bosses that are so clueless that they don't understand that taking a task away from you sends the message that you were doing a bad job.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 17, 2015, 04:58:31 am
I have heard from several people that she does this-- you think everything's fine and one day you find out she thinks your work is shit. But I'm going to go see her tomorrow and see what's up.

I have considered that maybe in her mind what is going on is different from how it came across to me. We will see.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 18, 2015, 02:45:29 am
Wombat was right. She was surprised that I took this as a sign she did not like my work. She sees the new tasks assigned to people as an addition to the current project, and wasn't sure why not mentioning any of my work made me think that it was not going to continue.

(At least one coworker also thought this was a "Dan is doing a bad job" meeting, so it isn't just me.)
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Post by: theinevitable on November 20, 2015, 05:55:00 am
Had a very weird date experience.

So yesterday I went on a date with this primate biologist. She is smart as hell and funny. That was nice. We talked about central american monkeys.


And then today I got drinks with this other woman who was just... perfectly normal. cute. nice. Really good conversation, we were giggling because the booth behind us had two women who were talking about anal sex REALLY LOUDLY.

But at some point maybe an hour in I had this super bojack-y moment. "If I dated this woman, I would not make her happy." I could not recover from that. She was just too flipping genuine and sweet. Ugh.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 21, 2015, 09:13:47 pm
I had this super bojack-y moment.

Oh no!
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Post by: theinevitable on November 21, 2015, 10:12:25 pm
I told the biologist lady about the smart new guy at work, and how he has been grumpy because the boss told him he needs to integrate my work into his rather than the other way around.
She responded with a text that said "suck it, wunderkind."

Ding ding ding we have a winner.
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Post by: wombat on November 22, 2015, 12:37:47 am
Does this mean we'll get to hear more about central American monkeys?
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Post by: theinevitable on November 22, 2015, 02:25:05 am
If I have something to say about it, yes I think so.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on December 01, 2015, 01:48:00 am
Week between Xmas and New Years. Conveniently, Saturday to Saturday. Taking the week off.

Should we go to the beach, or stay home and do some day trips (into DC, up to Hershey Park for their Christmas stuff, hike in a state park, etc.)?

I seriously can't make up my mind. Going to the beach in the off-season would be a good excuse to sit around a beach house and do very little. It might be kind of weird, though, and I think the kids might get bored.
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Post by: wombat on December 03, 2015, 03:59:58 pm
Whoa, that is creepy.

I think if I saw a thing like that I'd assume it was police or something. Because wouldn't a criminal be more discreet? But that just shows my concept of criminals with guns is clearly way out of date.
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Post by: wombat on December 04, 2015, 01:46:20 pm
What it is, is the saddest thing.

I guess at least it doesn't really impact your quality of life negatively that you're not hanging out near trash cans.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 16, 2015, 05:31:47 pm
Done with my 3rd semester. One more to go.

Just like last year, the first day after I woke up early raring to go. It feels weird not to have anything to work on, so I made a stack of all the books I own that I haven't read and started on the one on top.

(well, OK, I put the one I wanted to read the most on top.)
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Post by: theinevitable on December 16, 2015, 07:32:32 pm
Damn.

Ever since I did a 2-week round of prilosec I can eat a single cookie or a moderately spicy curry meal without repercussions. This is how man was meant to live.

Also might have a hookup with a cool job in a large city in NJ for the spring. A classmate recommended me to his boss when his time was up (graduating early). So that was a nice compliment paired with some potential resume boosting.
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Post by: jaydub on December 16, 2015, 07:52:54 pm
Most desserts & pastries leave me feeling vaguely nauseous.  I like the occasional treat, but frankly I'd rather take in my discretionary calories as beer or other booze.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 20, 2015, 06:30:38 am
The thing I always dread finally happened: met a very nice girl at a party, talked for hours, at some point I casually kind of brushed her arm and she recoiled like I had revealed myself as the Ultimate Creep, made an awful face, and walked away. At that point I decided it was time to sleep in my own bed and left the party without speaking to anyone, rode home all the way to Jersey in silence.

I tend to think she got the worse end of the deal, is what feels bad about it.

Luckily she is a friend of a friend of a friend. Not someone I will ever see again.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 01, 2016, 11:31:07 am
When a freight train is connected to a line of cars, there is a little "give" in each connection. Just that inch or so that means that when the engine starts, it is only pulling itself for a brief moment, and then only pulling itself and one freight car, and then only itself and two, etc.

The same is true of braking. When the engine hits the brakes, it is only braking itself for a second, and then only itself and the car directly behind it, and so on. There is that tiny interval of time before the crushing weight of the entire train is hitting the engine.

What probably does not happen in real life is that the engineer applies the brakes, expecting that crushing moment, and instead just comes to a stop instantaneously. The freight got lost somewhere. Nothing is coming.

I am losing the metaphor but I guess the conductor might wake up a few hours later shaking in bed. Maybe you do not always know what you are hauling but it's disorienting to find it was nothing.

(I am consistently bad at imagining how much rejection will crush me. I am not sure why I imagined I would quickly be fine with getting rejected by my dearest friend. I wish I had said even one of the ridiculous things I had been turning over in my head for months, but I guess "I am deeply in love with you" got the job done.)
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 01, 2016, 12:10:17 pm
(I am consistently bad at imagining how much rejection will crush me. I am not sure why I imagined I would quickly be fine with getting rejected by my dearest friend. I wish I had said even one of the ridiculous things I had been turning over in my head for months, but I guess "I am deeply in love with you" got the job done.)

Oh dear...
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Post by: wombat on January 01, 2016, 01:50:44 pm
Sorry. Awesome metaphor though.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 01, 2016, 04:27:22 pm
I am not sure why I had to torture the metaphor so much when all I needed was "that moment when it feels fine and then the weight hits."

I know it feels different every time you fall for someone new, but this was a really big one.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 02, 2016, 12:50:29 am
Also, thanks guys.

The good news is that this has soured my trip enough that i no longer feel the urge to move back here. Which is probably healthy. I can come back in a few years maybe, but now is the time to try out a bigger pond.
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Post by: AugustWest on January 02, 2016, 04:48:48 am
Whoa.  Dang.  Sorry Inev.  Sucks to get shot down, but kudos to you for having the guts to tell her what you feel.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 02, 2016, 03:40:04 pm
Today I'm getting lunch with the first girl I ever told you guys about and her husband. I eventually got over her rejecting me and we still have a great friendship. Her husband is a little stiff for my taste but he's a good guy, and I shed a tear of happiness at their wedding. So this too will pass.

For the moment though, I am being a little distant (with the friend who rejected me on new year's ). So much of our friendship was based on me being overly attentive and trying to charm her. I guess it will find its level eventually. She is unfortunately the person I talk to the most, and that will probably change.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 04, 2016, 04:01:14 am
Well, she changed her FB picture to a picture i took of her, so that's nice.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 07, 2016, 01:47:10 am
Well, she changed her FB picture to a picture i took of her, so that's nice.

You've got that going for you, which is nice (https://youtu.be/X48G7Y0VWW4).
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Post by: theinevitable on January 07, 2016, 09:43:17 pm
Making some dumplings and the recipe said the closest thing to Chinese Ham in the US is Smithfield Jowl Bacon. I got some, and holy cow.... this is some dank bacon.

This jowl bacon and gouda on some homemade bread, damn.
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Post by: robocop on January 14, 2016, 01:15:27 am
Today my SO accidentally broke the Simpsons themed drinking glass that I've had for about 25 years. It was unlicensed, heavy, and undoubtedly full of that beautiful cancer-causing lead. It was the only thing I knew from how to drink water. The paint was worn, but I could still clearly make out a too-dumb-to-judge Homer as my unfortunate shirtless body stumbled toward it in the middle of the night. Now it lives in a thousand tiny shards, burrowed into the greying grout of the kitchen floor.

I feel more despair than when my pa passed a few years back.
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Post by: wombat on January 14, 2016, 02:15:30 am
Maybe not the saddest thing, but definitely sad.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 15, 2016, 12:04:10 am
Just got back from a few days visiting a friend in Portland-- no, the other one. Portland Maine. It's really cute, has great food, and the weather was not totally awful (28 degrees with 4 inches of snow is mild up there).

The inev report: every woman my age in Portland, Maine, has long hair in a bun, stylishly ugly glasses, and is wearing a lot of layers at all times. They all seemed like the kind of girl who would give well-executed homemade presents on holidays. This has been the inev report.

Also got a Loudon Wainwright III album for 5 bucks. My kinda town.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 15, 2016, 06:32:58 am
You gotta turn up the heat to get those layers to come off.
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Post by: robocop on January 15, 2016, 08:26:53 pm
Inev, hope you were watching out for D-Money, Smoothie, and Shifty.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 19, 2016, 01:26:57 am
Inev, hope you were watching out for D-Money, Smoothie, and Shifty.

Nice!
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Post by: robocop on January 19, 2016, 02:23:49 am
Flip switch = light goes on

There are many instances in my life where I'd expected and wanted this to happen, yet it didn't. I should be more thankful for the times that it does.

Then again, I was once thrown off of a ladder and across a set by touching the housing of an improperly grounded light, so my respect for electricity is primarily based around fear.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 19, 2016, 10:54:54 pm
I know that it is probably a pain in the ass, but figuring that kind of stuff out sounds like fun to me. I have said this before but lately I think I need a hobby where I build or fix things.

Just got an email about one of my classes being cancelled, and it's in a weird niche of graduation requirements where the pickings are slim. Hmm.

Also: was about to declare that this is my year of No More Online Dating and suddenly several cute ladies are interested in me at once.
One, though, said "this might be really weird, but would you be interested in going to a tour of philadelphia architectural history?"
Promising.

(Finally: interview this week for a cool internship for the spring, which is exciting)
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Post by: robocop on January 20, 2016, 12:47:41 am
I admire folks with technical knowledge. I can work wood and metal, but electricity is beyond me.
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Post by: AugustWest on January 20, 2016, 02:41:42 am
I know that it is probably a pain in the ass, but figuring that kind of stuff out sounds like fun to me.

You say that like they're mutually exclusive...
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Post by: AugustWest on January 20, 2016, 02:43:21 am
I admire folks with technical knowledge. I can work wood and metal, but electricity is beyond me.

The actual work isn't hard.  Knowing which wire to connect where can get a little complex, but doing the connecting isn't so bad.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 20, 2016, 05:03:58 pm
Hypothetical: suppose a big frickin' snowstorm is forecast for your town in a few days. A foot of snow or more. (Integral to this situation: you hate snow and being cold.)

Then let's suppose you had the opportunity to go to Florida for a week on the cheap. Would you get the fuck out of there before the snow starts falling, hopefully returning to clear streets and a somewhat normal life? Or would you want to stay home to make sure a tree doesn't fall on your house and your roof doesn't cave in (not to mention the possibility of being stuck longer in Florida if your home airport is closed due to snow)?

(Sadly, this is strictly a hypothetical. The big snowstorm part is real enough. I was looking at a last-minute airfares app yesterday and they had Orlando for $200 for a week's trip, leaving that night. This being a slow time down there, hotels can be had on the cheap. Work and school obligations, plus other financial issues, mean I can't actually pull it off. But it's nice to dream.)
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Post by: wombat on January 20, 2016, 05:40:04 pm
Yes, would definitely do that if it were possible. Especially since the Technical Staff thinks it's a brilliant idea to go on his planned ski vacation and leave me to face this alone. At least he's agreeing to leave early so I don't also have to worry about him driving through the storm. Small favors.
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Post by: AugustWest on January 20, 2016, 08:08:27 pm
Hell yes I'd go!  And leave the two twenty-somethings here to watch the dogs and the house.  Oh hells yes.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 21, 2016, 02:14:26 pm
Our school unexpectedly cancelled TODAY--we got less than an inch of snow last night, but no one was prepared for it and the roads were a freakin' mess overnight. So the last-minute Florida thing in all likelihood would have required ONE day out of school. Argh.

Of course, there's the matter of a) work people being furious at me for walking out on a major deliverable, and b) impending braces and other stuff meaning I probably shouldn't dump $3K on an impromptu vacation. BUT STILL, argh.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 21, 2016, 03:22:10 pm
It's nice to dream though.
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Post by: wombat on January 21, 2016, 06:48:29 pm
I'm really panicking about this now. They've got me convinced that I might die even if I stay in my house with food and a backup generator.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 21, 2016, 07:34:47 pm
I picked the wrong field, am I really going to have to wear a suit regularly for maybe 40-something years?

I guess there are probably some efficiencies of scale but right now every time I wear one it's a nightmare of "oh man, why don't these ##### fit me?" and "why won't this crease iron out? oh god, did I just burn the shirt? what's that spot??"

This time: the hemming on one pantleg came undone so the leg is trailing like I've shrunk a few inches on that side. This is going to be some delicate safety pin work.
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Post by: AugustWest on January 21, 2016, 08:27:58 pm
It gets easier. 

In my experience, if you're working in a government enviroment, suits aren't expected on a daily basis.  It's been a while since I've been required to even wear a tie on a daily basis if I'm not meeting with the public or going to court.  But even when I was wearing a tie and dress ##### daily, you get in a routine.  Interchangability is key.  White shirts, blue shirts, grey dress #####, navy dress #####, few decent sportcoats and you're good.

Want my #1 ironing tip?

Iron your shirts inside out.  That way even if you mess up a little or get some iron residue on your shirt, it's not visible. 

Also, it's a lot easier to be a 100% Cotton shirt devotee when you aren't the one ironing the motherfuckers.  My tolerance for a little bit of polyester jumped way up when I started doing my own ironing.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 22, 2016, 05:06:31 pm
Jos A Bank Traveler dress shirts FTW.

Agree with AW that you get used to it. In fact, when I first started at this job, and found out the dress code was business casual as long as you didn't have client or executive meetings, a colleague and I introduced "Formal Mondays." We would wear a shirt and tie on Mondays whether we needed to or not. Got all these ties, gotta wear 'em sometime. I still do that some weeks, depending on my mood.
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Post by: jaydub on January 22, 2016, 11:27:22 pm
I like that idea, and might have to adopt it on top of Hawaiian Shirt Fridays, which is my usual thing.  Complicating this somewhat is the very slim pickings of my formal wardrobe.  Tuxedo-or-Funereal Mondays would doubtless cause some confusion here.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 23, 2016, 12:08:36 am
Damn, this is like a funny practical joke:

"oh no, we meant to mention in the email that we never dress up around here unless we have to! Sorry!"

Afterwards went and got an indian-food-filled grilled cheese sandwich in Jersey City. 3 slices of bread, shredded chicken tikka in one layer and gooey cheese in the other.  That seems like my kinda town. Cheap rent and good food in every direction.
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Post by: wombat on January 23, 2016, 12:52:56 am
I am beginning to think that Inev loves all the cities.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 23, 2016, 01:34:53 am
Not to badmouth my favorite city, but when your antecedents are Charlotte NC and St Louis MO anything with grit AND jobs seems pretty amazing.

But yeah, I am charmed by all kinds of cities, as long as they have nice old buildings. Also, hearing that I could pay around half of Brooklyn rent and still be a 3 dollar, 15-20 minute train ride from Manhattan is pretty appealing.
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Post by: wombat on January 23, 2016, 03:33:52 pm
You can't fool me, you loved St Louis too.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 23, 2016, 05:48:46 pm
I do, but I think I will focus on cities that are close to lots of jobs for the foreseeable future.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 23, 2016, 11:23:09 pm
Yeah, I think the key part was the available jobs part.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 24, 2016, 07:27:44 pm
You can complain about it being cold in our house, I guess.
You can say you want to save money and that we should turn the heat down, I guess.

But doing both... I don't think you can do both.

(can you not do anything to fix your roommate troubles, and then complain about your roomate complaining? uh oh. I may have backed myself into a corner on this one.)

Also important: putting insulation up on the windows will save us money on heat. But it won't make the house "warmer" if the thermostat is still set to the same temperature.

I am in a class this semester with a professor I had last year. He is mis-remembering who I am in a really specific way. I guess I can't 100% attribute this to my appearance or demographics or whatever, but people in my program are very consistent about assuming I am a quantitative/data person. This has also come up in job interviews.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 03, 2016, 03:51:07 am
got that (unpaid) job through the spring with my safety-pinned suit #####. Yes!
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Post by: wombat on February 04, 2016, 09:55:02 pm

I keep thinking of posting something about how I'm too overwhelmed to have anything interesting to post lately but am thankful at least that the board hasn't crashed. But that would jinx it, wouldn't it?
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Post by: jaydub on February 05, 2016, 09:04:22 pm
(https://static-secure.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Technology/Pix/pictures/2013/8/1/1375368946554/502-Bad-Gateway-error-008.jpg)
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Post by: theinevitable on February 06, 2016, 05:01:59 am
This should not be surprising, but I am realizing St Louis architecture/interior design (?) is deep in my brain now. I am looking at apartments in other cities where I might want to look for jobs, and they all just strike me as truly UGLY. Even the cities that people I know call "cute" are full of  seemingly nothing but ugly apartments that cost 2-3 times what St Louis apartments do.

Or I can live in Brooklyn, and pay 4-5 times as much for a tiny shared apartment. Brutal.

All of my friends in New York live in apartments that I think are cute, so either I'm looking at the wrong websites or they are paying way more than I think. Maybe both.

My sense is that my program has a good reputation in the northeast and is less known elsewhere, so right now I'm looking at Philly, New York, and Pittsburgh. And then cities I have friends in-- Baltimore, St Louis, Chicago.

OK, Philly has some pretty good apartments.
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Post by: wombat on February 06, 2016, 02:02:22 pm
I vote for Baltimore!

For the love of God don't move to Brooklyn. This whole Brooklyn business needs to, like, deescalate. It was so nice when Brooklyn was just a normal place.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 06, 2016, 04:23:12 pm
Oh, I left out part of this calculation: New York is the only city where I have seen ANY urban planning job listings relevant to my interests or skills.

Is it better or worse if I move to Queens?

I don't think Brooklyn is deescalating anytime soon. Brace yourself, I might live there.
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Post by: wombat on February 06, 2016, 05:26:32 pm
I get the idea that  Queens is already the next Brooklyn. How's the Bronx doing these days? Still unfashionable? Or be really radical - how about Staten Island?
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Post by: theinevitable on February 06, 2016, 05:58:01 pm
I thought living in the Bronx should obviously come next until I took the subway to the top of Inwood from downtown. So. Slow. I may have taken a silly route, but still. I have not yet set foot in the Bronx, that should change soon.

I am also pretty interested in Jersey City. But it seems like rents there are going nuts, too.

And OOH, I forgot Nashville! Added.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 07, 2016, 10:11:18 pm
This lady I had a crush on in college just sent me a really silly chain email. I guess it's flattering that I was one of the first 10 people she thought of, even though I have only seen her three times in the last 7 years?

Or maybe she has become a recluse and has not made any new friends.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 08, 2016, 04:51:28 am
I was supposed to go through Human Subjects training a year ago, and I never did it. Then my boss asked me if I wanted to do it to do interviews for her and get some extra hours of work doing interviews, and I didn't do it.

Now I realized what I want to do for my final project, and I need the certification. Damnit.
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Post by: pmcd9 on February 09, 2016, 12:35:51 am
This lady I had a crush on in college just sent me a really silly chain email. I guess it's flattering that I was one of the first 10 people she thought of, even though I have only seen her three times in the last 7 years?

Or maybe she has become a recluse and has not made any new friends.

You sound almost hopeful.
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Post by: pmcd9 on February 10, 2016, 04:42:51 am
A can for the cans.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 13, 2016, 01:32:38 am
First day at the new gig. It is gonna be an exciting job. I am pumped.
...
It took two and a half hours to get home. I have no idea why. I stood there in an unheated train station, on a 20 degree day, for an hour. Train after train came-- going to the coast, going straight west, or going express to Trenton/Philly. No local trains, no explanation.
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Post by: pmcd9 on February 14, 2016, 06:42:27 am
It took two and a half hours to get home. I have no idea why. I stood there in an unheated train station, on a 20 degree day, for an hour. Train after train came-- going to the coast, going straight west, or going express to Trenton/Philly. No local trains, no explanation.

Public Transportation is sometimes unreliable?
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Post by: theinevitable on February 14, 2016, 07:37:46 pm
I guess what I meant is an explanation of when the trains would come. Are they coming soon? Should I go back and wait somewhere else warm? The countdown timer seemed to say that all 4 trains that hadn't shown up should be arriving any minute. The people on the loudspeaker were announcing the other trains coming in as if nothing was wrong.

Saw Protomartyr last night. I didn't realize until I got there that this venue was the place I went the first time I went to Williamsburg. I remember being unimpressed at the time. The show was awesome.

Afterwards went to an adorable little bar in Red Hook where some older dudes were playing folk music and singing. There was a very cute fiddle player my age who seemed a little embarrassed about how much she was shredding.
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Post by: theinevitable on February 29, 2016, 04:27:48 am
Went on a really good date. It kind of bums me out how jaded I am about going on dates at this point. I would like to feel a little more excited.

This semester is kicking my butt. I'm over it.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 01, 2016, 03:41:38 am
This semester is kicking my butt. I'm over it.

C'mon son, you gotta rally!
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Post by: AugustWest on March 03, 2016, 02:07:14 pm
I looked at the outside thermometer and it said 90d


Just fuck off, nnn-kay.
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Post by: robocop on March 04, 2016, 01:38:00 am
If it makes you feel better El Nino is coming for a visit starting tomorrow and we'll get ~3" of rain dropped on us through the weekend.

Then it'll dry up for the work week. Fuck if that gig seems fair to me.

The Niño and Zika mosquito are in cahoots.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 06, 2016, 05:19:48 am
Realizing that learning some coding skills was a good impulse. At my new internship for some reason they expected me to know the statistical analysis software that they use-- I don't, really, but I am picking it up pretty fast I think. A lot of typing things like CONCATENATE A TO C. PRINT ALL.

On the other hand, I stopped fiddling around with code or any other computer stuff once this new semester started. Looking at it today, it's like it all got sucked out of my brain by a big dumb vacuum. Damn! I feel like I had actually learned some cool stuff. Interestingly the muscle memory is still there-- I can't remember how to do anything consciously, but my fingers remember hotkeys. Here's hoping it's like Spanish, where I think I forget it all but after a few days it clicks and comes back.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 06, 2016, 12:24:40 pm
Google is always a big help in remembering coding.
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Post by: Victoria Waterfield on March 08, 2016, 06:52:08 am
Also I saw a cute girl chug half a bottle of Heinz ketchup. So that was... somethin.

At least it wasn't Hunt's, right?

fuck what am I doing with my life
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Post by: wombat on March 09, 2016, 01:03:23 pm
I don't have anything interesting to say, I'm just glad the board is up.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 13, 2016, 05:24:49 pm
Somehow my mom has hidden until just now that she has been hoping I will move back to North Carolina eventually. Sorry, mom.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 14, 2016, 04:37:29 am
Somehow my mom has hidden until just now that she has been hoping I will move back to North Carolina eventually. Sorry, mom.

Poor mama, she misses her boy.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 14, 2016, 09:51:30 pm
Today my boss sent us a panicky email saying she thinks we are going to run out of money before the project is done. At this point it is insane to me that I've been working for her for 9 months with this little to show for it. This current work (making a slideshow summarizing our findings) is... something I could have done alone in a week or two, I think. But the problems of deciding everything practically by committee and people undoing each others' work (oh, why did Dan make everything size 14 font? I'd better make it 12 again) it has been weeks and weeks of 4 people doing it.

She has explained herself multiple times, but I cannot figure out why we have spent weeks going back and forth about layout changes, instead of making sure all of the content is right and then having 1 person do the formatting for all of it at once.

The good news is: when I mention her name to people at job interviews they know who she is and they are impressed.

So apparently the working strategy of "keep starting over from scratch every few months" eventually results in good work. Maybe.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on March 17, 2016, 12:42:18 pm
Gotta love an e-mail about a work event that says "we look forward to see you there!"

Sent by the same person who previously e-mailed me that the event was "Tuesday, April 5." (4/5 being a Wednesday on my calendar.)
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Post by: Victoria Waterfield on March 17, 2016, 06:46:40 pm
ALSO, not wearing green today, any input on my style decision will result in my "Fuck The Dirty Irish Global Conspiracy To Make Green OK" spiel.

Meanwhile, one of my asshole Facebook friends proudly posted about how he's wearing orange today.

St. Patrick's Day is one of those strange holidays where the only winning move is not to play.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on March 17, 2016, 07:01:43 pm
You might wanna check your calendar (http://www.dayoftheweek.org/?m=April&d=5&y=2016&go=Go#axzz43Aw5GKbz), Mayor.

Herpy derp. The original e-mail said "Tuesday, April 6." SHE FUCKED UP NOT ME DAMMIT
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on March 17, 2016, 07:02:43 pm
A peripheral FB friend posted the banana-kiwi hybrid video, apparently in earnest. If it was a closer friend who I interact with regularly I would drop the Snopes link right away. For someone I rarely interact with, it seems dickish. I dunno.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 18, 2016, 01:11:59 am
I love St. Patrick's Day, but I celebrate an old fashioned version of it which involves wearing green and saying Faith n' Begorah to everyone. Also playfully pinching anyone not wearing green. I'm not one of those get drunk at 7 am types.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on March 18, 2016, 08:37:01 am
I'm not one of those get drunk at 7 am types.

Luckily I had an excuse this Thursday.  (There is a joke here but that's the best I can do)

I did have a beer and drive around listening to the pogues, but I legit didn't know it was st paddys.  Then my neighbor texted me and I realized it was.  Then I felt good about my decisions.

Then I listened to another pogues record when my roommates got home.  Rum, Sodomy and the Lash is so fuck*ng good.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 18, 2016, 09:23:56 am
I didn't even listen to any Irish music today. I'm failing at being Irish.
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Post by: jaydub on March 18, 2016, 06:18:47 pm
I was laughing at myself for having the thought, "I've been listening to Dropkick Murphy's for the past 3 months and now everyone's bandwagoning".  To be clear, I've been listening to them far longer than that, but I've been on a jag recently, fueled by radio apps that take an artist you like and find "similar artists" and play their songs too.  No one else really sounds like the Murphys though.

n.b. My mother's maiden name is Murphy.  And the Wallaces I come from are from Northern Ireland.  And Robert Wallace married Margaret Linehan.  And my mom's red hair came from the Jacobsen side of her family (from Norway).  And the Vikings spend 600 years pillaging/marrying/settling Ireland.  And bringing red hair to the Emerald Isle. 
I married an American mutt, though.  Whose grandmother was a Moran. And has an ancestor named Linehan - which seems like an interesting genealogical puzzle to pursue someday.

Anyway, I like St. Paddy's day.  Had some Bushmill's with my wife to celebrate.  And then boned.
bone..bone...bone
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Post by: theinevitable on March 18, 2016, 07:12:27 pm
The parts I know of my dad's family are Irish. The ones I get my name from were snobby English people though.

I hate the hell out of that whole "irish + punk" scene. I can't put my finger on why.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on March 18, 2016, 08:22:44 pm
The parts I know of my dad's family are Irish. The ones I get my name from were snobby English people though.

I hate the hell out of that whole "irish + punk" scene. I can't put my finger on why.

Cause they aren't really Irish or punk?  The pogues are the exception that proves the rule and also dicks for starting it?
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Post by: jaydub on March 18, 2016, 08:25:33 pm
No, no!  The musical styles complement each other really well..especially when they're self aware enough to pull in some Country riffs (on account of Scots/Irish Appalachia).
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Post by: theinevitable on March 18, 2016, 09:05:25 pm
I guess for me it is the stuff I like the least about punk combined with the stuff I like the least about folk. I feel the same way about Uncle Tupelo. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKo_1rVClOk)

(what i'm listening to is leaking)
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Post by: theinevitable on March 18, 2016, 09:21:10 pm
warning Wombat: the NYC housing & vacancy survey (which I'm analyzing at work) found some white people paying $3,500 a month for an apartment in the Bronx near the zoo.

...might be some kind of insane error though, almost zero people they surveyed in the Bronx are paying over $2,000. And mostly way below that.

It's interesting, the number of neighborhoods that are meeting my (informal) criteria for "gentrifying" is pretty small. But in those neighborhoods it's pretty stark. In the northern part of Crown Heights 50% of white renter households pay more than $2,000 a month... and pretty much zero percent of non-white renters.

(this could also be an effect of their "neighborhood areas" being too large. I bet a lot more white people are renting closer to the park, where it's more expensive.)
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Post by: jaydub on March 18, 2016, 10:23:33 pm
Landlords taking advantage of gullible white folks?
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Post by: wombat on March 18, 2016, 11:02:47 pm
I would be interested to see a map of how far away keepers at the Bronx Zoo have to live to find apartments on their salaries.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 18, 2016, 11:54:27 pm
I was going to say that $2k is probably the fair market price for these apartments, but at this point it's probably fair anyone who moves to NYC "gullible." Unless you are making beaucoup bucks
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 19, 2016, 01:46:31 am
I don't know how anyone except the super wealthy can afford to live there.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on March 19, 2016, 01:57:25 am
No, no!  The musical styles complement each other really well..especially when they're self aware enough to pull in some Country riffs (on account of Scots/Irish Appalachia).

I was just talking shit.  I mainly dislike it cause I dislike Irish pride in Americans, but my best friend and dad both do that, so like, not judging?
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Post by: theinevitable on March 19, 2016, 02:22:16 am
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I don't know how anyone except the super wealthy can afford to live there.

Lots of roommates.

Also, urban planning/public policy trivia: according to the US government, "affordable" housing means you spend 1/3 of your total income on it. But a pretty enormous percentage (maybe over half??) of NYC residents spend more than 1/2 their income.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 19, 2016, 03:46:38 am
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I would be interested to see a map of how far away keepers at the Bronx Zoo have to live to find apartments on their salaries.

You know I couldn't let this slide.

A "Provisional Wild Animal Keeper" at the Bronx Zoo starts at $37k.

This is above the median income in the census tracts that are the lightest color in this map (not the white ones, the lightest yellow that is most of the south Bronx-- the white means "insufficient data"), and about the same as the median income in the orangey ones to the east of the zoo/botanical gardens.
(http://i.imgur.com/xjpM6pR.png)

So it looks like they can live pretty close to work. The census publishes average rent numbers but they don't work on the handy dandy internet mapping tool. So I just went with median income. The median household income in Bronx County as a whole is $34,284.

I can make you a fancy version of this with a title that says "neighborhoods where a provisional wild animal keeper at the bronx zoo can afford to live" when I'm at the computer lab.

Whoa, what!? The little corner of the Bronx above Inwood (Spuyten Duyvil?) has a median income of $100,000.
There are a few tracts in Brooklyn where it says the median household income is $11,000!? Insane. East Flatbush is some serious shit.

And to put that in perspective, several of the tracts surrounding my old job were around $10,000 too. Yikes.

(This internship is making me think I picked the right profession. Although I would like to go to more community meetings and spend less time clicking the computer c*ck. Also... I spent 8 hours making maps like this today but just made another one for fun.)
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Post by: wombat on March 19, 2016, 11:28:19 am
That's interesting. My experience at National is that it seems like a lot of people live really far away and I assumed NY would be worse. On the other hand I wonder if a lot of them choose to live farther away because those neighborhoods are cheap because they are not nice places to live? My experience of that part of the Bronx is like decades out of date. I know someone who worked there fairly recently - I should ask her. It could be an interesting take on what the map can and can't tell you.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 19, 2016, 02:49:33 pm
Those cheap neighborhoods have 30-40% poverty rates. So maybe they are not lovely places to live.

...I just looked and the neighborhood I lived in in St Louis had a 30% poverty rate. Hmm.

I am applying to jobs this weekend, and sending resumes where I have 3 recent urban planning jobs/internships feels so good compared to sending my "Barista and Cashier, 2010-2014, St Louis Missouri" resume a year ago.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 21, 2016, 03:08:50 am
My crazy roommate left notes for all of the people in our buildings telling them to please not slam the front door late at night, which she says wakes her up every night. She went on and on ranting about how inconsiderate and shitty it is, and how she can't imagine anyone so awful that they would slam doors in a building with other people (??).

...she lets the door slam every morning and wakes me up when she leaves for work. It doesn't bother me that much, so I just sat there grinning while she played herself.


Even better: just realized I have 2 weeks between when my last project is due and graduation? What is that? I guess the answer is time to look for jobs.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 21, 2016, 12:35:12 pm
My crazy roommate left notes for all of the people in our buildings telling them to please not slam the front door late at night, which she says wakes her up every night. She went on and on ranting about how inconsiderate and shitty it is, and how she can't imagine anyone so awful that they would slam doors in a building with other people (??).

...she lets the door slam every morning and wakes me up when she leaves for work. It doesn't bother me that much, so I just sat there grinning while she played herself.

Haven't we played this scene before?
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Post by: theinevitable on March 21, 2016, 02:15:17 pm
I think last time we talked her out of it. Or at least I never heard about the outcome.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 26, 2016, 08:37:51 pm
I took the subway out to Bushwick, Brooklyn after work to find the mural advertising the new Parquet Courts album. There was also a newspaper machine that they have rigged up to sell posters (https://www.instagram.com/p/BDY-6abtijH/?taken-by=dbstandsfor), but unfortunately it was empty by the time I got there. Still cool to see. So I went into the bar right next door and drank a beer and read for a bit before taking the train home. I miss having close friends here, but I really enjoy going on adventures like this without having to consult anyone else, worry that they're getting bored, etc.

It was interesting to see the makeup of the neighborhood after looking at all kinds of demographic stats for the area at work that day. South of a certain street I was one of the only white people walking around, north of it everyone looked like me and was dressed like a hipper version of me. I felt out of place in my "just got off work" outfit which usually blends in wherever I am.

Next week I'm going to Boston. That should be fun.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 27, 2016, 08:25:29 pm
I'm interested in this newspaper machine that dispenses posters.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 27, 2016, 08:28:13 pm
By the way, I used to own a newspaper machine (I stole it in my misspent youth) and if it operated like that one once you put in your .25 or whatever you could actually take as many papers as you wanted, but who would want more than one? It might be a different situation with posters where one might easily want 2 or maybe all of them to resell on EBay or CraigsList.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 28, 2016, 01:19:26 am
Yeah, unfortunately I kind of imagine that's what happened.
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Post by: wombat on March 28, 2016, 02:48:57 pm
By the way, I used to own a newspaper machine (I stole it in my misspent youth)

Why? What did you want a newspaper machine for?
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Post by: miles on March 28, 2016, 05:11:37 pm
Why? What did you want a newspaper machine for?

I mean, if you have to ask...
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 28, 2016, 05:27:34 pm
Why? What did you want a newspaper machine for?

I used to collect the Sunday Funnies section from the newspaper. I have a stack large enough to fill one of those machines. It's basically every Sunday funny section from the Houston papers (well, all of the Chronicle, and some from the Post) and a few random from other cities I might have visited. The collection stretches from '73 up until sometime in the '80s. I needed a place to store them.
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Post by: wombat on March 28, 2016, 07:32:55 pm
Still it's a damn good answer.
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Post by: AugustWest on March 28, 2016, 07:53:21 pm
Gimmee a trencher and a holiday and a motherfucker could go overboard, y'know?


Mind me asking what that project set you back?  A water line at the pool would be awfully handy.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 28, 2016, 11:53:59 pm
I like to imagine that Paul had dreams of publishing and distributing his own damn newspaper, a better damn newspaper with no fuck*ng Marmaduke or The Lockhorns in it.

I know you're gonna find this difficult to believe, but once upon a time Marmaduke was an enjoyable comic strip. Maybe those were simpler times. And Lockhorns, I think they came later. Basically that collection contains the lions share of Calvin and Hobbles and The Far Side Sunday comics, those were my favorites. That and Peanuts of course, my all time favorite. Another possible shocker, Wizard of Id and B.C. were both very funny back in the day.
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Post by: AugustWest on March 29, 2016, 02:39:03 am
Short answer: $155

$75 for four hours with the trencher and $80 for 250' of pvc and couplings, tees, elbows, female adapters and two ball valves.

(I rented the trencher and bought the supplies at home depot)

It's an uncomplicated project as long as you DO NOT grind up by surprise something you really really need when trenching.

At this point, finding the time for that kind of project is harder than finding the money.  At least that kind of money.
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Post by: wombat on April 01, 2016, 03:51:09 pm
You know I couldn't let this slide.

A "Provisional Wild Animal Keeper" at the Bronx Zoo starts at $37k.

This is above the median income in the census tracts that are the lightest color in this map (not the white ones, the lightest yellow that is most of the south Bronx-- the white means "insufficient data"), and about the same as the median income in the orangey ones to the east of the zoo/botanical gardens.
(http://i.imgur.com/xjpM6pR.png)

So it looks like they can live pretty close to work. The census publishes average rent numbers but they don't work on the handy dandy internet mapping tool. So I just went with median income. The median household income in Bronx County as a whole is $34,284.


So I finally got to do a little bit of a reality check on this. My friend said that she actually lived walking distance, on the other side of the Botanic Gardens, which is the opposite side of the zoo from the neighborhoods with housing projects. She said that most keepers though either lived in Queens and carpooled, or if they were more senior and had families, lived upstate, some of them very far away.

So they can theoretically live close, but most don't, presumably because what they can afford for the money has disadvantages that seem worse than the disadvantage of the long commute.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 03, 2016, 01:58:49 am
Went to Boston for a conference at Harvard. Boy, am I glad I don't go to Harvard. The building was very nice, though. The Museum of Fine arts was awesome, I got to get dinner with my sister, and I discovered my new favorite neighborhood (the North End).
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Post by: theinevitable on April 04, 2016, 04:04:26 pm
My sister got offered an internship in NYC for the summer, but will not be paid enough to live anywhere. The internship is in lower NY state 3 days a week and midtown NYC the other 2 days.

Why is this legal, again?

I offered that she can stay in my place in NJ, but a 65 mile commute 3 days a week is pretty unreasonable.

Guys I am so ready to be done with school. Getting really aggravated at busy-work when I need to be looking for jobs and working on final projects.
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 04, 2016, 04:17:26 pm
School Sucks!
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Post by: AugustWest on April 04, 2016, 05:24:00 pm
Very nice work!
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 04, 2016, 06:29:44 pm
Lookin' good Ash!
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Post by: theinevitable on April 04, 2016, 09:01:17 pm
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School Sucks!

That's the thing! I am working on one paper that is super interesting and I wish I could devote more time to it. I'd also love to spend time learning about other urban planning topics. But instead I need to read 100 pages every week about foreclosures and mortgages, and write "response summaries" of what I learned, go to meetings where we talk about our silly group projects, etc. I'm also enjoying my internship, because there I do actual research and analysis work, and don't just read endless articles about the same things over and over.

Luckily I think one of my jobs is going to be done after next week. So for the last few weeks of school I at least won't have to worry about putting in time on that. Unfortunately, that also means no money coming in.

I have also had a cold with a nasty cough for over a week and that's making me grumpy. I am glad I came to school, just ready for it to be done so I can learn about whatever I want. And get paid to do a job, hopefully. Really I need to find a thing to spend less time on to apply to jobs instead, but having a hard time giving up sleep/eat/internet time.
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Post by: AugustWest on April 05, 2016, 02:12:31 am
foreclosures and mortgages,

This is a really important issue. I deal with this professionally, especially as it relates to property taxes.  Kentucky essentially privatizes collection of delinquent property tax, and based on conversations with some land bank advocates, this has had a significant effect of city conditions.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 05, 2016, 02:32:50 am
Yeah, that's true, it is actually interesting. The foreclosure stuff is more interesting than the weeks and weeks in a row where we read about subprime mortgages and credit scores. Which were also interesting... at first.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 06, 2016, 03:56:40 pm
This kid who got accepted to my grad program is visiting and staying on my couch. We are having a lot of coordination issues. For instance, he wants to go to NYC for the first time and asked if he could make the 12:20 train. I said "yes." I guess I should have specified, "yes, if you leave now and go directly there and don't stop for lunch on the way to the station." Now he calls asking if I know when the next train is. Yeesh.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 07, 2016, 04:26:40 pm
Ew.

Cleaning things like that is one of the truest satisfactions in life. The other day I realized that dozens of tiny rocks were stuck in the narrow treads of my sneakers. I savored poking them out with push-pins.
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Post by: Victoria Waterfield on April 07, 2016, 05:44:24 pm
Last week I learned how to take apart the U-bend on a sink drain, get all the hair out, and then put it all back together.

Accomplishment.
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Post by: AugustWest on April 07, 2016, 06:53:44 pm
I would be all about teflon tape.

What do I win?
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Post by: AugustWest on April 07, 2016, 07:29:55 pm
Woo Hoo!
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Post by: wombat on April 08, 2016, 05:34:40 pm
You're gonna send him to the east coast?
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Post by: jaydub on April 08, 2016, 07:51:30 pm
You didn't tell her you expect clean stalls for the hosss when you get home?
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 10, 2016, 01:09:47 pm
This dude is obviously some distant relative of Paul.
http://www.cmuse.org/valentin-guerin-pyro-trombone/
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Post by: wombat on April 12, 2016, 01:54:04 pm
I have nothing to say except that I am glad the board has risen from the dead again.

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Post by: theinevitable on April 12, 2016, 05:21:43 pm
Went to the conference the people I'm working for have every year. They forgot to put me on the list to get in, didn't have a name tag for me, and I didn't get a lunch. This is a job I spend $30 every Friday to get to, and work at for free.

Internships are a scam.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 13, 2016, 04:47:22 pm
Yesterday I was trying to hold back whining about the above to a close friend, and she said she was having a hard day because one of her favorite clients died (she is a social worker for older adults).

Perspective is so good. Even if it fades fast sometimes.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 13, 2016, 06:41:24 pm
Yeah, I have recently belatedly realized that I have an unhealthy emotional thing where I think of anger/frustration as something I should always try to hide, and sadness/disappointment as something it's OK to wallow in. Definitely need to learn to do the "recognize the feeling and then let go" method.

This is also a problem because it makes me react unfairly to other people when they express their anger.

Also need to get a tattoo that reminds me to eat a banana or something when I start getting all upset about something tiny. 3/4 of the time it's hunger or caffeine buzz wearing off. But in the moment I never realize that.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 13, 2016, 08:59:16 pm
Looking at my budget between now and "undetermined date when I get a job" is rough.

On the other hand, I think I could live on the non-perishables in my pantry for at least a month, if I supplement them with eggs and veggies. So many noodles, different types of rice, and condiments. Lately my dinners have been sweet potatoes, rice, broccoli, hot sauce, and an egg on top... and it's pretty damn satisfying.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 13, 2016, 09:36:05 pm
(http://ll-us-i5.wal.co/dfw/dce07b8c-4778/k2-_77fb585d-0e50-4e9b-9c0a-b3428cc070a1.v1.jpg-a0a4d8eb8e5600aa1daa1e2cb6428278872adeba-optim-450x450.jpg)

this hottie right here
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Post by: wombat on April 13, 2016, 11:53:05 pm
All that stuff about coping is well and good, but internships are still a scam, and fuck people who can't even give you a name tag and a lunch at a conference when you work for them for free.

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Post by: theinevitable on April 14, 2016, 01:49:12 am
Yeah, definitely.
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 14, 2016, 03:44:26 am
This dude is obviously some distant relative of Paul.
http://www.cmuse.org/valentin-guerin-pyro-trombone/

I contacted that dude after seeing him on Facebook. He's German, but is going to school in Austin. I thought we might be able to do something together. He was all 'how much does it pay?' Fuck that guy.
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 14, 2016, 03:47:41 am
Oh man, instead of eating something, for me it would be to take a nap.

Do both. Better safe than sorry.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 14, 2016, 12:52:48 pm
(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/WyN8g6lkU8s/maxresdefault.jpg)

I met The Baron in the USVI a few years ago and he's been a companion ever since.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 14, 2016, 04:30:26 pm
Hey, our current president is speaking at my graduation.

Unfortunately, I was planning not to go to that many-hours-long shitfest with all the undergrads and stuff. Just our department thing. Hmmm.
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Post by: wombat on April 14, 2016, 06:43:47 pm
Aw, now you gotta go. Surely graduation ceremonies are more tolerable nowadays when you can bring along a fully charged phone with the internet on it?
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Post by: theinevitable on April 14, 2016, 08:07:56 pm
Sure, but I do not know if I want to deal with finding parking (it's at a stadium that is not accessible by public transit or walking, at least not easily) or dragging my family along. Hmmm. We will see.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 15, 2016, 07:53:38 pm
I passed on the hot sauce but brought back some of this from St. Lucia:

I have a bottle of banana ketchup (not the same brand) that I got as a gift. It's unopened because I have no damn idea what to do with it or what I should put it on.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 15, 2016, 08:47:45 pm
About to get a beer with Jough. If I don't return, at least stop putting money in the tip jar.
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Post by: jaydub on April 15, 2016, 11:28:53 pm
He has young to feed, after all.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 16, 2016, 03:52:18 am
It was good. We went to McSorley's, a bar that claims it has been there since the 1850s. Then to my favorite pierogie place, with a stop by the Physical Graffiti building. We took a picture and he said he'll post it eventually.
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Post by: wombat on April 16, 2016, 01:46:09 pm
That is cool, I've read about McSorley's but I've never been there.
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Post by: linnea on April 16, 2016, 03:01:46 pm
I actually got to meet Jough! We went to Berghoff's in Chicago. It was great. The first TOUAMBie I met was jayelle, last Thanksgiving. So thirteen years and I've met two of you.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 16, 2016, 06:56:48 pm
I have met 4 of you, but only 1 who still posts-- AugustWest.
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Post by: wombat on April 16, 2016, 11:32:58 pm
I was going to say maybe you should stop meeting people, it's obviously bad for the board... but if you got linnea to post for the first time in three years, now I'm not sure what the score is.
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 18, 2016, 03:57:44 pm
Paul, I'ma grow some serious ass 'maters.

I'm coming over.

Inev, no selfie?
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Post by: theinevitable on April 18, 2016, 03:59:58 pm
The little corner store by my house in St Louis got bought by the city and closed. Nobody in the neighborhood could give me a reason why the city should spend its money buying and closing a business. I did hear a lot of unsavory rumors about the building, though-- it was pretty enormous and only a small corner was open to the public.

The current frontrunner among replacement proposals is to turn it into a "Wedding Venue" called "Wild Carrot."

Meanwhile, a nearby abandoned gas station is being renovated into a coffee shop called the "Fiddlehead Fern Cafe."

I guess gentrification is real.



I do not know where our selfie is. Jough took it with his phone. Also, tried to convince me we should stand there and wait until a cute girl walked by and ask her to take it. I did not go for that plan.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 18, 2016, 05:44:06 pm
I remember using one of those post-hole diggers with my dad many years ago. Primarily, I remember the auger getting caught on something, and therefore the top part turning and a handle whacking me in the thigh really hard.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 19, 2016, 12:42:12 pm
I remember using one of those bastards and it got stuck about 2 feet down.  Took me hours to dig that fucker out -- after it had beaten me up pretty good.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: JorgeFabregas on April 19, 2016, 04:05:20 pm
I have met 4 of you, but only 1 who still posts-- AugustWest.
I still read things occasionally and today thought about posting that Onstad seems to be afflicted by the roundy mandible.

I have met inev and Paul. I think I forgot to return a phone call to Jough about hanging out once. Dick move.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Victoria Waterfield on April 20, 2016, 02:36:27 am
OK, then here's your ProTip for those mothers: go down slightly eccentric the first foot so you have some wobble room to draw that fucker if it jams on something.

This seems like it's highly applicable in a lot of aspects of life.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 20, 2016, 02:51:54 am
OK, then here's your ProTip for those mothers: go down slightly eccentric the first foot so you have some wobble room to draw that fucker if it jams on something.

The urge is to drill this awesome 2 1/2 foot deep perfect cylinder but that is the trap.
As I recall, I got too close to a concrete cistern cover and got caught under the edge of its foundation.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 20, 2016, 01:39:46 pm
Yeah, but when the zombie apocalypse comes I've got that cistern going for me. 
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 20, 2016, 03:38:11 pm
A question I still don't know the answer to: should I apply to jobs that only say they require a BA?

On the one hand, that feels like I wasted 2 years getting this degree. On the other hand, all employers are liars and I sure didn't get any jobs that said "BA" when I had a BA.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 20, 2016, 04:20:59 pm
You should always apply for a job if you're not sure. What's the downside?

Remind me to tell you sometime about the job I didn't apply for because I was sure the description meant that they didn't want someone from my department who did the same thing as the people already in their department... and they ended up hiring someone from my department who did the same thing as the people already in their department.

Don't overthink it. If the job sounds interesting and your qualifications generally match, just send out the damn application.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 20, 2016, 04:55:51 pm
Yeah. Also a factor, now that I actually have concrete skills and experience whipping up a cover letter is a breeze.

One week from today, I will be studying for my last exam of grad school. So close.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 20, 2016, 09:57:07 pm
I have met inev and Paul.

Dang, it's been 10 years.
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/1/85/211955196_457f9c04d3_o.jpg)

I've met JL, Pedro Picasso, Miles, AugustWest, Wombat, Jorge Faberge and... is that all? It seems like I'm missing someone. Oh yeah... Choop and Iron Felix.

JL, Pedro and Kids:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8246/8451151397_2929ee2e26_b.jpg)

JL and Me on the Dance Floor:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8020/7653361872_bac7ab0b03_b.jpg)

Me and Miles in Salt Lake City:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/1/85/255418094_47b5f3a514_b.jpg)

Me and August West in his Office in Frankfurt:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/1/72/206490604_dc9c56e7e0_o.jpg)

Later, in the pool:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/1/92/208196384_32d46486a6_o.jpg)

Wombat hiding behind pugs:
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8163/7657033102_94b288e231_b.jpg)

Choop and Iron Felix
(https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8444/7939836818_7c580a6e2d_b.jpg)



Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 21, 2016, 03:03:53 am
Good times!
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: miles on April 21, 2016, 04:55:52 am
Paul, next time you roll through SLC you still have a place to stay. It's a bit farther south but we have an actual guest room with a real bed, so all in all an upgrade I'd say.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 21, 2016, 12:29:37 pm
Aw, look at those pugs. Those were such good pugs.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 21, 2016, 10:15:53 pm
Paul, next time you roll through SLC you still have a place to stay. It's a bit farther south but we have an actual guest room with a real bed, so all in all an upgrade I'd say.

Thanks man, I may do one day. And thanks for having my back on Facebook yesterday. That woman is a nutjob.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: miles on April 22, 2016, 03:46:10 am
Thanks man, I may do one day. And thanks for having my back on Facebook yesterday. That woman is a nutjob.

Some people man.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 22, 2016, 04:18:12 am
Today two different people asked me if I'm OK because I seem frazzled. I think I need a shave and a haircut in a major way. This is the time of year that I start wanting a buzz cut, but I am pretty sure that it feels better than it looks. I'll have plenty of time for the buzzcut if/when I start balding.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 22, 2016, 05:41:29 am
Your  hair looks great in that picture Jough posted.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 22, 2016, 12:53:58 pm
I've met JL, Pedro Picasso, Miles, AugustWest, Wombat, Jorge Faberge and... is that all? It seems like I'm missing someone. Oh yeah... Choop and Iron Felix.

(https://farm8.staticflickr.com/7252/7618754954_a82b3b462f_z.jpg) (https://flic.kr/p/cBf7q3)Dragonfire in action (https://flic.kr/p/cBf7q3) by Carlos del Vaca (https://www.flickr.com/photos/bigfool/), on Flickr
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 22, 2016, 03:57:35 pm
Oh shit, I forgot Carlos!!!
(https://c2.staticflickr.com/6/5328/9566439069_9b47892aa5_b.jpg)
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 22, 2016, 05:46:34 pm
Sorry Carlos, my only excuse is it was the same trip I met JL and Wombat, so, you know, priorities, I guess.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 23, 2016, 08:58:57 pm
As I think about having to move in a few months, I find myself once again wanting to sell/donate many of my possessions. A big question is kitchenware. It's tempting to get rid of stuff that I barely use (since I only cook for myself and never host people) to make space, and assume that in the future I will have more space and money if I need to buy things again. On the other hand, I'll feel stupid when I want to bake a cake in a year and remember giving away my unused cake pans.

I already made a big pile of college textbooks that need to go. That is a lot of space and poundage freed up.

A painful one is my guitar amplifier. I use it very, very rarely since I moved out here, and it's heavy and takes up a lot of space. It's hard to imagine that I will live someplace where I can use a 50 watt guitar amplifier, unless I move back to St Louis. I think it would make sense to sell it and replace it with something small once I'm settled down. But ugh. My amp!
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 23, 2016, 11:53:15 pm
Musical stuff is so hard to get rid of. We have so many instruments we never play anymore. Every couple of years I pick up the guitar and mess around with it but we have all these neglected early music instruments. The Tech Staff still plays the viols sometimes, but the rest are totally ignored. But he would never go along with finding them better homes. On the bright side I guess none of them are as big as a guitar amplifier.

The only thing I ever sold was a button accordion. The bellows dry out and are ruined if you never use it, so I convinced myself it needed to live with someone who had occasion to actually play it. But I still think about regretfully every now again.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 24, 2016, 05:12:05 am
It is probably true that at the end of every semester, I think "this is the one where I don't make it." I am pretty sure that as long as I turn in something for the three projects that are due Monday and Tuesday I will graduate. But getting there is not going to be fun.

I have gotten a lot better at starting things ahead of time. Unfortunately the difficulty of the projects has increased at the same rate as I have gotten better.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 24, 2016, 07:41:05 am
I don't think the emotional attachment is as strong for amplifiers, unless it's something rare.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 24, 2016, 12:23:41 pm
I don't think it's a sentimental attachment. It's attachment to the belief that you are the sort of person who is going to play those instruments again.

Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 24, 2016, 04:29:52 pm
yeah. I kind of worry that if I sell the amp, I'll never replace it. And I'll be a guy with a nice guitar that he plays unplugged. And then I'll do that less and less, until I'm a guy with a nice guitar in his attic. But who knows, when I move maybe I'll find people to play music with and I'll get an amp as soon as I have the money.

Last night I was up until 4 writing this paper about St Louis and it made me want to go back so much. When I lived there and made $11 an hour I had a lifestyle I could probably never afford in NYC. But of course, at this point only 2 of my good friends still live there, and one of them is married and the other is moving in with his girlfriend. It might be a disappointment to return.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 24, 2016, 06:41:47 pm
Did you love that place, or did you love that period of your life? That can be a hard question to answer.

You know there's nothing wrong with being a guy who used to play the guitar. Just because something was worth doing doesn't mean you have to keep doing it for the rest of your life.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 24, 2016, 06:57:14 pm
Tell me about this amp.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 24, 2016, 08:05:58 pm
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Did you love that place, or did you love that period of your life? That can be a hard question to answer.

It's both. I do know that if I went back I would be immediately bummed out that I was going the same bars, museums, and neighborhoods I was going to in 2012. But I care a lot about the place, and I guess some part of me wants to be the kind of person that can commit myself to a smaller city that has a lot to offer. Instead of struggling to live in a huge city that has more excitement. Well, there's plenty of time to live in less stimulating places when I'm worried about having kids etc.
Part of what makes me not want to go back is also that I would inevitably disappointed that I did not return to living with my best friends, drinking beer and smoking dope and riding bikes around. Although it seems like a great place to be a person in your late 20s/early 30s too.

The amp is a digital thing. VOX, 50 watts, any time I turn it on I set it to emulate a VOX AC30 or a Fender Twin. It has a tube preamp, which supposedly makes it sound less digital. It's got some cool built-in effects, I like the delay and reverb a lot.
My old roommate had a 100 watt Fender something from the 70s or 80s. That thing made my guitar sound unbelievable.
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Post by: wombat on April 24, 2016, 09:50:28 pm
Why would you want to raise your children in a less stimulating place? A cheaper place, that I can see, but I hope that as an urban planner you will be planning urbs where people can raise children. I have always thought that it is cruel to raise children in the suburbs where they can't go anywhere unless they can get an adult to drive them.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 24, 2016, 10:00:50 pm
But that's the thing. St Louis is a city. You can walk places, there's public transit. Not to the same level as in NYC, but it's not like I'd be raising a kid in Manhattan. I could also afford to do crazy, fancy things like send the kid to college. The things I would miss about NYC (I imagine, having never actually lived there) would be the multiculturalism, the subway, the pace, and the constant cultural events. But St Louis has museums and parks and a zoo too. It's a nice place to live.

I think there's also a sense of space in St Louis that is missing in New York. In New York you can find anything you want to buy, or pay to see anything you want to see. In St Louis you can have an idea and do it-- so many people I know there are starting businesses or events or whatever because nobody's already doing what they want to do. This is also part of why there are so many great restaurants there. It's a hard place to find a job, but it's a place where once you find a job you can make a big difference.

And yeah, I am not raising a kid in a suburb. At least not one like the one I grew up in-- I know some suburbs are different. In the town I live in now, for instance, you can walk to the little downtown where there are stores, and New Brunswick is across the bridge and there are lots of places to eat and a record store. And a train to New York.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 24, 2016, 10:54:40 pm
That doesn't seem "less stimulating" really. Or like your dumb old college friends are the main attraction.

Living in a place with constant cultural events is not all it's cracked up to be. I think most people in a place like that spend a lot of their time feeling vaguely bad that they are not taking advantage of more of those constant cultural events.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on April 24, 2016, 10:58:47 pm
I was raised on a farm outside of a suburb.  I've been running away from that my whole life.  Still, in my head, I don't want a kid til I can give him or her the kind of childhood I had.  And hated!?  It is stupid and wrong, but sometimes my head works like that.  I am lucky enough to be aware of it?

Sell that amp.  But the smallest, oldest tube amp you can wherever you end up.

I grew up in Oklahoma.  It kinda had what inev was talking about, in that you kinda had to do whatever you were gonna do yourself.  I moved to Denver.  I actually hate Denver.  It is so stuck where it is, cause it has everything you could want, but only like 2-3 options.  Honestly, LA is awesome because it is huge but it is also just a lot of people doing their thing.  No one is trying to stop them.  It is also cheaper than Denver.  Think about LA?

Edit:  unmentioned, but maybe implied: being forced to do your own thing instead of just playing at the two established hipster bars makes a weirder city, makes a more creative person, makes better art, etc.  I mainly left Oklahoma cause I got arrested a lot.

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Post by: theinevitable on April 24, 2016, 11:34:39 pm
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Edit: unmentioned, but maybe implied: being forced to do your own thing instead of just playing at the two established hipster bars makes a weirder city, makes a more creative person, makes better art, etc.

I maybe believe this, but this is one thing that killed me about STL. There is a LOT of really atrocious art and many many boring bands. But everyone knows someone who is involved in making it so it's rude to say that it sucks. Maybe there's a sweet spot between so small that you have to take what you can get, and so big that you can't do anything new.

Although STL does have the three established hipster bars. Maybe that's the problem.

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Living in a place with constant cultural events is not all it's cracked up to be. I think most people in a place like that spend a lot of their time feeling vaguely bad that they are not taking advantage of more of those constant cultural events.
I guess that's what I meant about being "ready to live someplace less stimulating" eventually. Right now I would be moving to NYC single, with a new job, and knowing fewer than 10 people in the city. Going to lots of concerts and museums and taking the subway an hour and a half to see Arthur Avenue on a Saturday sounds great. It sounds less necessary once I am hopefully a tiny bit more settled down.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 25, 2016, 12:35:52 pm
Go live somewhere close to where somebody will pay you to do the things you like doing.

If you're lucky enough to end up with children, love them and do the best you can to teach to be good people.

The rest is all circumstance.
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Post by: wombat on April 25, 2016, 02:05:34 pm
taking the subway an hour and a half to see Arthur Avenue on a Saturday sounds great.

Is the Bronx a place people visit now? Have the hipsters finally made it there? My friend the AP travel editor just did an article about Arthur Ave, but she is a New Yorker so that doesn't necessarily mean it's familiar to the rest of the world.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 25, 2016, 03:51:50 pm
I don't know if it's a place hipsters visit. But I'm an urban planner. Soon, at least. I even went on a tour of Newark a while ago. The hipsters are definitely not there yet.
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Post by: pmcd9 on April 26, 2016, 10:28:12 pm
Here's my prize for winning:

(https://scontent-lax3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xft1/v/t1.0-9/13087345_1014333931970046_8013895328690611426_n.jpg?oh=1f1b05bbdd0bd40c41d49a9fde9bda87&oe=57B0AC2B)

Nice. Very nice.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 28, 2016, 02:54:08 pm
Last night three-quarters of the band did an open mic. (We say it's a "collective" rather than a band, and we're OK playing in different combinations.)

We have been working on Mumford's "The Wolf." (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vD3iXpv4h-o) I sing the lead on it and it's at the upper end of my capabilities. I can sing it, but I have to project like hell to hit the high notes, particularly on the bridge. In practice, I usually go at about 75% effort to avoid killing my voice. We ran through it at the house last night before going out and I did it at like 50%.

Once there, we did it as the last song. Knowing that was it, I could let it rip.

I don't know if it sounded good, but damn if it didn't FEEL good.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 28, 2016, 04:00:19 pm
It really changed my car-singing game up when I realized you can hit higher notes when you sing louder.

Way to rip it Carlos. Playing music with friends in front of people is one of the most fun activities.

I thought Mumford & Sons were some kind of banjo indie-folk thing with man harmonies? What's with the electric guitars in this song? This is like Foo Fighters.



Today I ran into my boss/professor and she 1. loved my big final paper about St Louis and 2. told me I can work for her this summer until I find a job. This is great news.

Annoying: next year she's teaching a class on research methods that I wish I could take. And a new professor is teaching a class on spatial analysis computer programming stuff. Damn. On the other hand: once I have my degree I can read whatever books I want. Even books about spatial analysis.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 28, 2016, 04:40:02 pm
I thought Mumford & Sons were some kind of banjo indie-folk thing with man harmonies? What's with the electric guitars in this song? This is like Foo Fighters.

I know right?! I haven't heard the whole album but apparently it's more straightforward rock. Which is good, because the twee banjo stuff was getting tired.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 28, 2016, 05:45:18 pm
Wait, Mumford and Sons have ditched the banjos? I didn't know that. That is worth checking out.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 28, 2016, 05:46:42 pm

the widow-lady neighbour was talking to the youngest kid over the fence yesterday. i guess she noticed me making with the mucho construction and was curious. when the kid told her it was for garden and chickens she asked 'no pigs or cows?' and the boy told he nope just cluck-clucks.

I hope she enjoys that feeling of relief for one more turn of the seasons because the kid forgot to add "Not yet."

And don't forget the GOATS.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 28, 2016, 06:28:58 pm
As far as I can tell you fear nothing else in the universe, and goats are what does it for you?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on April 28, 2016, 06:50:59 pm
Naaaaaaah.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 28, 2016, 09:32:53 pm
Are we sure that is a goat in the first video? The head looks like a sheep to me.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 29, 2016, 04:53:47 am
Next year she's teaching a class on research methods that I wish I could take. And a new professor is teaching a class on spatial analysis computer programming stuff.

No, bad Inev.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: jaydub on April 30, 2016, 04:51:02 am
Definitely a sheep.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 30, 2016, 05:07:24 pm
So, president Obama is giving our commencement address. My family (parents and siblings) are insisting that we go, and I keep repeating that if we go one of them will have to stay home. I only get 3 guest tickets.

To me the answer is obvious: we don't go. There is a graduation ceremony for my actual program the day before where I will receive my diploma, a classmate will speak, they can meet my professors and friends, etc.

They are coming from all over (Boston, Iowa, North Carolina) to visit me and I'm not making one of them sit in my apartment for a couple hours so the rest of us can see the president talk, and probably see a lot of Rutgers people who I don't know give speeches and stuff. But they all want to go.

I am trying to decide if it's within my rights, since it's my graduation, to tell them "sorry, we aren't going."


Talked to my boss at my internship in the city, and she said she thinks there will be lots of turnover at the NYC planning and housing agencies in the fall because elections are coming up. Unfortunately, my lease on my place in Jersey ends at the end of July, so I need to find a job before then. This is making me imagine what will happen if I don't find something by the time I need to move out. Yikes.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 30, 2016, 06:19:59 pm
To me the answer is obvious: we don't go.

Then you are dumb. It's the dang PRESIDENT. And a chance to celebrate something you've accomplished. We don't get enough of those in this life. Enjoy them while you can.

Don't have enough tickets? Take your parents, then draw one of your siblings' names out of a hat.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on April 30, 2016, 07:07:40 pm
Can one of your siblings pretend they are you, the other three use the guest tickets, and you stay home? Then everyone's happy.

I don't think it's your place to decide. That seems kind of Bridezilla-y to me. Anyway it may be your graduation but it's their chance to see the President, and he outranks you.

I do think it's fair to make them work out who has to stay home. However, are you absolutely sure that you don't have a single classmate who isn't using one of their tickets?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on April 30, 2016, 07:38:26 pm
I gotta pile on here. You should go.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on April 30, 2016, 09:41:32 pm
Well, now it's not letting me get any tickets at all. What a mess. It says "register a maximum of three guests" but when I apply for 3 tickets it says it's over the maximum.

LOL, parts of the site are not working because they require cookies. I am on a Rutgers Computer Lab computer.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: KeithHernandez on May 02, 2016, 08:23:35 pm
Can one of your siblings pretend they are you, the other three use the guest tickets, and you stay home? Then everyone's happy.

My first thought!
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 02, 2016, 08:56:25 pm
Well, my possible ticket for my brother fell through. So I am going to tell him he can wear my glasses and graduation gown if he wants to go.

Surprise: my family are acting shocked that I can't find another ticket for him. Because they thought I was just being dramatic when i said someone would not be able to go.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 07, 2016, 05:46:41 pm
A really great surprise I set up for myself was sprung today. When I left St Louis my comic artist friend told us he was getting rid of all his old drawings and that they were free, first come first serve. I got about ten of them and packed them in a box with old ticket stubs, postcards, and other "memory" stuff like that when I moved. Then today I remembered they were in there and got them out. I totally forgot which ones I had... they include multiple concert posters he drew for local bands, the original drawing of the back cover of his first printed comic, and a number of his weekly drawings. I remember him drawing each of them when we lived together, and some of them even happened in front of me when we would go to the coffee shop together while I was studying to apply to grad school. Damn.

Otherwise, I am in a freaked-out mental state that I always achieve when I finish a semester of school. I feel so free that I can't focus on anything. Playing a lot of video games and reading about cheap laptops-- my 6 year old macbook is on its last legs. I'm thinking I want to replace it with something super light and durable-- maybe a chromebook? And then eventually build a cheap desktop PC for games and stuff. It's crazy that in 2016 I think I can have a pretty good desktop PC and ultra light laptop for less than the price of my last computer.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 08, 2016, 11:41:47 pm
"Well, dan, if we can't all get tickets maybe we just shouldn't go."

hands ----> face
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Post by: wombat on May 09, 2016, 02:35:32 am
LOL

It's a happy ending, though. They can't blame you, and you don't have to go.
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 09, 2016, 03:47:09 am
Won't they have like an overflow area where people can go and listen, maybe watch on a screen?
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 09, 2016, 09:27:02 pm
Damn, I never want to be the guy trying to hear the show outside the arena while my buddies go in.

(again)

Me either. I'm just trying to make the best of the situation.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on May 11, 2016, 06:19:57 pm
As in, shit is going to blow up an hour before you're supposed to head out? I'm familiar.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 11, 2016, 08:30:12 pm
All solved: my brother's flight back home is at noon on the same day as Obama's speech. So we'll drop him at the train station on the way there.
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Post by: wombat on May 11, 2016, 09:05:29 pm
Now it's probably safe for me to say that I never went to a single one of my own graduation ceremonies past grade school. As a professor I went to a couple of the individual college ceremonies to hand out diplomas - the university was too large for them to do this at the ceremony where the famous people give speeches etc. I have never once been to one of those huge university-wide graduations.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 12, 2016, 04:30:00 pm
And just to rub it in, now I won the ticket lottery for another ticket. They were supposed to announce this monday.

...also, graduated classmate who works in NYC government just texted me asking if it's true that I have grant proposal experience and am looking for a job. Fingers are so crossed.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 14, 2016, 02:27:10 pm
The Ironic Outcome might be that I end up going to graduation alone. Sister and parents are worried that President In The Building-level traffic will make them too late to get to their flights home.

Today is the department graduation, though, where I walk across the stage and get a diploma and presumably win all of the awards (no actual awards given).

There is no way to say this without risking sounding full of myself. I think my undergrad institution, which was filled with overachiever nerds, gave me a "I'm smart but NOT SMART ENOUGH and also LAZY" complex. The grad school experience has been pretty good for me, in that I think it's given me a more realistic playing field to judge myself against. Maybe not the hardest working, not the absolute smartest, but doing pretty damn good on both accounts. Got some really nice peer feedback during reviews of my final presentation and research paper.

Next up: please give me a job.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on May 16, 2016, 12:38:00 pm
Charleston, South Carolina has a lot of bars, and this weekend I saw the inside of about a third of them.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on May 16, 2016, 03:00:01 pm
Charleston, South Carolina has a lot of bars, and this weekend I saw the inside of about a third of them.

That sounds like a story I'd be interested in hearing.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on May 16, 2016, 05:47:08 pm
I don't know that it's that interesting, aside from the fact that I'm old and don't do this kind of stuff much anymore. We got together some of the old college crew for what was ostensibly a bachelor party (but it's go-round #2 for this guy, so we didn't go to a strip club or do anything overly crazy). Thanks to the miracle of modern mobile phone technology, I can tell you that I drank in eight different establishments on Friday, eight more on Saturday, and two on Sunday (though the last one was an airport bar so maybe it shouldn't count). I also got a badge from Untappd ("Foursquare for beer," which I am overly fond of) for having twelve different beers in a 24-hour period.

I felt surprisingly well in the mornings, and today, all things considered. And I had great foods--barbecue, steak, kick-ass fried chicken with assorted southern sides.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 18, 2016, 02:16:20 pm
After 5 months of looking for jobs, today is the first time I've seen a job opening in St. Louis.

Frankly it's kind of scary. What if I get it and have to decide.

Good news though, I have not had a single interview for a job. So I probably won't get this one either : - p


Spent 2 hours yesterday trying to get sound to work on my Raspberry Pi (I installed a weird different version of linux) and never got it to work. Lots of google results where they just told people to RTFM. Finally realized that under my old installation sound worked fine, and I still had the memory card right there.
Watched some grainy anime with my roommate and ate donuts... a great reward. The subtitles went off the edge of the screen sometimes, but otherwise enjoyable.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 20, 2016, 04:30:50 am
At my job at school we are finally doing on the ground surveys of the neighborhoods I have been looking at data about for the last year. It's the city where school is so I thought I had a sense of what it's like, but damn, I was way off. It's a small city (5 square miles, 55k people) but twice as dense as St. Louis or four times as dense as Charlotte, and around 2/3 immigrants. Before today I could tell you things like "Census Tract 58 has the largest Black population" but not that the grocery store on Lee St. has iguana meat.

It's really nuts the level of activity a density of 10k people per mile can support. Every corner store had people in it, every block had a stoop with people hanging out on it, endless barbershops and tiny grocery stores.
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 26, 2016, 05:57:21 am
At my job at school we are finally doing on the ground surveys of the neighborhoods I have been looking at data about for the last year. It's the city where school is so I thought I had a sense of what it's like, but damn, I was way off. It's a small city (5 square miles, 55k people) but twice as dense as St. Louis or four times as dense as Charlotte, and around 2/3 immigrants. Before today I could tell you things like "Census Tract 58 has the largest Black population" but not that the grocery store on Lee St. has iguana meat.

It's really nuts the level of activity a density of 10k people per mile can support. Every corner store had people in it, every block had a stoop with people hanging out on it, endless barbershops and tiny grocery stores.

That's too many people for me. Also, I've heard iguana meat is very very good.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 27, 2016, 04:08:05 pm
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That's too many people for me.

Actually I'm looking at it and parts of Houston are around 10k people per square mile. I would not have guessed. Although as an outsider I don't know anything about different parts of Houston. A lot of neighborhoods around US Hwy 59 are pretty dense. This is also the density of my old 'hood in St Louis.

Holy HELL, if you look at it on the neighborhood level, it looks like that part of New Brunswick where they sell iguana is more like 30k per square mile. Although... residential parts of NYC are 3 or 4 times that. There are even a few blocks with the equivalent of 220,000 people per square mile.
Density is such a weird thing.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on May 28, 2016, 08:58:54 pm
Actually I'm looking at it and parts of Houston are around 10k people per square mile. I would not have guessed. Although as an outsider I don't know anything about different parts of Houston. A lot of neighborhoods around US Hwy 59 are pretty dense. This is also the density of my old 'hood in St Louis.

Holy HELL, if you look at it on the neighborhood level, it looks like that part of New Brunswick where they sell iguana is more like 30k per square mile. Although... residential parts of NYC are 3 or 4 times that. There are even a few blocks with the equivalent of 220,000 people per square mile.
Density is such a weird thing.

Oh, I know. Houston used to be a city with lots of open spaces, but that's changing rapidly.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 28, 2016, 10:46:38 pm
It is weird how much Houston is a mystery to me. One of the biggest cities in the us...
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on May 29, 2016, 08:18:55 pm
It is weird how much Houston is a mystery to me. One of the biggest cities in the us...

Come on down for a visit, I'll show you around.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on May 30, 2016, 01:10:59 am
This first week where it hits the 90s always feels like getting wrung out like a dishrag.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on May 31, 2016, 10:58:31 pm
Are there tomaters? Oh for hells yes there are tomaters.

Hooray!
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 01, 2016, 12:40:42 pm
I finally got tomato and pepper plants put in this weekend. Lots of seeds to still in the ground and they are way overdue, but between terrible weather, too much other crap going on, and general laziness, it hasn't happened.
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Post by: wombat on June 01, 2016, 01:32:51 pm
I put a serious fence around my little vegetable patch this year. Hoping that we will get the Japanese peppers instead of the rabbits.
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Post by: wombat on June 01, 2016, 05:41:03 pm
Nope, I'm trying to teach the pug NOT to chase things. Before she chases something into the street and commits suicide.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on June 01, 2016, 07:55:37 pm
My little sister moved into her first apartment this week. She asked me if I know fun, free things to do in NYC that aren't museums and don't involve walking a lot. I told her she picked the wrong city to move to.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 03, 2016, 12:39:53 am
I know I told you guys a year ago about my roommate who threw a fit because we didn't put the tea kettle away after we used it. That guy is long gone. There was another woman for a year, now we have a subletter, also from Cleveland where the Tea Kettle Boy was from... and she also puts away the kettle after using it. Coincidence?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on June 03, 2016, 02:09:28 am
Who knows. Maybe years of rooting for the Browns have changed them as a people.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on June 03, 2016, 02:31:52 pm
I do kind of want an electric kettle. But trying to downsize possessions at the moment.

That roommate also puts away dishes from the dishrack at 7am if I leave things in it overnight. I think this roommate situation has helped me take a tiny step towards realizing that other people's neuroses are not my problem.

Today I got back my resume from my aunt who works in HR, and I am reminded why I hate talking to people about how to fix my resume.

I really don't get how resumes work. Half of the things I have read say "whoever is hiring you is not going to look at your resume for more than 30 seconds," which seems true to me, but then people tell me to put all this bullshit on it like clubs and "skills" like communicating or teamwork or my hobbies. If I had 30 seconds to convince someone to hire me I would not tell them about being a member of the glee club or that my customers in St Louis said I made the best lattes.

I am sure I have said these exact things to you guys before.

(I was not in the glee club, I was not in any clubs in college except for the radio station)
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Post by: wombat on June 03, 2016, 04:43:56 pm
I'm sure academia is different, but when I was on the hiring side, I did not want to see that. And I told my students definitely NOT to include clubs and hobbies. Because if you take time away from your work for clubs and hobbies, better not to let them know.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 03, 2016, 05:18:22 pm
I would only be interested in clubs and hobbies if I was specifically looking for new college hires. If we need expressly entry-level people, and I'm not expecting them to have anything relevant in terms of work experience or advanced degrees, then if I want to differentiate potential high performers from boring people, then yeah I'd look at that stuff.

But if you have a graduate degree that is directly relevant to the position, IMO that is worth far more than being music director at the campus radio station or vice president of your fraternity and what not.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 03, 2016, 07:07:19 pm
I was kind of torn about the radio gig, because in several interviews people have asked me about it. It stands out, even if it's not relevant.

I'm glad you guys agree about the clubs/activities/hobbies thing.

I wonder if the weird advice I get has to do with people not being familiar with the field. I do not feel amazing about my job-getting performance so far, but I think a resume that says I worked for a major NYC elected official, for a famous (within urban planning) professor, and for a really big nonprofit is probably not too shabby for just-out-of-grad-school jobs. It's not like my anime collection and making good lattes are all I have to offer.

(I don't know if "famous within urban planning" is a stretch for my frustrating boss at school, but at my interview for the NYC job they knew who she was)

For some reason this week a TON of jobs got posted in various cities after a few weeks of almost no leads. It's gonna be a busy weekend.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on June 03, 2016, 07:48:49 pm
For the love of God don't mention your anime collection.

I think Ash is right about the radio station. If you were director of something at a radio station, that isn't like just belonging to a club. Also, I think that if people have asked you about it in interviews, you've already proved it's worth including. But I would still make sure it was lower down than the experience relevant to your field.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on June 20, 2016, 09:20:45 am
I got drunk as hell in flagstaff and proposed and went to the grand canyon
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Post by: KeithHernandez on June 20, 2016, 09:23:04 am
And saw london bridge:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhN2E4hRDKk
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 20, 2016, 06:30:09 pm
Wombat! How'd you like being at the beach all week? It looks like you handled it OK.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on June 20, 2016, 07:39:19 pm
It was great. It would have been greater if I hadn't had a headache for half the week, but it was the best kind of vacation to feel lousy on - there were all kinds of nice spots in the house to laze around and read a book. The weather was perfect and the crazy pug survived her first trip.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 27, 2016, 04:43:34 am
Fuck yeah, Former Met. Ride that adventure, diggity-diggity.

Are we just assuming that she said yes?
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Post by: KeithHernandez on June 27, 2016, 06:02:12 am
Oh, hahaha, she said no!

It was not a real proposal.  Really.  But it sort of was.  I only did it cause she is moving to London.  She left today.  She is a British citizen.  And smart and caring and doesn't do drugs and likes different things then me (this is always a positive in my relationships as long as she feels the same basic way about the world as me) but feels the same way about the world as me.  Oh...and she is fuck*ng beautiful.

I am going to London either September or December, depending on if I go back to school.  We kinda have a thing where if we both miss each other we might try?  I'm pretty good with it.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on June 30, 2016, 09:24:28 pm
Is... it possible that the reason I have not even had an interview for any of the dozens of NYC jobs I have applied to is that I have not taken the civil service exam on city planning?

Just got a voicemail from a guy saying he wants to interview me but wants to confirm that I have taken the exam. Did I miss the boat on this this badly...
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on July 03, 2016, 06:30:26 pm
Riddle me this: what do you call a jacuzzi that only goes up to 104d when it's 117d outside?

Cold Tub?
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 03:05:00 pm
So, my fear was correct. There is an irregularly-scheduled exam for people applying to City Planning jobs in NYC. I missed the most recent date because I had no idea this thing even existed. There is no schedule of when it will be offered again. I got a call saying they wanted to offer me an interview for a city job, but that I needed to confirm that I've taken the exam, so I had to turn it down.

Somehow I missed that this job listed the exam as one of the requirements, and now I'm nervous that other things I applied to may also have required it. Although, I had only applied to this job a week ago, so maybe I should assume I have already been rejected from everything else.

Either way in 3 weeks I have to be out of my apartment. Fuck.
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Post by: JorgeFabregas on July 06, 2016, 03:56:49 pm
So, my fear was correct. There is an irregularly-scheduled exam for people applying to City Planning jobs in NYC. I missed the most recent date because I had no idea this thing even existed. There is no schedule of when it will be offered again. I got a call saying they wanted to offer me an interview for a city job, but that I needed to confirm that I've taken the exam, so I had to turn it down.

Somehow I missed that this job listed the exam as one of the requirements, and now I'm nervous that other things I applied to may also have required it. Although, I had only applied to this job a week ago, so maybe I should assume I have already been rejected from everything else.

Either way in 3 weeks I have to be out of my apartment. Fuck.
Personally, I blame your school. They should've told you about it, given their proximity to NYC. Not that they need to be spoon feeding you the dates or whatever, but they should at least tell you that it is a thing.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 04:50:48 pm
Yeah, I am really confused that I had never even HEARD of this, even from former classmates who work for the city now. I emailed my boss from last summer and he said he thinks that not all planning jobs for the city require it, but forwarded the question to someone who will know for sure.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 06:43:49 pm
Extra rage:

So you have to take this "exam" at their office at the set times, which only come randomly as far as I can tell. What is the "exam?"

You fill out a piece of paper proving that you have "sufficient education or experience" to qualify as an "experienced planner."

I am pretty firmly in the camp that wants to give bureaucracy the benefit of the doubt. Probably to a fault. but I can't think of any reason that this can't just be a form I fill out after waiting in a line like at the DMV.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 07:34:42 pm
It's like $65.
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Post by: JorgeFabregas on July 06, 2016, 08:01:41 pm
Extra rage:

So you have to take this "exam" at their office at the set times, which only come randomly as far as I can tell. What is the "exam?"

You fill out a piece of paper proving that you have "sufficient education or experience" to qualify as an "experienced planner."

I am pretty firmly in the camp that wants to give bureaucracy the benefit of the doubt. Probably to a fault. but I can't think of any reason that this can't just be a form I fill out after waiting in a line like at the DMV.
That is befuddling. I did some googling to find out why, and that is not the impression I get of the exam:
http://www.cyburbia.org/forums/showthread.php?t=43069
https://www.nyc.gov/html/dcas/downloads/pdf/noes/201101010000.pdf (this says that you have to list experience, but there is also a multiple choice test)
The message board link above says that the exam isn't required for getting work, but you get extra protections/non-provisional status if you take it. Who knows to what extent that's still accurate (both links are from 6 years ago, which is apparently the first time the city offered the exam in a long while).
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Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 08:09:46 pm
The most recent version said it doesn't have any questions like that Cyurbia thread said: here (http://www.nyc.gov/html/dcas/downloads/pdf/noes/201606067000.pdf). Just filling out information about your education and experience.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: JorgeFabregas on July 06, 2016, 08:16:48 pm
Man, that is really something. So it must've been an actual examination at some point, and now they use the exam mechanisms without the actual exam.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 06, 2016, 08:35:54 pm
Well, based on the cyurbia post it would have asked things I don't know much about. So maybe it's moving in the right direction. In order for my program to be accredited there was a long list of things I had to learn (statistics, computer-aided mapping, land use laws, urban history, basic municipal finance stuff).

There is also a professional accreditation for planners that I am supposed to take after a year or two of experience. Maybe I heard about this exam before and thought it was the same thing as that.

On the other hand: a classmate that likes me let me know about a two-year fellowship at the place she's interning, getting paid to learn all about the operations of nonprofits and grants and funding. This sounds promising, and applying for this kind of thing always makes me feel more qualified than applying to Very Practical Jobs.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 12, 2016, 04:49:17 pm
Have a couple of inside lines on jobs in... even more suburban parts of New Jersey. This is a moment where I come face to face with my spoiled assumptions about what my first office job will be like.
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Post by: wombat on July 12, 2016, 06:25:48 pm
Maybe you have to think about how bad the suburbs need you.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 12, 2016, 06:46:07 pm
Intellectually I believe that working at this job will be fine. Although maybe it's a consultant firm where I'll work on boring stuff that is less in service to the public. It's just more that I've mentally gotten through 2 years of rotten social life by telling myself that soon I'll be somewhere more exciting. I will apply to this, and I'm sure living in a small town on the coast is more interesting than I would assume as a city snob.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on July 12, 2016, 08:55:50 pm
On the coast? Where? That possibly changes everything.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 12, 2016, 09:13:50 pm
Red Bank, NJ. I guess it isn't "the coast," it's technically a river, but it looks like an inlet/bay to me.

Also I am counting chickens etc, because if I have an "inside connection" to this job, most of the other people who graduated with me also do. A classmate works there.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: wombat on July 12, 2016, 10:12:51 pm
Yeah that is not the NJ shore. I knew some people who lived in Red Bank a million years ago and from what I remember I think it wasn't too bad. It's an old town, not a new suburb.
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Post by: pmcd9 on July 16, 2016, 02:55:28 am
That's where Kevin Smith is from. He owns a really cool comic shop with it's own television show (http://www.amc.com/shows/comic-book-men).
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Post by: theinevitable on July 17, 2016, 07:26:50 pm
My St. Louis buds were in town all weekend, so I slept on couches Friday and Saturday night. I ran into a coworker in Penn Station and I was wearing the same clothes I was wearing when I saw her friday. Worth it, though. What a nice weekend.

Highlight: snuck into a fancy-ass apartment building and hung out on the rooftop patio... then slipped under a security door and climbed on top of the elevator equipment tower. Great view of all of Manhattan from 6 stories up in Williamsburg.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: pmcd9 on July 18, 2016, 01:30:11 am
Highlight: snuck into a fancy-ass apartment building and hung out on the rooftop patio... then slipped under a security door and climbed on top of the elevator equipment tower. Great view of all of Manhattan from 6 stories up in Williamsburg.

Nice!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 18, 2016, 08:26:07 pm
Maaaaaaaaaaaaan, giraffeing in the Outer Banks this year was absolute bullshit. Absolutely nothing on the sound side where our house was. I didn't even see a giraffe jump. I went once on the ocean side but I couldn't cast far enough to be effective. Need to get me one of them big-ass 12-foot surf rods.

Crabbing wasn't so hot either. We caught a bunch of crabs, sure, but they were all tiny. Need to be five inches across the carapace (yeah that's the word!) in order to keep them. I think we got exactly one that was that size, and who wants to go to the effort to boil one crab so we let it go.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 18, 2016, 10:10:46 pm
Damn, I want to eat some giraffe at a beach! I need to make it out to the shore before the summer's over.

..just got offered an interview at the place I've been interning. Trying to keep the "ugh whatever these people stink, I don't want to work for them" attitude going temporarily so I don't get nervous.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 21, 2016, 01:49:19 am
Today I moved all of my books, my amplifier, and winter clothes into a storage unit. I think I did a good job of knocking out the really heavy stuff first, aside from my records. Still, ugh.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: AugustWest on July 26, 2016, 06:55:13 pm
Circumstances.  Safety.
Education.
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: theinevitable on July 29, 2016, 02:32:29 pm
Today I had a job interview at the place I've been interning. I think it mostly went very well. They were smiling when I explained why I'm interested in the job.

Then they asked one super easy softball question and I spazzed and failed to answer it at all. Just blathered about every possible thing I know about NYC housing policy instead of getting to the point.

They said I'll hear back within TWO OR THREE WEEKS about whether I get a second interview. At this rate I may as well move to Philly.
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Post by: JorgeFabregas on July 29, 2016, 03:41:40 pm
Today I had a job interview at the place I've been interning. I think it mostly went very well. They were smiling when I explained why I'm interested in the job.

Then they asked one super easy softball question and I spazzed and failed to answer it at all. Just blathered about every possible thing I know about NYC housing policy instead of getting to the point.

They said I'll hear back within TWO OR THREE WEEKS about whether I get a second interview. At this rate I may as well move to Philly.

I hate the why do you want the job interview question. Reminds me of a workplace questionnaire I once filled out that asked "What do you like most about working at _____." Of course the real answer was a biweekly paycheck and benefits, but sensing that wouldn't go over well, I answered "Free coffee."
Title: Re: Return of the Son of Today I'm Gonna...
Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 29, 2016, 04:57:09 pm
Similar but different--I got a survey from the Nats a few weeks ago, and after answering that I expected to renew my season tickets, they asked "Why do you expect to renew your season tickets?" The answers were "I feel valued by the team," "I like being able to trade in games easily," "I like the eCash program," and all other things about the features they offer season ticket holders.

I clicked "Other" and wrote in "I really like baseball."
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Post by: theinevitable on July 29, 2016, 05:02:52 pm
Well, in this case the answer was that this is the only job listing I've seen where I could do what I really believe planners should do. So that went over well.

(The position is Technical Assistance Coordinator to a coalition of neighborhood activist groups in NYC-- so mostly explaining to them what proposed new zoning rules would mean, shepherding them through the various appeals processes, and translating their desires and needs into technical language/maps/etc.)
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Post by: theinevitable on July 31, 2016, 01:38:18 am
Everything but one carload of stuff is moved out of my apartment and into a storage unit. Good riddance to this place.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 01, 2016, 03:37:15 pm
Did not do a good job pretending I was going to miss the bad roommate. It still felt kind of weird closing the door for the last time though. That cruddy apartment was mine for two years.

Now all moved in with my friend from school. Small, cute bedroom with a big closet.

I think the plan now is to apply to temp agencies in Philly and look for a place I can rent somewhat short-term starting September 1. Seems like a good base while I apply to things mostly on the eastern seaboard.
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Post by: jaydub on August 01, 2016, 04:39:10 pm
Didn't he end up in Chicago? Just traded the smell of urine for the smell of slaughterhouses and coal.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on August 01, 2016, 06:52:41 pm
http://www.johnsroastpork.com/
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Post by: Asherdan on August 01, 2016, 07:22:31 pm
(http://i.kinja-img.com/gawker-media/image/upload/s--k5m636Zb--/m5dvkzj95cd6xl0k4nnx.gif)
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Post by: theinevitable on August 04, 2016, 02:21:48 pm
Yesterday I went to the gym and lifted weights with my new roommate. I had probably not done that since... high school track practice?

It turns out lifting weights with a petite and lazy lady is a lot less intimidating than doing it with high school guys who won't stop joking about how many of me they could bench press. She did each exercise until it started to mildly burn and then stopped. We were there 25 minutes tops. I suggested that we go again soon and do each one for... a little bit longer.
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Post by: Asherdan on August 04, 2016, 02:45:14 pm
I think your petite and lazy lady roomie is (http://i.kinja-img.com/gawker-media/image/upload/s--k5m636Zb--/m5dvkzj95cd6xl0k4nnx.gif)
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Post by: theinevitable on August 04, 2016, 03:12:08 pm
Yeah. I was definitely thinking about "the gym" in an all or nothing way, instead of thinking "hey, I could do this thing in a moderate way to maintain my health."
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Post by: Asherdan on August 04, 2016, 03:36:35 pm
"hey, I could do this thing in a moderate way to maintain my health."

(http://i.kinja-img.com/gawker-media/image/upload/s--k5m636Zb--/m5dvkzj95cd6xl0k4nnx.gif)
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Post by: theinevitable on August 08, 2016, 03:39:51 pm
Hm. It's hard to get an apartment when you have no income. Landlords or people subletting are not interested in "I'm looking for jobs."
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Post by: theinevitable on August 10, 2016, 08:35:37 pm
My boss at school is asking around to see if there's some way to fudge the bureacracy and keep me on through September. Technically it's a "student job" so it might be tricky.
Tonight: driving to Philly to look at an apartment and meet potential roommates. Nice.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 11, 2016, 04:39:26 pm
So I got an apartment in Philly. Just for the month of September. It is in maybe an area where I do not want to live. Some nearby streets are MENACING. But a few blocks in the other direction it turns into "apparently women feel safe jogging at night here" territory.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 11, 2016, 08:21:49 pm
I cannot get a long-term lease without income, so I am hopping around to places I can take a month at a time. I do not like it.
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Post by: jaydub on August 12, 2016, 06:18:06 pm
Seems like there must be a couch-surfing app out there somewhere.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 19, 2016, 03:18:48 am
Today thanks to a connection of my dad's I talked to a recruiter at a huge company. What a pleasant process. We chatted nicely about my skillset and experience, why I'm interested in the huge company, and then she suggested some job titles I should look out for on their website. It was so... humane.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on August 26, 2016, 07:46:39 pm
I did drop some info into the "Memory Book" but only because it had a place for me to drop in a 'self-potrait':

Why the long face, though?
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Post by: pmcd9 on August 27, 2016, 02:56:33 am
I did drop some info into the "Memory Book" but only because it had a place for me to drop in a 'self-potrait':

(https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CXCXlZTUkAEwpvg.jpg:large)

That's Dan "Strokey Doke" Asher!
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Post by: theinevitable on August 29, 2016, 02:47:02 pm
My boss gave me a task to do while she's on vacation, and told me to meet with a colleague to hear about his ideas for it. It's a 2 page explanation of goals for a meeting they're having with community members. He asked how long it will take me and I said I don't know. He insisted. I said, um, a week? He did not like that answer at all.

Saturday I had dinner with this girl (http://touamb.com/index.php?topic=6702.msg208074#msg208074) and damn I thought I was past that whole mess. It was one of the better meals I've had in years and we ate and had a wonderful conversation and smiled and had a grand ol' time. But then, you know, she left.

I am always a kind of emotionally volatile person, but lately things are really getting to me. Yeesh. Once I get to Philly I really need to find even just a part-time job and an apartment I can stay in for longer than 30 days. Worrying about this many things at once is not working well for me.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 03, 2016, 02:21:41 pm
Sleeping on a mattress on the floor of a dingy room with no lights is not helping my feeling that my life is not going the way I want it to right now.

Philly is great, other than my meeting with a local guy who told me I should apply to jobs in the South and West (of the US, not Philly) unless I'm prepared to volunteer a lot until I find a job. He said small organizations only hire people from the neighborhoods they work in, and the city government almost never hires new people. Ughhh. He suggested Americorps.
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 04, 2016, 10:51:25 am
South and West

Yes! Houston is your destiny. You can sleep on a dingy mattress on the floor of my house for free until you get yourself established.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 04, 2016, 08:15:42 pm
Thanks paul. I actually did see some interesting pictures of new houses being built in Houston. It was interesting because they looked like McMansions in style (windows and stuff) but were shaped like the houses being built in the midwest 100 years ago-- tall and skinny with narrow alleys between each house and its neighbor. The guy who posted them said "just wait for all the urbanists who claim all they care about is density to respond to this saying these houses are ugly." My friend who lives in Austin loves Houston too. I'll have to make it out there some day. I'll add it to my list when I'm looking for jobs.

And I'm mysteriously sleeping like a damn baby on this mattress on the floor. I wonder why? No tossing and turning, just perfect blissful sleep. Maybe I need a harder bed next time.
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Post by: miles on September 05, 2016, 06:38:52 am
Tucson is a very nice city in the South and West of the US. Whatever you do, don't move to Phoenix. But Tucson is great. Not sure what kind of opportunities there are in your field though.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on September 05, 2016, 07:54:58 am
Flagstaff is my favorite place in the world, but I feel like it is more of a place to retire than to build a career.

It is also in the south and west
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Post by: theinevitable on September 05, 2016, 05:44:03 pm
Yeah, the call of the Southwest is not strong for me. He just said there are lots of jobs there because the region is growing instead of shrinking like up here. Bah!
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 06, 2016, 01:38:34 am
Thanks paul. I actually did see some interesting pictures of new houses being built in Houston. It was interesting because they looked like McMansions in style (windows and stuff) but were shaped like the houses being built in the midwest 100 years ago-- tall and skinny with narrow alleys between each house and its neighbor. The guy who posted them said "just wait for all the urbanists who claim all they care about is density to respond to this saying these houses are ugly."

The problem with the houses isn't their aesthetic appeal. I agree, many of them look like the kind of houses you find in places like Chicago from 100 years ago. For me the problem lies in the fact they tore down an actual 100 year old house to build it. A house that was half the size and twice as lovely.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 06, 2016, 02:10:48 am
Sounds about right! Typical.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 06, 2016, 12:56:44 pm
I lived in Albuquerque many years ago and really enjoyed it. Of course, it could be completely different now.

Mmmmm... green chile.
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Post by: jaydub on September 06, 2016, 03:42:30 pm
Chili verde is the best chili.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 06, 2016, 07:07:39 pm
You live there you gotta learn how to spell it and who needs that hassle, man?

You can just use "ABQ" until you get it nailed down.
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Post by: wombat on September 06, 2016, 07:29:39 pm
For me the problem lies in the fact they tore down an actual 100 year old house to build it. A house that was half the size and twice as lovely.

Noooo. All my life I have wondered, why does it seem like people who build buildings hate buildings? Why do people who go into the business of creating buildings seem to take such glee in destroying them?
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 06, 2016, 08:01:51 pm
Noooo. All my life I have wondered, why does it seem like people who build buildings hate buildings? Why do people who go into the business of creating buildings seem to take such glee in destroying them?

Because they want to make as much money as possible. The end.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 06, 2016, 08:36:28 pm
This pro-market urban planner I follow on twitter is always posting clippings from the New York Times from earlier days, claiming all the charm of Manhattan and Brooklyn was being demolished for hideous rowhouses and brownstones that no one could ever love. All just to turn a profit on the schmucks who don't have any taste.

The other point he makes is that we complain about old buildings getting knocked down, but want someone else to foot the bill to keep them unprofitably standing.
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Post by: wombat on September 07, 2016, 01:55:36 am
So a new building is always profitable and an old building always isn't? I don't understand why that would be true. At least, there has to be a point of diminishing returns when everything has been destroyed that attracts people to a place and no one wants to come to your new building anymore.


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Post by: theinevitable on September 07, 2016, 02:42:50 pm
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So a new building is always profitable and an old building always isn't? I don't understand why that would be true.

Well, no. But when they knock down buildings, it is because they believe they can make more money with a new building. And legal cases about historic preservation have mostly been about buildings that were losing money.
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Post by: wombat on September 07, 2016, 04:44:30 pm
I think of this every time I go past a building in our neighborhood where they did one of those things of keeping the old building and/or parts of its facade and building another building all tucked in around and over it. It looks so terrible that I almost wish they'd just torn the old one down. The people involved clearly had no sense of aesthetics, of making something that harmonized and fit in visually. I feel like this could only have been built by someone who actually dislikes buildings.

I think my problem with understanding the world is that I have a very impractical approach to life. I look at the world and say "What could I do that's interesting in order to make money?" But I guess some people say "What could I do to make tons of money?", period. So if I was going to try to make money out of buildings, it would be by doing something with a building that I thought was cool... like spending way too much time writing something about an old building for nowhere near enough money. Whereas a lot of other people would say "I could make a ton of money by knocking that old building down and building a big new one." There doesn't have to be another level of interestingness for them. It's not like or dislike, it's just not giving a fuck except about the numbers. I can't even imagine thinking that way, but I think life must be a lot easier for people like that.

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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 07, 2016, 04:51:44 pm
There is evidence all around us that it's relatively easy to make a lot of money if you don't give a shit about other people or the environment.
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Post by: wombat on September 07, 2016, 06:17:49 pm
But you know, I can almost understand being so evil that you don't care about people or the environment. What I can't understand is spending your life working on something that you don't find interesting. Apparently I find it easier to empathize with being evil than with being able to tolerate boredom.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 07, 2016, 10:19:07 pm
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But you know, I can almost understand being so evil that you don't care about people or the environment. What I can't understand is spending your life working on something that you don't find interesting. Apparently I find it easier to empathize with being evil than with being able to tolerate boredom.

Same.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 09, 2016, 12:17:07 am
I'll just leave this (http://www.seymourduncan.com/wiring-diagrams) here.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on September 09, 2016, 12:19:05 am
I'll just leave this here:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-sgNOCLuGjE
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Post by: AugustWest on September 09, 2016, 01:06:16 pm
Ray does not like urban renewal projects. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MF95crf8ado)
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Post by: theinevitable on September 09, 2016, 03:44:09 pm
weird embarrassment: my new roommate picked up my guitar to play it, noticed the weird buzz, tuned it, and it went away. What?? I know how to tune a guitar. What just happened?
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 14, 2016, 12:39:08 am
Because they want to make as much money as possible. The end.

Forever and ever, amen!
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 14, 2016, 12:47:56 am
So a new building is always profitable and an old building always isn't?

In my neighborhood it goes something like this. A developer will buy a bungalow for maybe $250-300K. He could spend $50-100K to modernize it and turn it over for maybe $400-450K, making $50k profit. Or, he could knock it down, spend $100k building a MacMansion in it's place and sell it for $800k. Profit, $400K. With math like that how can they resist?
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Post by: wombat on September 17, 2016, 02:30:10 am
It can really cost the same to renovate as to build a whole new house? I guess that's the part I have a hard time wrapping my mind around.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 20, 2016, 05:16:43 pm
Yup.  Board's up.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 20, 2016, 06:02:06 pm
(http://www.bigfool.com/huuugs/yay.png)
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Post by: wombat on September 20, 2016, 06:02:46 pm
I guess constantly dying and coming back to life is appropriate for an Achewood board.
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Post by: miles on September 20, 2016, 08:04:50 pm
I don't post all that often but man, I was pretty bummed out the last few days. Feel a little better now.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 20, 2016, 08:20:16 pm
I know that you are not supposed to get your hopes up too much about a job interview, but DAMN getting one for a job I really want feels good.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 20, 2016, 09:04:10 pm
Ugh but I NEED A GODDAMN JOB (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NL-lYj9e8l8)
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Post by: miles on September 20, 2016, 09:22:03 pm
I have faith that soon you'll be able to say you found a job (https://youtu.be/lHc7eYucCKY).
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Post by: miles on September 20, 2016, 11:18:27 pm
Right, hopefully a job planning cities (https://youtu.be/jJMxwBmQWHA), or whatever.
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Post by: jaydub on September 20, 2016, 11:46:25 pm
Ooh, damn.  Byrne.
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Post by: AugustWest on September 21, 2016, 03:12:10 am
Hopefully not working in a... (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAzAucMOE0s)
Or... (https://youtu.be/iOhVbjsxlH0?t=1m8s)
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 22, 2016, 01:49:38 am
The one that's hardest to do?
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Post by: JorgeFabregas on September 22, 2016, 02:56:00 am
I'm guessing circular and running bond mixed, which I imagine requires cutting bricks.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 22, 2016, 04:04:40 pm
My macbook has been on the decline for a while, and this week I finally bit the bullet. Bought a super cheap used thinkpad off of ebay and put linux on it. I'm having a blast with this thing, but one flaw is driving me up the wall: it has a German keyboard. The labels on the keys are a mild annoyance, it's rare that I look at the keyboard, but the shapes of the keys are also different. Specifically, the Enter and Shift keys are narrower and there's an extra symbol key where I am used to their inner edges being.

Other than that: it has the same specs as my 6 year old macbook, but weighs half as much, lasts several times longer, and doesn't get hot and uncomfortable when I use it on my lap. This thing is great. Making things harder for myself than they need to be with Linux but it's all fun for now.
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Post by: jaydub on September 22, 2016, 04:07:28 pm
The anarchist in me wants to like Linux,  but the activation energy is too high for a dad of young children.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 22, 2016, 04:48:37 pm
Yeah, it seems like they are still not at the point where it's easy enough to get going when you have other demands on your time and need it to just work. Although to be fair what I meant was I made it harder on myself for not going for an "easier" distribution. I think most of the stuff I've struggled with would be solved for me in Ubuntu, but I wanted a sick custom setup because I look at Reddit too much.

Playing some Factorio on this thing, that game pushes all my fun buttons even though I'm pretty bad at it.

Also: it's mindblowing to me that a $250 computer can be this good.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 27, 2016, 04:23:34 pm
Interview in Virginia in mid-october, interview in NYC early october, my Inside Woman at a job in Texas says she's "90% sure" I'm getting an interview. Too much at once.
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Post by: wombat on September 27, 2016, 07:28:55 pm
Where in Virginia?
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 27, 2016, 08:59:17 pm
Where in Virginia?

(http://i.imgur.com/NUyttbn.gif?noredirect)
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Post by: theinevitable on September 27, 2016, 10:02:31 pm
McLean. I will be near some of you fine folks, not sure yet what the timetable is.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 28, 2016, 01:33:46 pm
(http://www.bigfool.com/huuugs/yay.png)
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Post by: theinevitable on September 29, 2016, 09:41:00 pm
There's an NYT article today talking about the personality traits in kids that predict future drug addiction and... geez. I'm glad I managed to divert my reality-avoiding/stimulation-seeking tendencies into books and video games and guitar bands. And posting on a board about alive stuffed animals.
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Post by: pmcd9 on September 30, 2016, 01:32:35 am
Where in Texas?
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Post by: KeithHernandez on September 30, 2016, 02:24:28 am
There's an NYT article today talking about the personality traits in kids that predict future drug addiction and... geez. I'm glad I managed to divert my reality-avoiding/stimulation-seeking tendencies into books and video games and guitar bands. And posting on a board about alive stuffed animals.

I did all that and it didn't work, the drugs just made that stuff more fun.  Especially the books and guitar bands.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 30, 2016, 06:28:54 pm
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Where in Texas?

Austin. Fingers crossed.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 01, 2016, 05:49:31 am
Austin. Fingers crossed.

That's just 3 hours away. And I know people there who like to take in exchange students. They might be willing to help you ease your transition into the city. If this goes down, I'll do what I can to help. I'm totally willing to have that awkward conversation with them, you know the one. "You say you are friends with this guy, but  you've never met?" "Yeah, I've known him for about 15 years, but we've never met." "How do you know him?" "He was in high school, I was in my 40s. We like the same comic books."
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Post by: theinevitable on October 01, 2016, 07:02:40 pm
Thanks Paul! One of my best friends from college lives there but it's always good to have more connections.

Went to a cool concert last night and then walked around for a few hours before coming home. Philly is the best.

Also, had my last day at my student job. I am now totally unemployed. For the moment it actually feels... kind of good. But I will need money pretty soon.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 03, 2016, 01:19:47 am
I know people in Philly, should you need any connections there.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 04, 2016, 05:38:30 pm
Thanks Mr. del Vaca.

Phone interview in NYC went pretty well. They said I was one of 10 people they were interviewing out of 120 applicants. I feel so special!

They want a writing sample with quantitative population analysis. I... um... kind of have one. It is not my best work. It's from that cruddy internship where they never gave me feedback on anything I did, so it's basically a first draft.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 05, 2016, 05:20:09 pm
(second interview, my dudes and dudettes)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 05, 2016, 09:31:05 pm
Unfortunately it looks like the VA trip is going to be a very short affair. I am getting in late Sunday, interviewing Monday, and then leaving Monday afternoon. Sorry guys.

I am interested in your insight on whether I can find someplace pleasant to live within not-hellish commuting distance of McLean, VA. I am a little concerned that my definition of "pleasant" might limit my options. Could I just live in DC, or would that be a horrible commute? Google Maps seems to say it would only be 30-40 minutes from western areas of DC, but I would trust local knowledge more.

The place I'm living in Philly is so ideal, aside from being with some very messy/dirty 23 year olds. Two blocks from a subway station, 1/2 mile from a big grocery store, cheap rent, nice clean bedroom with central air and a big closet. This is going to spoil me for living anywhere else. It is definitely not a "hip" area but for $400 a month I can handle taking the trolley to see shows.

Also, finally found the correct walkthrough to get brightness and volume keys working on the new Thinkpad. Now the only problem is that the touchpad is ATROCIOUS. I've messed around with all kinds of settings but it's still not even close to the buttery-smooth Macbook experience. But the form factor on this thing, otherwise, is great. I picked up my old macbook today to find a file I had saved on there and it felt so huge and heavy and silly.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 06, 2016, 12:44:58 pm
I am interested in your insight on whether I can find someplace pleasant to live within not-hellish commuting distance of McLean, VA. I am a little concerned that my definition of "pleasant" might limit my options. Could I just live in DC, or would that be a horrible commute? Google Maps seems to say it would only be 30-40 minutes from western areas of DC, but I would trust local knowledge more.

Going out from DC to Tysons shouldn't be too bad. The Metro runs out that way now (silver line), so figure out if your place of employment is close enough to one of those stations. The Metro ain't what it used to be, but it's still mostly good, and the silver line is all shiny and new.

The typical place for hip young people to live is Arlington, on the orange line stretch from Rosslyn to Ballston. Expensive af though, especially if you want your own place. Same goes for many good neighborhoods in DC. When I first moved here I lived in a group house in Mount Pleasant--seven of us altogether, which had its downsides, but it was cheap as hell and I could walk to Adams-Morgan on the weekends. Then I lived in Arlington with three other people, who were all awesome (one of them ended up being in my wedding), it was affordable, and it was walkable to the Metro. Back in my day the Washington City Paper was the place to look for "roommates wanted" ads; I expect Craigslist will have that as well.

If you can afford to be a little more spendy, I'd recommend the Mosaic District. Good restaurants and stuff, nice apartments, a straight shot up the Beltway to Tysons. http://mosaicdistrict.com/
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Post by: theinevitable on October 06, 2016, 06:58:47 pm
I want to live alone so much but realistically I'm getting an "entry level" job at age 28 so it might not be in the cards. Just so sick of living with people I don't know. It was one thing living with my friends in St. Louis, but at this point I've lived with 8 different strangers over the last 2 years and change. In Philly or St. Louis I could 100% afford a one bedroom, most other places I'm applying to things it looks like a stretch.

This is a thing that makes me aggravated with affordable housing advocates in NYC who fight against laws to allow smaller apartments. I would be willing to pay for like a 110 sq foot studio there, but they are not allowed to build them. So instead I'll pay $1,200 for a bedroom in a 3 bedroom apartment, and drive up the housing prices for families even more. Good job, assholes. 100 years ago (and probably more recently but I'm not up on when these things changed) a single guy my age would have lived in a rooming house, but they got rid of all of those too.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 06, 2016, 08:34:00 pm
They also got this
http://billypenn.com/2016/08/03/the-city-of-philadelphia-is-cracking-down-on-dumpster-pools/
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Post by: theinevitable on October 06, 2016, 09:22:52 pm
Philly is definitely the good kind of weird with shades of the scary kind of weird.
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Post by: wombat on October 06, 2016, 11:18:37 pm
They also got this
http://billypenn.com/2016/08/03/the-city-of-philadelphia-is-cracking-down-on-dumpster-pools/

That has to be at least in the running for the best official statement from a mayor's office in the history of official statements from major's offices.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on October 07, 2016, 04:02:14 am
We are not screwing around, philly
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Post by: theinevitable on October 07, 2016, 04:26:52 am
Keith you would love Philly. It's so good.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on October 07, 2016, 07:35:53 am
Yeah I've never been to a block party.  You all have block parties with illegal dumpster swimming pools!

It sounds great.  Though LA is great too.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 08, 2016, 12:52:43 am
I am on a hot streak! Now up to 3 interviews in 3 states next week. Luckily one is a Skype interview.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 10, 2016, 07:28:08 pm
I hope you wind up in Philly because of THIS (http://jalopnik.com/that-motherfucker-is-on-the-76-on-a-fuck*ng-big-wheel-1787485639).

Good Lord!

I I thought this guy (https://c2.staticflickr.com/4/3138/2567348089_9e7a1b1244_b.jpg) was nuts. In case you can't read it, it says "fuck gas prices" on the back of his helmet. This is from 8 years ago near the end of the Bush era when everything had gone to hell in a hat basket and gas prices were at their worst. So I assume this guy's probably dead by now, a greasy spot on the freeway.

At least he has a motor, he can probably top out at 50mph. Your guy is much worse, just peddling along like it's nobody's business.

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Post by: theinevitable on October 11, 2016, 05:50:56 pm
On my last day at my school job, my boss had already left for the day by the time I went home. So I left my key to the office sitting on my desk. Now she's emailing me asking where it is, why I didn't return it to her, and forwarded me an email where the facilities people told her how much it will cost to change all the locks. What?? She says she looked all over the office and it isn't there. Why would someone steal the key to our office (not into the whole building, which requires a keycard). Why would anyone ever want to get into our office who can already get into the building?

Is she trying to get me to pay for the cost of changing the locks?

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Post by: theinevitable on October 11, 2016, 07:30:20 pm
I can't figure out what she thinks is in there that's so valuable. Last time someone lost a key (they lost their keychain) she moved all of the contents of all of her filing cabinets into another room.
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Post by: wombat on October 11, 2016, 10:10:02 pm
You may indeed be dealing with a crazy person, but take this as a lesson that that is not how you should return your key on your last day of work. Because really it isn't.
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Post by: jaydub on October 12, 2016, 05:57:39 pm
I have 3 filing cabinets in my immediate vicinity.  All of them were filled by me at various points in time.  I have no idea what is in them.
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Post by: AugustWest on October 13, 2016, 06:27:27 pm
Tomorrow:Chicken (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwuG-slQFGY)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 14, 2016, 03:15:07 am
Had confusing interviews at the job in Virginia. I came out kind of... not sure if I want the job.

Today I had my interview in NYC. That one went awesomely. I got to meet two of the leads in the section who seemed great, and two of my potential peers who were super smart and interesting. They want another writing sample and I am really not sure what to send. They also mentioned the salary range and it was higher than I expected. I really want this job.

Tomorrow, Austin (via Skype).
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Post by: theinevitable on October 15, 2016, 02:16:47 am
Austin interview went OK. It was very stiff and formal. And my wifi gave out and we had to switch to the phone. I was sweating bullets when my computer wouldn't reconnect.

In all of my interviews when they ask if I have any questions, I ask people how they ended up in their current position. I was never really sure why I ask this, other than that I figure it's good to seem interested in people. But at the NYC job I finally got the kind of answers I wanted-- the four people I met all came from different academic fields, talked about totally different things that they like about working in this office, and the two who were my age talked about what they want to try to do next with the skills they're learning there.

At the DC/Virginia interview everyone my age started working there straight out of their undergraduate business program. But of course I'd be starting that career path six years behind the people my age. Yeesh.
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Post by: wombat on October 18, 2016, 09:36:58 pm
You get an impressive amount of stories out of a train commute.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 18, 2016, 11:16:02 pm
yeah, geez dude! My best through worst stories range from "I got really delayed by a bomb" to "I got lost again." You're having adventures over there.

I realized at some point I had lost the best detail of my most extreme getting-lost story, where I got on an express train to the Jersey Shore. Which is that when I got there, I could hear a guy playing acoustic guitar and singing to a crowd in a park next to the platform, and his song was about how everybody remembers where they were on 9/11.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 19, 2016, 04:12:09 am
You get an impressive amount of stories out of a train commute.

Succinct.
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Post by: wombat on October 19, 2016, 01:52:39 pm
I guess there's more potential for variety on the train. The idiotic things drivers do mostly fall into a limited number of categories.
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Post by: wombat on October 19, 2016, 04:34:39 pm
You know what's also better about the train? You are less likely to get yourself killed in an accident.
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Post by: AugustWest on October 19, 2016, 06:57:42 pm
The reason I drove into work was to give a new dentist a shot.

In my experience, the reverse usually happens.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 19, 2016, 07:08:02 pm
Yeah, driving to work blows. It was really pathetic how much commuting on the Turnpike for a month wrecked me.

The one driving thing I have not figured out: letting people merge. I had never lived someplace where highways were crowded enough that this was an issue. But on the Turnpike there are people trying to merge, I'm in the right hand lane, and the lane to my left is full of people going faster than me/my lane. And of course the merging lane is like 1/2 as long as it should be. Ugh.
I feel like in a perfect world, merging is their problem, right? I should not have to adjust my driving to let them merge if everyone is driving with appropriate distance in front of them. But that never happens.
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Post by: wombat on October 19, 2016, 08:21:22 pm
Your dentist story makes me want to punch someone. I don't understand doctors/dentists/ etc. I don't understand how hard it is to make appointments at a certain time and actually see the person at that time. I have to make appointments with people in my job. If I make an appointment to call someone at 11, I call them at 11. If I have another appointment to call someone else at 12, I get off the 11:00 call before 12. It doesn't seem like rocket science.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 20, 2016, 03:18:17 pm
I am a finalist for the job in NYC. They called to ask a few questions (how soon could I move there, would I commit to stay for several years if I got it, etc) and said they'll be in touch in a few days. I'm losing my mind.

Trying to think about how it's very possible I won't get it. But damn, I want it.
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Post by: wombat on October 20, 2016, 05:25:33 pm
Oh same here. Now the suspense is killing me too.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2016, 03:40:05 am
They can get some other job that pays a lot of money, is that a good trade?

(no, obviously we need all types of people making urban planning decisions too)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2016, 04:21:47 pm
Rejected from the Austin job. I'm saying... where I'm going, I don't need Backup Job Offers.
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Post by: wombat on October 21, 2016, 04:22:50 pm
Inev worked at a grocery store, so he's done his best to be disadvantaged despite his parent's best efforts, don't you think? Can't blame a person for the circumstances of his birth.
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Post by: wombat on October 21, 2016, 06:20:30 pm
Well, you don't have to pick up actual shit to learn what kind of shit people in less fancy jobs have to put up with.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 21, 2016, 08:21:33 pm
Quote
Inev worked at a grocery store, so he's done his best to be disadvantaged despite his parent's best efforts, don't you think? Can't blame a person for the circumstances of his birth.

Unfortunately the grocery store job did not wash away the stain of my parents paying for my private high school / private college. They also kicked in some rent money during grad school, although I got the free tuition on my own. (you know, albeit with the brains and education they provided for me). Almost debt free with a master's degree at 28 is pretty not-disadvantaged. But glad you think of me that way ; - )
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Post by: jaydub on October 21, 2016, 10:44:47 pm
My parents wouldn't tolerate my loafing freeloader ass during the summers in college, so I had to become a wage slave to the most transient of job types.  Two of them stand out as true motivators for my degree completion: a part-bag-stuffer for a Rainbird distributor in Livermore (CA), and a post-hole-digger for a sign company in an uncer-construction VA cemetery in Los Banos.  The Rainbird distributor was in a light industrial park in a non-climate controlled warehouse during July-August.  The temperatures inside were 95-100, and some plant I was allergic to was in full bloom the whole 5 weeks.  Days consisted of picking parts from a Raiders of the Lost Ark warehouse arrangement of bins with a list of 10+ digit alphanumberic ids, then putting the prescribed set into a baggie, heat-sealing it, and stapling on a cardboard retail label.
The post-hole digger one was epic - Los Banos in the summer rarely drops below 100F and 12pm-3pm were usually 110+  A little troop of us (me, a caucasian ex-con, and 5 Mexican gentlemen of uncertain documentation) walked behind a truck with an auger on it.  Every 30 feet or so the truck would drill a 18" diameter hole, and one of us would spend the next few minutes shoveling the loose dirt out.  That only went on until noon, because they didn't want anyone stroking out in the heat.  We'd spend the early afternoon pouring concrete and placing brass markers into the cured concrete.  The rest of the crew called me either Professor or Doctor due to my schooling past 8th grade.  The ex-con (robbery, drugs and assault) told me at least once a day to stay in school.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 22, 2016, 01:36:29 am
What are we doing rooting for the upper-middle white kid?

Fuck you, Inev, I hope the female non-white cripple takes that job right out of your mitts.

(rough chuckles?)

I'm all for black women with, I don't know, plantar warts? But Inev is our friend, old boy network, bitches!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 24, 2016, 05:14:46 pm
New dumbest thing in the world: https://www.facebook.com/DailyYeshua/photos/a.1149001125115251.1073741828.1148969105118453/1502708549744505/?type=3&theater

Subtract your age from 2016! You'll probably get the year you were born! holy fuck*ng shit Jesus is real!
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 25, 2016, 07:31:23 pm
Praise the Lord, I understand math!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 26, 2016, 12:56:36 pm
Lately I find myself going to Facebook, reading about two screens worth of posts, then remembering Facebook sucks and is terrible and finding something else to do.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 26, 2016, 06:49:16 pm
Rejected from jobs in Texas and Virginia, still no news on NYC.

Should have kept applying to other stuff throughout this process.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 26, 2016, 08:18:48 pm
I knew it the whole time, but my powers of laziness and procrastination are very strong. With a healthy scoop of petulant self-sabotage.

I got a lump sum from my last month of work at my school job and it lulled me into a false sense of security, money-wise. What's the opposite of counting chickens before they hatch? Even as I imagine I won't get the NYC job, I worry about logistics if I did get it. Moving to New York is not cheap.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 27, 2016, 07:34:46 pm
I got the job. losing it rn.

I start in a month. Apartment search starts now.
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Post by: wombat on October 27, 2016, 08:06:47 pm
OMG OMG OMG!!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 27, 2016, 08:08:32 pm
I got the job. losing it rn.

(http://www.bigfool.com/huuugs/yay.png)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 27, 2016, 09:00:17 pm
The woman who called totally played me too. She went into some "we really appreciate your time, thank you for your application, we thought you were very qualified" before finishing with "and we'd like to offer you the job."

I keep thinking I must have misunderstood somehow and I didn't get it, but you don't tell the person you're rejecting what the salary and start date are.

(it is an amount of money that sounds insane to me, but I'm told in NYC is not very much.)
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 27, 2016, 09:25:31 pm
Yay!!! Inev with money in his pocket!
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Post by: wombat on October 27, 2016, 10:32:19 pm
I am really ridiculously excited about this.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 28, 2016, 12:07:53 am
Me too!

My friend had a lead on a surprisingly cheap place (living with 4 other guys with 1 bathroom, south of Prospect Park) but the spot had already been taken. Luckily I have a month to obsess about finding a place.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 30, 2016, 06:20:00 pm
I keep having these little aftershocks of stunned happiness when I realize more things. I can sell my car! I can go home for the whole week for Thanksgiving! (the job starts the last week of November or first of December)

The apartment search is already stressing me the f out though. All of my other apartment desires are falling by the wayside, I just want to live with someone I like, and without a hellish commute.

Do you guys want to take over/under on how long I work there before impostor syndrome sets in?

Well, it already kind of is, because they never sent me the information they said they were sending me, or called me back about when I can come sign the contract. WHAT IF IT'S ALL A MISTAKE.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 31, 2016, 05:46:07 am
It's not a mistake.
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Post by: jaydub on October 31, 2016, 04:45:28 pm
Congratulations!  You're gonna do great.  You'll make mistakes, but they will a) make you better at what you do and b) won't spell the end of your career or the death knell of your company. In my experience, it isn't the people who care too much that get themselves fired.
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Post by: pmcd9 on October 31, 2016, 07:11:41 pm
New York City Planner, huh? Can you do something about Donald Trump?
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Post by: theinevitable on October 31, 2016, 10:03:43 pm
I'll take him down. Don't worry.

Maybe I'm going up Wednesday to look at a ridiculous hipster apartment in a loft. This place looks super over the top but it's affordable and a 4 month lease... so if I hate it i can find someplace to move.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 04, 2016, 07:53:03 am
I'll take him down. Don't worry.

We're counting on you, man.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 04, 2016, 04:56:35 pm
The very first place I visited was great and the people liked me and want me to move in. I'm taking it and not second guessing. It's tiny and gorgeous and reasonably placed  for the area... done.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 05, 2016, 08:53:24 pm
Shit is already getting overly complicated with starting the job, moving, signing lease, etc. The outgoing roommate had said she'd be out before the end of the month, but it turns out meant meant a day or two early max. The job is being incredibly slow to give me any confirmation of anything, a start date, etc. Which makes it difficult to sign a lease-- I can't confirm my salary, when I'll start, or even that I've signed a contract.

Meanwhile my New Yorker former roommate is giving me shit about where I am moving and how much I'm paying. Come on dude.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 11, 2016, 06:06:18 am
They somehow still can't get it together to give me any proof that I'm hired, but are still asking how soon I can start. The landlord won't rent to me unless I give her proof that I'm employed and earning enough to pay the rent. They gave me an "offer letter" but it stipulates that my hiring has to be approved by the city budget office, which will take several weeks. Does this mean I can't sign the lease for several weeks?

Nervous because the woman moving out is (rightfully) antsy about why this is taking so long. She doesn't want to be on the hook if things fall through.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 17, 2016, 06:20:31 pm
All this moving shit coming down to the wire is not fun. Now they spring on me that the next step is coming into their rental office to sign stuff and pay the first month/deposit in person. I was planning on driving home for Thanksgiving tomorrow, but I guess instead I'm driving to NYC tomorrow or Monday.
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Post by: wombat on November 17, 2016, 07:34:47 pm
In person? What is this, 1980?
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Post by: theinevitable on November 17, 2016, 08:16:05 pm
Yep. This is a pain. But I have a place to live so I'll deal with it.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 19, 2016, 04:53:52 am
In person? What is this, 1980?

You couldn't even fax it to them?
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Post by: theinevitable on November 19, 2016, 05:33:46 pm
For some reason they want me and the outgoing roommate to meet and sign it in front of them. I'll also hand over the rent and security deposit.

So I have a few more days in Philly. Unfortunately I have a horrible cold that won't go away, but I'm trying to think of some fun "bye Philly" stuff to do.

I've already eaten way too many cheesesteaks. My body would probably thank me for never eating another cheesesteak.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on November 20, 2016, 01:30:55 pm
I got a cheesesteak hankerin' last night, and went to a local pizza/sub place. It was OK, but mostly made me wish I could go to Philly and get a really good one.

Been to the art museum yet? Franklin Institute? Do people still hang out on South Street?
How about Hop Sing Laundromat? I wrote about that here: http://touamb.com/index.php?topic=3806.msg191524#msg191524
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Post by: theinevitable on November 20, 2016, 06:16:40 pm
Maybe I'll go to the art museum again. Hop Sing sounds cool but I do not know anyone to go with.

And yeah, South Street is still a hangout spot-- although I've heard it isn't as cool as it once was. Lots of fancy yuppie restaurants now, and even a Whole Foods.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on November 21, 2016, 01:50:01 pm
Hop Sing sounds cool but I do not know anyone to go with.

Don't you have, like, dozens of Tinder dates lined up?!?
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Post by: theinevitable on November 21, 2016, 05:49:11 pm
Oh, that woulda been a good idea. I did have a lot of tinder dates while I lived here.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 27, 2016, 06:47:19 am
I could tell two long boring stories here about how I spent a combined 24 hours driving to Charlotte and back, which should have only taken 16-17 hours. But I'd rather just say... I'm glad that tomorrow I'm moving someplace where I won't need to drive a car.

I'm bad at driving, driving sucks.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 28, 2016, 05:46:08 pm
A world where getting extra 200lb rocks to move is a blessing. I'm glad you have found your bliss.

I'm about to go buy my first unlimited metrocard. Which might be mine.

My roommates seem very nice and the bedroom is bigger than I thought. I live 2 blocks from a friend from college and a great bagel place. I joined a mailing list that will tell me about nerdy events all over the city every week (book readings, meetups, whatever). I need to figure out where to get cheaper groceries, because this morning a bag of brown sugar and a pound of Quaker Oats oatmeal cost me $7.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 28, 2016, 07:02:59 pm
I think you have to buy a new card at the station every month. Maybe you can get one mailed to your house, I'm not sure. I am curious about how hectic my commute will be, but at worst it will just be crowded. At peak hours from my house to my job is supposed to be about 25 minutes. No transfers, which I think is pretty luxurious.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 28, 2016, 07:32:35 pm
It could happen. But it might be optimistic to think I'll ever get a seat.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 29, 2016, 12:18:45 am
I think you have to buy a new card at the station every month.

It's hard to believe you can't do this online.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 29, 2016, 12:45:06 am
Public transit is apparently the last place to hear about new technologies like... the internet. But yeah, you gotta buy the card at the station.

After all of my travails with getting lost on the subway system and getting mad about the lack of signage, today felt like a joke. I got off the train and there was a helpful sign on the wall (https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8619/15677230960_bc7a526744_b.jpg) and you just walked down the hall and it went right into the lobby.
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Post by: AugustWest on November 29, 2016, 03:52:51 am
Nice rocks dude!  I need to post pics of my new cork kitchen floor.  Been workin' my ass off on that thing tellyawhut.
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Post by: AugustWest on November 29, 2016, 03:52:42 pm

I would be interested in the installation woes of cork flooring.

It's just like a regular hardwood engineered floor.  The planks click together.  Once I figured out how to make them do that (only took two days, thank you YouTube) it went fine.  Of course you have all the usual pains in the ass associated with flooring installation -- the constant up and down, the cutting of the strange angles, the heavy appliance moving.  But that's to be expected.
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Post by: wombat on November 29, 2016, 06:25:42 pm
After all of my travails with getting lost on the subway system and getting mad about the lack of signage, today felt like a joke. I got off the train and there was a helpful sign on the wall (https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8619/15677230960_bc7a526744_b.jpg) and you just walked down the hall and it went right into the lobby.

Oh wow, cool sign. I hope your actual job is half as good as the fact that that sign points to your building.
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Post by: pmcd9 on November 30, 2016, 02:01:19 am
Public transit is apparently the last place to hear about new technologies like... the internet. But yeah, you gotta buy the card at the station.

Sounds like the government. I've heard the nuclear silos run on 7" floppy discs. Those computers are ancient.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 30, 2016, 02:04:40 am
That's high tech compared to the NYC subway, which still runs on pre-computer technology from 100 years ago. There's an article somewhere with pictures of a command center where everything is operated by cranks and levers like in 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea.
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Post by: pmcd9 on December 01, 2016, 05:06:59 pm
That's high tech compared to the NYC subway, which still runs on pre-computer technology from 100 years ago. There's an article somewhere with pictures of a command center where everything is operated by cranks and levers like in 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea.

Is it steam powered? Do the operators all wear pith helmets for some reason?
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Post by: theinevitable on December 05, 2016, 02:12:49 am
Two cool stresses:

When I was planning this whole move I did not think about the fact that I won't get my first paycheck for 2 weeks. I am deadass broke. Also not sure my office-appropriate wardrobe is going to stretch gracefully to cover the 2 weeks until i can buy some more shirts and #####.

I just drove my car to the Philly suburbs to leave it at my uncle's house. i asked him where to leave the key. I took it out and put it on the table. Then I took the train back to Brooklyn... and found the key in my pocket. i do not know how it got there.

on the other hand:

apartment in Brooklyn is great, although at the moment my room is stuffed wall to wall with boxes. Not much room to maneuver, and not clear what stuff I can get rid of.

I start my exciting job tomorrow. It's all worth it.
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Post by: AugustWest on December 05, 2016, 06:21:34 pm
HOW COULD YOU HAVE DONE SUCH A THING!
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Post by: pmcd9 on December 05, 2016, 06:34:14 pm
I hope your first day at work goes great except for that one heinous social gaffe you're going to make and then come here and obsess to us all about.
HOW COULD YOU HAVE DONE SUCH A THING!

C'mon man, give the kid a break. Remember Inev, you are the Universe (https://youtu.be/zkv-_LqTeQA)!
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Post by: theinevitable on December 05, 2016, 11:59:05 pm
First day was great. My ##### were too tight and I felt like everyone could see my Business. Other than that my only gaffe was getting conspicuously lost repeatedly. Everyone was very nice, I got lunch with the guy whose project I'm taking over, caught an express train home. Life is good.

Also ran into a woman I know from college who had great post-college gigs, then went to grad school at any Ivy League school. We now have the same job title in the same department but the shit I get to work on sounds cooler. Nice.
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Post by: wombat on December 06, 2016, 10:16:11 am
Do we get to know what the project is?
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Post by: theinevitable on December 06, 2016, 11:51:13 pm
So, most of this job right now is getting ready for the 2020 Census. The Census Bureau keeps a master list of every address in the country and mails out surveys-- if they don't know about an address, that household doesn't get counted. In NYC this is a huge issue because of how much new construction there is, how many people live in weird tiny apartments, etc. So what my department is doing is collecting address lists from various city departments and comparing them. They each have different strengths and weaknesses. For instance, the Department of Buildings knows about every building, even ones under construction, but doesn't always know how many units there are inside.

My project is getting a handle on "group housing" like prisons, nursing homes, dormitories, military barracks, juvenile homes, and other places of that nature. Apparently these are a big reason we can't just combine all the different address lists digitally-- the Post Office might record a dorm as 200 addresses, while the Department of Buildings records it as 1. So when comparing the numbers we got from different agencies it helps to know where these institutions are, which I'm collecting from a few different sources. Once I've done as much as I can from research, we will go out in person to blocks we can't figure out that have big discrepancies between the sources. That's the fun part.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on December 07, 2016, 09:27:59 pm
I assume you will prioritize blocks that appear to have good ramen shops and the like.
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Post by: jaydub on December 07, 2016, 11:29:39 pm
Or strip clubs, pool halls, pawn shops, and similar dens of iniquity.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 08, 2016, 02:59:08 am
Mostly the blocks with big discrepancies are mostly in poor neighborhoods. Not places with good ramen or whatever.

Today my fear was confirmed: a man accosted my coworkers and chased them away because he was convinced they were taking notes about where immigrants live for President Trump.  Yeesh.
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Post by: jaydub on December 08, 2016, 07:26:08 pm
Ask him if Danzig would kick his ass.  That should go over well.
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Post by: Doc on December 09, 2016, 01:59:45 am
Today my fear was confirmed: a man accosted my coworkers and chased them away because he was convinced they were taking notes about where immigrants live for President Trump.  Yeesh.

Is it a gubmint job? Are they technically correct?
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Post by: theinevitable on December 09, 2016, 03:05:57 am
It is a government job, and the Census does record where immigrants live. But our job is just recording all of the mailing addresses in New York City, so they can send them a questionnaire for the census in 4 years. If this guy wants to write down that he's a Native-Born White Male I don't think anyone would catch him.

But yeah, his fears are reasonable. In the 1940s the Census handed over the addresses of all the Japanese-Americans.
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Post by: Doc on December 09, 2016, 01:28:11 pm
There was some drama here this year because there was a decision to stop de-identifying data as thoroughly in this year's census (my understanding so they could provide longitudinal data going forward) and a lot of people didn't fill it out as a protest thing. Or at least a lot of people said they wouldn't do it on facebook. At the time those fears seemed a bit abstract but then there are people talking about muslim registries, so who knows anymore.
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Post by: jaydub on December 09, 2016, 05:12:30 pm
I am delighted that I got to speak to Henry Rollins, even if by proxy, and that was a solid answer.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on December 09, 2016, 07:19:46 pm
When there's an e-mail from the building manager saying "All workspace moves have to be coordinated by me," you know that means someone just up and moved themselves into an empty cubicle.

The move from my office to a cube farm is taking some getting used to. I can overhear a lot of extraneous conversations. On the other hand, today I spontaneously went to lunch with co-workers for the first time in years.
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Post by: AugustWest on December 10, 2016, 05:16:14 am

The move from my office to a cube farm is taking some getting used to.

You get used to it.  It does have some ok aspects.
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Post by: jaydub on December 12, 2016, 06:10:53 pm
My company got acquired by Titanic MegaCorp, Inc over the summer, and finally the shoe has dropped.  We are contracting our campus footprint from 3 buildings to 2, after shedding about 15% of the personnel over the last 6 months.  Since I currently possess 2 double-size cubicles worth of real estate, my fiefdom is going to contract from about 600 square feet (no lie) to a portion of this veal pen abomination:
(http://i.imgur.com/Ysd1lzn.jpg)
We are getting more "collaboration space" - lounge-y type areas with white boards and maybe image projection, and I spend a lot of the day in the labs, but this rearrangement is going to suck.
In addition, since the buildings are going to be renovated in the process, we are going to play musical chairs for 3 months: Building A moves to Building C, while A gets renovated; they move back and Building B moves to Building C while it gets renovated, then we move back and Building C gets closed.  We're also losing our onsite catered lunch for a lesser option TBD.
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Post by: pmcd9 on December 13, 2016, 12:28:01 am
We are getting more "collaboration space"

I think that's corporate code for "your cube partners are going to be so annoying and distracting you'll need to wear headphones at all times in order to get any work done."
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on December 14, 2016, 02:20:13 pm
That is damn similar to what I've just gone through. Get ready to throw away a bunch of old crap and still have too much stuff to move.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 17, 2016, 12:40:50 am
I got my first paycheck, and of course it's only for 1 week of work. I was flat broke ($12 in my bank account) so this feels really good.

Now I find out that the guy I thought was taking over my bedroom in Philly fell through, so I'm on the hook for $400 (for some weird reason rent is due on the 15th of every month, so, yesterday). Looks like a couple more weeks of good Financial Discipline practice.

I am telling myself that if I am going to be making a lot more money than I've ever made, but living in a very expensive place, it's good that this is forcing me to get in the habit of eating meals at home, finding free events to attend, etc. But I'm getting some serious... what is the non-vulgar term for "blue balls."
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Post by: pmcd9 on December 17, 2016, 09:54:49 am
what is the non-vulgar term for "blue balls."

I think blue balls IS the non vulger term. What would another option be, horny? Wait, that's not right. Horny is a strong desire to have sex, blue balls is expecting to have sex and being denied. I'm not sure there is a clinical term for that.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 17, 2016, 05:04:21 pm
Well, I meant a term that didn't refer to anatomy or sex at all. I guess just frustrated!
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Post by: theinevitable on December 19, 2016, 11:38:56 pm
Great moments. Spent too much on XMas presents and then the electric bill came, I was down to $20 in my checking account. Not great. And then I remembered those board games I sold on Amazon... did the money from that ever show up? Dug around and found out that every time I've sold anything on Amazon, the money was being put in my account at a St. Louis Credit Union that I forgot I had (in fact, I thought I closed it). So I happened upon $200. For once my stupidity has worked out.

Also: just now on the street a man got in my face and said "FUCK YOU, YOU F***** N*****." So I think I'm a provisional official New York resident, at least.
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Post by: pmcd9 on December 23, 2016, 12:02:00 am
Also: just now on the street a man got in my face and said "FUCK YOU, YOU F***** N*****." So I think I'm a provisional official New York resident, at least.

And the environmentalist wonder why most of us don't want to crowd into big cities and use public transportation. Yes, I realize I live in a big city, but I'm becoming increasingly unhappy at how big it's become. I think I need to leave this place.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 23, 2016, 02:52:34 am
well, I think that's kind of a chicken-egg problem. The reason cities got so run down and scary is that everyone left. (because of government policies that encouraged them to leave, but, let's not get too complicated).

I've never had anyone say anything like that to me in any other city, either.

(week-later edit: this was unfair, cities were always pretty dirty and awful, but a lot other rich western countries seem to have done a good job making them clean and nice and not full of people screaming at you)
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Post by: theinevitable on December 29, 2016, 03:59:16 am
Tonight I went to a board game night at a bar near my house. I played silly board games with nice people. Other than that yelling guy my interactions with people in New York have been mostly pleasant.

Our office's admin assistant has a great Brooklyn accent, despite being my age and Asian. It gives me hope for the future of regional accents.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on December 29, 2016, 02:24:51 pm
Hey Inev, that dumpling place was great. Katz's had a line down the block, though, and we had to get to the show. We ended up finding a Mile End, which was on my list anyway.

What with my recent mostly-withdrawal from Facebook, I didn't bother announcing this New York trip to the world. Probably should have. In addition to various NYC peeps such as Inev, turns out two other friends were in New York at the same time. Good time to be anti-social, Carlos.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 29, 2016, 11:09:06 pm
I'm glad you liked the dumplings! That place is my favorite cheap eat I've found so far.

And I figured you were just doing a family trip thing, but if any of y'all are ever up here let me know and we can hang.

Guys, online dating in a city of 8.4 million is uncontrollable. Holy cow.
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Post by: theinevitable on December 31, 2016, 04:13:47 am
The really cute girl at work invited me to a NYE party. She said something weird like "I think you'd really get along with the people."

...and then later mentioned that it's "all her gay friends." Yikes.
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Post by: wombat on December 31, 2016, 10:24:06 pm
What's wrong with either of those comments?

And are you going to go?
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Post by: theinevitable on December 31, 2016, 10:28:49 pm
I'm going, I just wonder if she invited me because she thinks I am a gay man.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 01, 2017, 01:47:16 am
Here is a New York tip for Inev or anyone else. Take the Staten Island Ferry (it's free!) and gawk at the Statue of Liberty out the window. But when you get there, don't just tool around the terminal for a half hour and go back like everyone else. Walk to Pier 76, an Italian place that seriously has the best pizza I've had in a long time. They also serve beers by SI-based Flagship Brewing Company.

I can also recommend the Lower East Side Tenement Museum. We went to Momofuku Milk Bar and it did not live up to the hype; they were pretty much just cookies.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 01, 2017, 03:31:50 pm
I'll check that out! I also really need to go to the Tenement Museum.

I think Milk Bar cookies are pretty good, but are way too expensive. I got my sister their cookbook for her birthday one year, and it belatedly occurs to me that I should just take a picture of the recipe for the ones I like (compost cookies) and make them at home. Their "crack pie" is also delicious, but it's like $5 for a tiny little slice.

I went to my college roommate's parents' party and it was a bunch of guys who went to Wombat's high school, and then a bunch of parents. I did not make it to the other party.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 01, 2017, 05:45:29 pm
I'll check that out! I also really need to go to the Tenement Museum.

It is not cheap--$25 for a tour, nothing self-guided (though you can look around the museum shop and watch their introductory movie for free). But I'm really glad we went. For our kids, history class is mostly colonization, Revolutionary War, Civil War, and then seemingly nothing happened until World War I. This museum fills some of that gap. And it's highly relevant right now, with Hispanics and Muslims being the latest demonized outsiders. Jews, Italians and other Catholics, Germans, Chinese and other Asians, they all went through that too. But they were willing to do shitty jobs for little money just to have a shot in this country. I think all Americans should understand that, rather than shouting "They took our jerbs!" maybe we should appreciate people who are willing to bust their collective ass to carve out a life.
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Post by: wombat on January 01, 2017, 11:25:26 pm
I went to my college roommate's parents' party and it was a bunch of guys who went to Wombat's high school,

This will never stop sounding like a mistake to me, apparently, all these years later (there were no "guys" when I went there).
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Post by: theinevitable on January 01, 2017, 11:55:34 pm
My boss implied that I can somehow get a free tour because our office helps them research new exhibits. I need to look into that.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 02, 2017, 06:06:32 pm
I find myself doing this task over and over, and can't find a technological solution. Given point A and point B, what subway stop is roughly in the middle/the same travel time from both? If you paired this calculation with bar suggestions you could make a mint, somehow.

It couldn't be that hard, because although there are a lot of subway stops, you could just do the calculation for each pair once and store the answer. When someone put in a query it would just look down the list until it found the matching entry.

Well, OK, there are ~222,000 subway stop combinations. I guess the "local knowledge" solution is that anyone who lives here knows what parts of the city they can get to easily.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 02, 2017, 10:28:42 pm
I'll check that out! I also really need to go to the Tenement Museum.

I don't know if this is related, but Queen have a song called Tenement Funster (https://youtu.be/JNYFrT4yRdU). It's about learning to become a rock star.
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Post by: theinevitable on January 08, 2017, 07:21:06 am
today it was very cold and snowy out, and an exterminator came and said we probably have rats in our walls, because if they were just mice we wouldn't be able to hear them. I walked to an overpriced korean place and realized I didn't have my wallet, so I went back home to get it and then back to the overpriced korean place. I ate too much and felt kind of bad. Then I went on a bad date with a boring lady. I was kind of rude and didn't drink any beers on the date because they were too expensive and why waste beer money on a bad date.
Then I went to a bar where my acquaintance was DJng and drank many expensive beers and gawked at the druggie hipster girls. Then I left at 2am feeling a little alone and the subway train arrived right as I got to the station, and I was the only person on the platform and felt like it was my personal transport home to my cozy bed. Now I'm in the bed. NYC is pretty good. I wish both subway lines I live near were like 1 block closer to my apartment, but I guess then my rent would be like $150 more. The takeway though is that I like living here very much.
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Post by: wombat on January 08, 2017, 02:07:08 pm
Ah, youth. In New York, with a decent paying job. You know it's a kind of paradise, right?
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Post by: theinevitable on January 08, 2017, 04:30:17 pm
Yes. And I'm learning less expensive things to do, also.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on January 09, 2017, 01:22:04 pm
I very nearly talked myself into booking a long weekend in Florida in early February. Probably would have, too, if I hadn't realized we have something on the calendar for that weekend already.
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Post by: pmcd9 on January 09, 2017, 09:57:01 pm
today it was very cold and snowy out, and an exterminator came and said we probably have rats in our walls, because if they were just mice we wouldn't be able to hear them. I walked to an overpriced korean place and realized I didn't have my wallet, so I went back home to get it and then back to the overpriced korean place. I ate too much and felt kind of bad. Then I went on a bad date with a boring lady. I was kind of rude and didn't drink any beers on the date because they were too expensive and why waste beer money on a bad date.
Then I went to a bar where my acquaintance was DJng and drank many expensive beers and gawked at the druggie hipster girls. Then I left at 2am feeling a little alone and the subway train arrived right as I got to the station, and I was the only person on the platform and felt like it was my personal transport home to my cozy bed. Now I'm in the bed. NYC is pretty good. I wish both subway lines I live near were like 1 block closer to my apartment, but I guess then my rent would be like $150 more. The takeway though is that I like living here very much.

This is a beautiful story. Keep living the dream, but try not to be rude.
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Post by: wombat on January 09, 2017, 10:11:11 pm
Keep living the dream, but try not to be rude.

Good advice for all.
Title: Q
Post by: theinevitable on January 13, 2017, 11:55:48 pm
I did not realize until I met the secretary at my job that the accent Harley Quinn has in the Batman cartoons (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZzwXTeGdSw&t=227s) is a Brooklyn accent. Hearing that voice come out of a woman my age is bizarre. She isn't as squeaky but one day she said "hmmm, idn't that INteresting!" and I was like! damn! Harley Quinn! (To defend myself preemptively, I guess I could have identified it as some kind of New York accent. but this is a very particular borough accent)

My boss is from the Bronx and has a pretty great one too.
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Post by: jaydub on January 17, 2017, 08:35:08 pm
In college, after I moved out of the dorms I moved into a little house backed up against the local national park.  We had a terrifying evening when a racoon decided to move into the walls.  Fortunately some chicken wire fixed the hole it got in and out through.
today it was very cold and snowy out, and an exterminator came and said we probably have rats in our walls, because if they were just mice we wouldn't be able to hear them.
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Post by: AugustWest on January 31, 2017, 12:34:19 pm
Don't forget the spark plug wires!
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on February 06, 2017, 02:57:05 pm
I went to a Burns' Night dinner Saturday. Had haggis for the first time. Not that bad, actually.

Also, nice to know that your ancestors are considered absolute pariahs by the rest of the culture.
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Post by: pmcd9 on February 07, 2017, 12:36:10 am
Not that bad

I was listening to this song (https://worldwariv.bandcamp.com/track/not-that-bad) when I read that.

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Post by: pmcd9 on February 11, 2017, 12:54:56 am
I told you folks about the lady who came in from the side of the line when getting on the train.

Way to go dummy, now your train girlfriend wants to fuck you. It's gonna get awkward... or sexy, your choice really.
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Post by: AugustWest on February 14, 2017, 07:23:22 pm

That's OK, one of my superpowers is turning ladies off light a lighbulb.

It's good to have skills, isn't it?
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Post by: theinevitable on March 08, 2017, 02:33:15 am
I asked my dad how much money I should be putting in my 401k and he told me a number that sounded low. And then I made an excel sheet to show myself how compound interest works. Damn!
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 10, 2017, 02:05:03 am
I finished behind a guy named Sasquatch. No shame in that, right?

He was born for this.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 25, 2017, 05:26:39 am
This week:

Saw two great movies (Look Back in Anger and The Loneliness of the Long Distance Runner) both in a series of British "kitchen sink realism" films at the artsy theater. Both were so good that I had the overwhelming satisfied "I'm glad I'm alive in a world with art like this" feeling.
Another film series, of all cyberpunk, starts tonight and I'm gonna see some of those, too. Movies are really expensive but I guess I could be going out to clubs and buying cocktails. At least with a movie my self esteem isn't riding on the outcome (and let's be honest, there are not really positive outcomes that could occur from me going to a club alone).

There was a fire in the laundromat below my apartment. I guess it wasn't too severe because our fire alarm didn't even go off, and the laundromat was open the next day. I think lint caught on fire in a dryer and they just blasted it with a fire extinguisher. The fire engine came though, that was exciting.

I am feeling a lot of anxiety about my job. They seem to think I'm doing OK, but I waste so much time every day because of my disorganized brain. Like, maybe a job where I need to focus carefully and organize/document my process is not a good fit for me. We also got a "don't worry..." email from the head of the department, where she said that we are going to have enormous budget cuts under any possible Trump budget. We get a lot of money from the federal government, not to mention that the city does and is way more likely to cut nerds drawing maps than firefighters or cops.

And finally: I've reached my limit with online dating. I need a break. This week I was supposed to meet a woman who seemed really great and she cancelled at the last minute after I got all excited. And didn't respond to my "that's OK, I understand having to work late, when should we reschedule for?" text. But I definitely need something to put that time and energy into that isn't video games, books, or movies. I'm getting solitary and weird.
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Post by: wombat on March 25, 2017, 03:17:08 pm
I guess this is cliche advice but sometimes there is a good reason something is cliche... go take a class or join a club or get a volunteer gig. Something where other people show up without you having to call them up and make a date with them. Go walk dogs in a shelter or learn to make pottery or if that's too radical a change, take a film class?
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Post by: theinevitable on March 26, 2017, 02:50:34 pm
That is a good idea. For a while I was getting more involved with local political stuff but I burnt myself out by going to multiple meetings a week. I also want to get back to learning Spanish and was thinking that once I hit a certain point I'll need to find a Spanish discussion group or class. I also know that my union will pay for part of a class if it's "relevant to my job title," so if I found something like local history that would be cool.

My roommate (the one who has the fantastic dog) is very sweet. We have been playing Dungeon World (like a simpler Dungeons and Dragons) once a week for a month with her boyfriend and her old roommate. That's fun. And then the other day she suggested that we do trivia sometime.
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Post by: wombat on March 26, 2017, 06:09:14 pm
Oooooh I know what you should do. You should get a volunteer gig at a historic site, like the Tenement Museum.  Or you could be a volunteer tour guide. My friend does this:
http://bigapplegreeter.org/become-a-volunteer/
and she meets all kinds of interesting people from abroad.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 26, 2017, 09:06:28 pm
That is a really good idea! I will look into this.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 27, 2017, 04:51:49 am
Here's an idea. You could take a side job as an Uber driver. Then comb the worst parts of the city each night seething about the crime and injustice. Then one day, when a 13 year old prostitute jumps in your car and sets in motion a series of events that lead to a bloody confrontation with her pimp, you will be a local hero and they would never lay you off then.
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Post by: wombat on March 27, 2017, 12:29:07 pm
Either that or Paul needs to write a gritty socially conscious thriller about an Uber driver.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 27, 2017, 11:27:36 pm
I was actually thinking recently that there is a thing about my life that you guys don't know, since you've suggested multiple times that I become an uber driver. I am a really bad driver.

I've never been in a real accident or caused one (I rear-ended someone at very low speed due to ice once), but I get really frazzled and lost very easily. I think I would get fired from uber real fast because even my loved ones get mad about how long it takes me to get places.

Also I don't have a car anymore. Boo. Maybe I can find another way to Bickle.
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Post by: wombat on March 28, 2017, 12:39:58 am
I would never suggest that you become an Uber driver, but I would never suggest that anyone become an Uber driver so I guess that's beside the point.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 28, 2017, 12:45:41 am
Apparently I misremembered who mentioned uber the last time this came up. (http://touamb.com/index.php?topic=6469.msg206430#msg206430)
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Post by: AugustWest on March 28, 2017, 12:48:07 pm

Also I don't have a car anymore. Boo. Maybe I can find another way to Bickle.

Just get the haircut.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on March 28, 2017, 01:01:05 pm
If you stay in NYC you might not even need a car. My brother hasn't owned a car for years. He'll occasionally rent one if he's going out of town to someplace Amtrak doesn't cover.
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Post by: theinevitable on March 28, 2017, 11:48:37 pm
Yeah, I purposely got rid of the car and I haven't missed it a single time. Living without a car at this point in my life is fantastic. The only problem is that the lack of car is stopping me from being the Travis Bickle of Uber.

People make jokes about Brooklyn "looking like a college campus" these days, and I always want to cite the stats to them about how statistically very few people in the borough are overpaid millennials. But then I realized that when I see anyone over 40 and white in my neighborhood I assume they're someone's parents visiting.
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Post by: pmcd9 on March 29, 2017, 09:42:30 am
Just get the haircut.

It worked for Vlad.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on April 20, 2017, 02:30:48 pm
Got word last night that our lead guitarist is moving to Florida around the end of May. He and his wife have been kicking the idea around for a while (she has family there), so we knew it was a possibilty, and it has come to fruition.

First and foremost, it's a bummer because he's a good friend, and someone who likes to go to shows and out for beers and such (as noted elsewhere, those are harder to come by these days). But obviously it raises questions for the future of the band. The short-term consensus last night was "We'll look for a new guitarist." I am admittedly only an adequate guitar player; I'm not going to just start playing all his leads. But the notion of auditioning people, and trying to find someone who clicks not just musically but personally, is daunting.
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Post by: theinevitable on April 29, 2017, 03:31:18 am
Today I came very, very close to texting a picture of the girl I have a crush on to the girl herself.

Who needs drugs when you can get that kind of adrenaline going just being being a dumbass.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 13, 2017, 10:12:23 pm
Wow, it's really hard to save money living here!

I have never been good at budgeting, but have always kind of figured that the fact that I don't buy expensive things (I don't go on vacations, go shopping unless necessary, etc) will balance out that I blow money on silly little things like breakfast sandwiches or burritos or whatever.

Turns out that doesn't work when your rent is over $1k and you live in a city where almost every little thing is expensive.

Wednesday, though, I was bummed out and went on a long walk after work. Got $3 worth of dumplings and an ice cream cone. That was cheap and fulfilling.

This morning I went to a talk and the girl I like showed up with her boyfriend. Same ol' inev story.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 22, 2017, 02:30:54 am
About 1 month into the new job task where I spend 4-5 days a week walking around taking notes about buildings. Set foot in the Bronx for the first time, and have covered 3/4 of Brooklyn and some bits of Queens. Walking about 40 miles a week. It feels good. Not excited for when it starts getting really hot though. Friday it was hot enough that the iPads we use to take notes overheated and shut down. Yuck.

Today I made Tres Leches Cake. It was freaking incredible. Like, damn, it's bad to know how easy it is to make this.
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 22, 2017, 04:27:44 am
I blow money on silly little things like breakfast sandwiches or burritos or whatever.

You know your city is expensive when breakfast is a luxury. I've been watching Master of None on Netflix and it really brings home the point that NYC is an AMAZING place to live if you have plenty of money. If you don't, it can be murder.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 22, 2017, 05:43:34 am
You make a good point. $3 food cart egg and cheese sandwiches are not what is wrecking my bank account.

Other than rent, I think you can enjoy yourself here for cheap. The problem is that anything you could ever want is being shoved in your face all day every day. Way too easy to get sucked into wanting to try the cool new place, or buy a cool new shirt, or whatever. And of course all the beautiful people make it look so easy if you're a sucker like me.

Recently I had a bad day and went out for dinner-- $3 for a huge serving of dumplings and $4 for a really fancy ice cream cone. Then I walked around Chinatown for an hour and took the subway home. I need to do that more instead of whatever I'm doing to pass the time that is burning a hole in my debit card.
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Post by: wombat on May 22, 2017, 06:00:17 pm
About 1 month into the new job task where I spend 4-5 days a week walking around taking notes about buildings. Set foot in the Bronx for the first time, and have covered 3/4 of Brooklyn and some bits of Queens. Walking about 40 miles a week. It feels good. Not excited for when it starts getting really hot though. Friday it was hot enough that the iPads we use to take notes overheated and shut down. Yuck.

Whoa this sounds like an awesome job.
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Post by: pmcd9 on May 23, 2017, 03:46:08 am
Whoa this sounds like an awesome job.

I wouldn't want that job in Houston.
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Post by: theinevitable on May 24, 2017, 08:55:04 pm
Important report: I have spent 16 hours walking the south Bronx and I have not seen a single hipster except in the mirror. No trendy cafes, no businesses with punny names, no nothin. It's kind of great.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 11, 2017, 09:34:54 pm
Yesterday's adorable middle school theatre moment:
I had the pleasure of seeing my kid's school's production of "Legally Blonde, Jr." not once but twice. Two different casts; my kid was assistant director and had a walk-on role in the first show.

In the first show, the role of Emmett (the male protagonist) was played by a diminutive Asian dude, who's a fine actor and a real good kid. In the last scene of the show, the heroine (a good four inches taller than him!) proposes to him, and damn if homeboy didn't kiss her square on the mouth. (In the later show, the same characters did a lame-ass cheek kiss.)

After the show, the kids all go out in the lobby to jump up and down and cheer together, and greet friends and family. I happened to be right there when this Emmett met up with his folks, and a male relative (too young to be his dad, I think an older brother or a young uncle) gave him a big hug and told him he was awesome. Then he kind of stepped back and said "YOU KISSED A GIRL!! You don't need my help, you kissed a girl!"

I bout died on the spot.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 13, 2017, 04:48:42 am
Kid is cooler than I ever was.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 15, 2017, 02:55:49 am
I think my finding after exploring every neighborhood in Brooklyn (ok there are like 3 more tiny ones, I'm going to those next week) is that the neighborhoods I'm not supposed to like are the best ones. I knew everything south of a certain part was kind of "suburban" but was imagining the wrong kind of suburbs, the "suburban" part of Brooklyn is still denser than anywhere else I've ever lived. Over the past 2 weeks we have worked our way across the furthest south neighborhoods, which transition from Latino to Chinese to Hasidic to an endless part where it's a mix of Asian and some Russian/Eastern Euro stuff. So much good food. So many weird or cute houses. What a great fuck*ng city.

(ok, the parts where every girl is wearing cute glasses and high-waisted jeans are pretty good too... but it's a way tinier area than most people outside brooklyn think, and WAY smaller than the cute-hipster-people think)
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Post by: wombat on June 15, 2017, 02:22:14 pm
I guess it's too late to say you should have been taking photos all this time and putting them on a blog.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 16, 2017, 03:08:49 am
I took tons of pictures but I'm not very good at taking pictures. Most of what I got are funny signs. The best stuff is all on my instagram.

Your point actually made me realize something though-- there were way more things I wanted to take pictures of in the fancy/hipster neighborhoods. I don't think there was a single house in all of Bay Ridge/Sunset Park/Borough Park/Bensonhurst/Gravesend/Flatbush/etc that made me say "wow" like the beautiful old brownstones in Park Slope or Bed Stuy. The whole was way better than the sum of its parts, which down south are mostly kind of mediocre houses.

There was one moment in Bushwick when a woman with pink hair leaned out her 3rd story window to water her (bright yellow) flowers, and there were Puerto Rican flags fluttering in the other windows, and I'm so mad that I didn't get a picture of that. So many bright colors and the building was cool looking too.

I think the most perfect example of the kind of building I like is on my block. But I haven't gotten a single good picture of it. It's slightly too big and taking pictures of buildings from below sucks.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 16, 2017, 03:22:17 am
OK, I'm looking through my instagram pictures now and clearly I should type up a little post about what happened in each neighborhood.

Also I don't use any of the weird instagram effects, I usually just brighten them up a bit and maybe increase the contrast. However, every single one of them looks weird and... digital? grainy? They look so good on my phone screen! What gives?
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 16, 2017, 03:25:07 am
If you don't put, like floppy ears and a dog tongue on them I'm not even interested.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 16, 2017, 03:46:04 am
I just realized that maybe they look shitty on my computer because I have a shitty laptop with a bad screen. Hmm.

It could definitely be some instagram thing though. There are some effects like "sharpen" that i maybe shouldn't be using.
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Post by: wombat on June 16, 2017, 03:48:09 pm
I wasn't following you on Instagram. My mistake.

You need to get people to let you into buildings across the street to take pictures from a better angle. Think of the interesting conversations that might get you into.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 17, 2017, 08:03:30 pm
i am definitely not allowed to go into people's houses to take pictures. Hmm. I will write some notes on them though.

Also: how many times will I go on dates, think they have gone really well and get a warm fuzzy feeling, only for the girl to start ignoring me? Will I eventually stop feeling foolish excitement? Hard to say.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 19, 2017, 12:19:34 am
Also: how many times will I go on dates, think they have gone really well and get a warm fuzzy feeling, only for the girl to start ignoring me? Will I eventually stop feeling foolish excitement? Hard to say.

My feeling is you rock these ladies so hard they just can't believe it's true. I mean, you're good looking, you have a seemingly infinite well of interesting things to talk about, and you can lay the pipe like a porn star. You're just too good to be true, Dan. So they have to invent reasons why you're not all your cracked up to be. Seriously, you're breaking hearts all over the five boroughs. I wouldn't be surprised if there were a Reddit thread about it.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 19, 2017, 02:34:41 am
True. Not "laying pipe" tho, I am still real bad about making moves. I have only slept wth one person since moving here.

Uh, the girl with the boyfriend just dumped him. At the exact moment where I was coming around to "she's not interested and I should move on." A lotta stuff going on.

Also I got drunk at a party of all middle-aged people and told an obscene story and the reaction was Very Negative. I got to a point of no return before I realized what was about to come next and decided to keep going instead of stopping. Maybe a mistake.

Look, I don't care how old you are, if you live in New York City maybe you should not be shocked by an oral sex reference. Like the longer you've lived here the more bad shit you have probably seen/heard. But, Sorry, sorry, sorry.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 23, 2017, 03:56:56 am
Yikes, that was weird as fuck.

Just got back from a (date?) with a girl I drunkenly posted about on here many times back in the day, who I made out with once in college. She lives two and a half blocks away from me on the same street, and has been minutes away from my door the whole time I've lived in New York. We hung out for four hours, including a very long walk and getting drinks with another friend from college (this was a super weird part: she asked if it was OK if she sent a text, and then apparently texted this girl to come meet us without asking. This is pretty clearly not what you do if it's a date so maybe that's all I need right there). We are both socially goofy and basically I have no idea what was going on. Was this kind of a date? Is she into me? Was this just two nice friends catching up? Was she acting kind of nervous and giggly or is she always like that? Were she and the other girl talking about me with conspiratorial faces when I came around the corner from the bathroom? (yes they were)

Guys, I hate this. I have had enough experience over the last ~15 years to know that I cannot tell when women are interested in me. I always think they are, unless I think that they're too good for me and I'm trash. But usually both at the same time. In this way I manage to be always wrong.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 23, 2017, 04:06:13 am
this is the infamous girl who told me she wanted me to sleep over, and then later told me "I can put my legs behind my head," and I decided she was very drunk and funny and I fell asleep after kissing her for like 2 hours.
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Post by: wombat on June 23, 2017, 12:40:55 pm
I dunno but just from this, even if she is into you, I'd say run in the opposite direction.
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Post by: wombat on June 23, 2017, 12:42:28 pm
I mean, if nothing else - I forget exactly how old you are now, but aren't you old enough that you can reasonably have a baseline requirement that the people you date act like adults?
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Post by: theinevitable on June 23, 2017, 01:24:36 pm
Frankly I don't even know if I act like an adult. But I'm 29. This girl is I think 31!

Woke up realizing that she also fibbed to stall so this friend could come meet us. Why? I don't get it.
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Post by: wombat on June 23, 2017, 01:49:01 pm
Well I have no idea whether you are less mature in real life than you seem on the internet... but you are certainly too old to date someone who acts like they are in middle school.
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Post by: AugustWest on June 23, 2017, 02:37:47 pm
Frankly I don't even know if I act like an adult. But I'm 29. This girl is I think 31!

Woke up realizing that she also fibbed to stall so this friend could come meet us. Why? I don't get it.

Maybe she wanted a threesome?

/LyleG
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Post by: AugustWest on June 23, 2017, 04:51:35 pm
Just because I think they're over-rated 

Sort of jealous that you have an opinion on this, but I guess you'd say I shouldn't be.
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Post by: wombat on June 23, 2017, 04:55:45 pm
Yeah, sure, she wanted a threesome, that's the most likely scenario. Right.

You know, while Ash's advice is good in general I don't know if it was necessary in this situation. What Inev calls the "super weird" part sounds to me like this woman was acting like an immature asshole. So who cares about her answer to the question? If this is someone who puts you in the position of having to ask "Hey, you are acting like an immature asshole, what's up with that?" don't you already know what you need to know about her?

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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 23, 2017, 05:22:21 pm
I'm mostly with Ash on this one. You're too old to deal with bullshit. If you want to clear up whether it's a date or not, ask. If she says no, fine, her loss, move on.

Wombles has a point, though. Why does she need to call for backup?!?
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Post by: AugustWest on June 23, 2017, 05:31:55 pm
Wombles has a point, though. Why does she need to call for backup?!?

Because Inev is too much man for just one woman.  Duh.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 23, 2017, 06:15:30 pm
AW also has a good point.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 23, 2017, 10:18:36 pm
Topical (https://instagram.com/p/BVsjP53DLiz/).

I thought about this some more and nothing she did is ambiguous. It wasn't a date, it was never a date, the only reason I imagined it could be a date is that I really wanted it to be a date. Besides that, she is rude.

Meanwhile, another dating-app girl has cancelled a date on me at the last minute, leaving me with nothing to do on a Friday night. Yeesh.
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Post by: wombat on June 23, 2017, 11:19:38 pm
Well it turns out it's a good thing it wasn't a date because she's not the sort of person you should date. And you just found the same thing out the easy way about tonight's date as well. So it's all good.

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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 26, 2017, 12:19:25 am
Breaded Cats retweeted me today, so I got that going for me.
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 26, 2017, 06:29:09 pm
Well I have no idea whether you are less mature in real life than you seem on the internet... but you are certainly too old to date someone who acts like they are in middle school.

Preach!
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Post by: theinevitable on June 27, 2017, 04:30:09 am
There is a meme/phrase that stresses me out that goes around a lot on twitter, where women talk about how they date "mediocre men." This makes me frustrated bc I'm sure a lot of people date people who suck, but "mediocre" makes me think you're judging someone by all the wrong metrics!

...

And then this weekend I flirted with:
- a woman with a pulitzer
- a woman who did the cover designs for a bunch of books I own
- a woman who was just written up in the NYTimes
- a woman whose book is being published

...am I one of these mediocre dudes bagging super-successful women? Did the meme not make sense to me bc I am living it?

(No I'm pretty sure this is a shitty way to think about another human being)
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Post by: pmcd9 on June 27, 2017, 07:30:30 am
There is a meme/phrase that stresses me out that goes around a lot on twitter, where women talk about how they date "mediocre men." This makes me frustrated bc I'm sure a lot of people date people who suck, but "mediocre" makes me think you're judging someone by all the wrong metrics!

The Bible says something about pointing out the speck in your neighbors eye and ignoring the mote in your own eye. Which I think is incredibly true. And by that logic, these women dating mediocre men are likely pretty mediocre themselves. Let's face it, nobody these days wants to take responsibility for their shortcomings. At least not publicly. It's too easy to sidestep and blame. It's because nobody presents their true face on social media, it's a curated approximation with most of the negative bits left on the cutting room floor. So literally everyone you meet is going to be a letdown from who they are on Twitter.
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Post by: wombat on June 27, 2017, 01:20:49 pm
I have not seen this meme but I have to say that while on the one hand it is shitty to talk about other people that way, on the other hand, men have always talked about women that way and worse, and women calling men mediocre is very, very far from the worst things that one sex regularly says about the other sex online. So it's maybe crummy but it's a little hard for me to get worked up about it.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 27, 2017, 04:34:55 pm
I'm just stuck on what does it literally mean. I can imagine thinking a woman was ugly or stupid or annoying or mean. But what is a "mediocre woman." I have no idea.
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Post by: theinevitable on June 27, 2017, 06:58:26 pm
They have clearly achieved their goal of making me stress about it
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on June 30, 2017, 01:37:32 pm
Today I bought a Delaware 7-day out-of-state giraffeing license.  w00t
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Post by: theinevitable on July 05, 2017, 04:55:42 am
Oh wow, even after 3 dates in a row canceling the day of, this is a good one:

I matched on one of the dumb apps with this girl while I was out of town. We chatted back and forth. She was texting me today and I said I'm finally back in town, and she suggested I come straight out to meet her once I got home. So I dropped my bag off, splashed some water in my face, and went out to meet her. Waited at the bar for an hour while she had trouble getting to the place (her friend was driving her home from a party and got pulled over and other mishaps). Then she showed up and couldn't find her ID to get into the bar. I said nice to meet you, no I will not wait for you to go get it, it's after midnight on a work night and I just spent the entire day on planes, see you soon. I made sure she had a ride home and left.

Now: "hi sorry It's actually my birthday and i just really needed some compassion and positive energy after everything that happened tonight and I didn't get that vibe from you, this is it for us, best wishes bye."

Good lord.
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Post by: wombat on July 05, 2017, 12:11:49 pm
Oh inev. You are smarter than this. How much more evidence do you need that these apps are not a good use of your time? You are living in one of the greatest cities on earth, you can't find something better to do than talk to jerks on apps and waste time meeting them to prove they are jerks? Take classes, volunteer... we talked about this! Take a photography class and learn to take great photos while you are walking around the city for your job. Take a language class and learn to talk to more of the people you run into. Volunteer at a museum or as a tour guide. Spend your time doing interesting things where you will spend time with people who are interested in interesting things. 

I mean, I don't get this. You've even claimed you're not that into casual sex, and you're not even successfully getting a high percentage of that unless you're leaving out a lot of the stories. Why are you still beating your head against this? Someday if you leave New York to take another job somewhere less interesting you are going to regret how you spent your time.
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Post by: AugustWest on July 05, 2017, 02:41:45 pm


Now: "hi sorry It's actually my birthday and i just really needed some compassion and positive energy after everything that happened tonight and I didn't get that vibe from you, this is it for us, best wishes bye."

Good lord.

Good Riddance.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on July 07, 2017, 05:22:45 am
I don't know, sometimes you get to a place where life seems pointless without love?  I've been there.  I met a sweet girl I'm probably going to marry on one of those apps.  I stopped doing speed for real and smoking cigarettes.  You can hear my bands album on spotify.  Keep trying InBev?
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Post by: KeithHernandez on July 07, 2017, 05:23:32 am
Keep trying but realize what everyone is saying is the right actual answer though!
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Post by: theinevitable on July 07, 2017, 02:39:08 pm
The girl apologized and we screwed until we passed out in a sweaty little pile. Not really the end I was expecting. I guess if I'm gonna do dumb things it is sometimes better to do the "I can't believe I did that" ones than the "I can't believe I didn't do that" ones.
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Post by: wombat on July 07, 2017, 03:36:44 pm
I guess if I'm gonna do dumb things it is sometimes better to do the "I can't believe I did that" ones than the "I can't believe I didn't do that" ones.

Always.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on July 09, 2017, 02:22:52 pm
LOOK OUT, giraffe! THE MAYOR IS COMING FOR YOU ALLS!

Yeah, I didn't catch any damn giraffe. I caught a hossshoe crab, but they're not good eating so I let it go.
I only went out a couple times, and my gear is not well suited for ocean giraffeing (when we go to the Outer Banks we rent a place on the sound, so I giraffe there). I didn't the people around me catching much either.

Injuries sustained during beach week: closed beach chair on my finger, cut finger with shell while picking crabs, poked thumb with giraffe hook.
Conclusion: the beach is bad for your hands.
Otherwise, awesome week. We didn't get horribly sunburned! major victory! And I ate many good seafoods and drank many good beers!
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Post by: theinevitable on July 14, 2017, 03:12:13 am
well, my roommate thinks we have bedbugs. This isn't great.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 15, 2017, 06:33:36 am
Went to a social for the socialist group I'm in. It was pretty overwhelming and awkward. Only one person I know showed up, and she knew everyone and was always deep in conversation with big wigs. Everyone I follow on twitter was there and it was in a loud bar where I couldn't hear anyone because I have ruined my ears with loud music.

But I am childishly proud because after half an hour I tried to leave, but I forced myself to walk back down the block and stand there smiling with a beer until I had at least one conversation. I talked to the nice girl and she introduced me to a few of her friends. Good job.

Tomorrow a specially trained dog comes to our apartment to look for bedbugs. I hope the dog does not find any bedbugs.
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Post by: wombat on July 15, 2017, 03:00:04 pm
At least a dog is coming! Trying to find a bright side...
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Post by: theinevitable on July 15, 2017, 04:07:29 pm
The dog was cute! And did not seem to detect bedbugs. But what is biting my roommate?
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Post by: wombat on July 15, 2017, 04:48:12 pm
Not your problem if it's not biting you?

Seriously though, is he sure it is happening at home? If he is getting bitten by bedbugs somewhere else it is only a matter of time before he brings them home, so worth thinking about.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 23, 2017, 09:20:03 pm
An exterminator came and confirmed my roommate's theory that I thought was wishful thinking: we have carpet beetles. They live in clothes/bedding/carpet and their eggs give some people an allergic reaction. Good. (because they die easily, unlike bedbugs).

My parents are coming to visit the first week of August, and I tried very hard to get them to get a hotel in a cute area, but they managed to pick a place at an intersection with 24/7 honking and loud overhead train lines. I kind of wanted them to be pleasantly surprised by how quiet and cute some parts of Brooklyn are. Oh well.
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Post by: theinevitable on July 24, 2017, 03:02:31 am
Yes, we will have a blast. My sister is also temporarily living here so we will all hang. The older I get and the more I interact with people with fucked up parent relationships the more I appreciate mine.

I guess it's a good sign about Brooklyn's current reputation that my parents would not be more worried about picking a hotel. I just hope they can sleep.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on August 03, 2017, 06:38:36 pm
Smart-ass reply of the day
https://twitter.com/carlosdelvaca/status/893161694448562178
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Post by: theinevitable on August 05, 2017, 02:22:50 pm
having the parents here is fun. We have eaten some good meals and walked around my neighborhood a bunch. I am pleased, because they are impressed by my neighborhood and keep saying that I undersold how awesome it is. They also commented that "every man here looks like you." This is true. Mom and sis left on an adventure yesterday morning so today is All Dad Time which will be fun.

My sister is trying to engineer a meeting between me and her very cute friend who "likes all the same stuff as [me]." Based on how different my preferences are from my sister's this could mean anything from "this girl literally likes the same stuff as inev" to "this girl likes things [sister] thinks are weird." Either way, there is something very sweet (not pathetic, not pathetic, not pathetic) about being set up by your little sister.

My sister has been living here this summer and it's interesting getting her perspective on the city. Every once in a while she says something that reminds me that even though she seems very grown up to me now, she is 21 and has never lived in an apartment and has only interacted with rich people her whole life. Yikes.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 14, 2017, 04:07:11 am
Did some canvassing for a city council candidate, got new library books, went to a rally in solidarity with the people killed/injured in Charlottesville, and running for a job in my socialist group tomorrow. Uh, I am running for a position where 4 people are running for 4 spots... so I hope I don't somehow lose.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 16, 2017, 11:45:22 pm
It got Dramatic but I'm in. Now I get to take notes and send emails and all that fun stuff.
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Post by: wombat on August 17, 2017, 12:39:51 am
Wait how did it get dramatic if there were four candidates for four positions?
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Post by: theinevitable on August 17, 2017, 01:31:05 am
there was some (reasonable) argument because all four candidates were white men. This was especially relevant because we are the sub-group in charge of "immigrant solidarity." So, you know, maybe we should have some immigrants in there. and women. We agreed that this is an interim organizing committee, that we will prioritize seeking out other/more diverse candidates for a new election in 6 months, and that it is relevant to note that these are support positions (we are going to send emails, take minutes, arrange meeting spaces) and not "leadership."

It was a little frustrating, but everyone got their point across and we came to a compromise. I was actually kind of astonished that debating points and making proposals... worked. It helped that there were some women and immigrants in the group who at a certain point interrupted the (surprise, white guy) who was being aggressive about this and said, yeah, it is not great that it is 4 white dudes, but it's more productive to have a functioning group that moves forward than to sit here and argue about it.
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Post by: wombat on August 17, 2017, 08:41:09 pm
So the women and immigrants at the meeting were not exactly volunteering to run instead of you?
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Post by: theinevitable on August 18, 2017, 02:12:49 am
Nope.

(actually there is an interesting dynamic where being on this committee is pretty much the least impressive elected position citywide, so we had a bunch of women in attendance who are very involved but weren't interested in running because they are on the citywide committee, or their borough committee, or something like "education and media" or "electoral outreach" where the meetings have over 100 members)
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Post by: wombat on August 18, 2017, 07:23:06 pm
So basically, white guys are doing the crappiest jobs? This sounds like a good approach to me.
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Post by: theinevitable on August 19, 2017, 03:37:56 am
WELL. Bought a plane ticket home to see my folks and the eclipse. Left work early, spent 4 hours waiting at the airport before finding out my flight was cancelled. Without consulting me they rebooked me on a flight SUNDAY NIGHT. That isn't how weekends work!! Calling in the AM to see what I can salvage of this.

What if I move to a country small enough to get around without a plane? Although I guess I'd have to get my friends and family to move there too
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Post by: theinevitable on September 10, 2017, 05:59:00 pm
Man, meeting girls who want to date me is a feast or famine proposition. Good thing I am awesome at driving them off.

A woman approached me at a socialist party friday (we raised $5k for Hurricane Harvey relief by selling cheap beer and buttons and t-shirts) and said she'd heard I was also from North Carolina. We talked for a few minutes and then she said she was going to grab another beer and would be right back. For some reason I decided to show my enthusiasm by saying "nice to meet you" in a very stern voice. She did not come back.

Yesterday I saw one of my favorite bands from the St Louis era (Thee Oh Sees) and it was good but they didn't play any of the songs I love. They've put out a lot of albums since the last one I loved. It made me a little sad.

I also watched the guy standing in front of me take pictures and put them on social media every 2 minutes for the entire show, and spend about as much time checking his phone to see if anyone had commented or liked the pictures. Damn. What a world. I spent the afternoon yesterday with two of my more social-media-crazy friends but at least they just took pictures and uploaded them later. We took a video of the three of us taking synchronized cheeseburger bites in Central Park, which I am pretty happy with.

Hanging out with those two friends was also interesting because they're not people I keep in touch with, but as soon as they showed up I was comfortable and cracking jokes and being charming. Hm. How do I get myself to act that way with cute single girls.
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Post by: wombat on September 10, 2017, 10:25:33 pm
We talked for a few minutes and then she said she was going to grab another beer and would be right back. For some reason I decided to show my enthusiasm by saying "nice to meet you" in a very stern voice. She did not come back.

Oy, Inev, seriously? I mean, I am sure you are beating yourself up about this enough and I don't need to rub it in, but seriously.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 11, 2017, 12:34:53 am
Yeah I have no idea what that was. I will definitely run into her again. AT LEAST SHE WILL REMEMBER I WAS HAPPY TO MEET HER
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 11, 2017, 02:12:09 pm
An encouraging sign in the world:
On one of those "Your friend liked this" items, Facebook pointed me to two dudes (who I don't know) in my hometown who got engaged. They look like pretty normal dudes from my hometown. It does not appear to be a joke. And all the comments under it are "Congrats!" and the one guy saying thanks.
Remembering my hometown, I would expect at least some of the comments to be "fuck*ng FAGGOTS BLEAAAAAHHHH" but that is not the case. So, progress.
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Post by: theinevitable on September 13, 2017, 01:04:11 am
I ran into her yesterday (we have... a lot of meetings) and we had a nice conversation. I think i was overthinking this.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 13, 2017, 12:48:39 pm
I think i was overthinking this.

You? Overthink things with a lady? Nooooooooooooo.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 15, 2017, 08:26:17 pm
Today I got an interim grade report for my oldest. She has straight A's. Granted, we're only three weeks into the school year. But, damn. Good work, kid.
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Post by: KeithHernandez on September 16, 2017, 07:28:39 pm
I got straight As through like 10th grade and a scholarship to College....just- it doesn't always turn out you know?
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Post by: theinevitable on September 16, 2017, 11:22:57 pm
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Post by: KeithHernandez on September 17, 2017, 12:30:18 am
I got the date bear (given to best student at dare) in 6 th grade!  Why they have to make it sound so fun??
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Post by: wombat on September 17, 2017, 12:51:34 am
I got straight As through like 10th grade and a scholarship to College....just- it doesn't always turn out you know?

Like my bumper sticker says: I was an honor student. I don't know what happened.

Still, probably better to start out with the straight A record... if it's so easy to go nowhere anyway, having to start by climbing out of a hole can only be worse.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on September 24, 2017, 01:04:02 pm
1. see pug thing on Twitter
2. think "I should send that to wombat"
3. realize it's in my feed because she retweeted it
4. repeat as necessary
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Post by: wombat on September 24, 2017, 06:11:17 pm
Always best to make sure though!
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Post by: theinevitable on October 09, 2017, 05:31:30 pm
Tomorrow I'm teaching a college class! Well, presenting in one. My socialist comrade who is a public health professor asked me to come talk to her students. I'm going to tell them about what urban planners do and how it is related to public health, and then show them how to use my agency's cool website for finding public data about neighborhoods. They are going to use demographic data to make their arguments in their final projects for the class.

She said it's mostly about exposing them to a possible career path so I am trying to create a clear presentation of what urban planners are and how I became one.

(it's weird how when you look back at events of the past several years it's so easy to create a story out of them. I worked for a professor in undergrad and learned about gentrification and the history of St Louis, which got me excited about urban planning. Then I went to grad school for urban planning, and worked for a professor there doing data work. I also did a data internship. Now I work in the demographic research division for the department of city planning. Who knew my life was so logical!)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 15, 2017, 01:58:28 pm
I am trying to set up my retirement savings (401k etc) and it makes me wish I were dead.

My dad has tried to give me advice but we are running into our perennial problem. He is giving me advice as if I am him. He is a person who knows a lot about financial markets and so it makes sense to him to do all of these complicated things. I just want to put my money in (SOMETHING) and have it get bigger. I do not know how to read financial statements or compare plans or funds. I'd prefer not to invest in something that is giving my money to people making guns or blowing up whales or whatever.

It should also be criminal how confusing enrolling in this stuff is. My job offers 4 different types of plans and all of the explanations seem to assume you already know what you want and just don't know what it is called. They also don't match contributions to ANYTHING, I thought unionized civil service employees in New York were supposed to be spoiled overpaid brats!!

I also think that at some point in my service I am forced to enroll in the pension plan. I've heard from coworkers that it "sucks" but they have not explained why.

The good news is that I can probably just make the wrong choices and ruin my life and have to work until I drop dead.

(I am just venting here, I'll call my dad and make him answer questions and I'll write down everything he says)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 15, 2017, 02:24:25 pm
Even better: I clicked "enroll in 401k" on the NYC employee website, filled out all the forms, and it asked me to confirm all the information and it's all wrong. I have gone through the form three times and each time it mixes things up-- it says that I am enrolling in the "457" plan (which is as far as I can tell identical to a 401k, except if you're over a certain age there is a higher contribution limit).
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on October 15, 2017, 11:52:22 pm
I'm not sure if you were asking for advice per se, but two things about the 401K:
Obvs you should at a minimum contribute whatever amount your employer will match in whole or in part, because that's free money yo.
Secondly, sounds like you might want something like the "coffeehouse portfolio," in which you allocate your contributions to these funds (or those that are similar) and you're done. It's well diversified and you really don't need to spend time checking up on them or shifting things around. I've used this strategy since forever.
http://www.marketwatch.com/lazyportfolio/portfolio/coffeehouse
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Post by: wombat on October 16, 2017, 12:32:22 am
Inev, that thing you said on Twitter was brilliant, about how why are there even choices when everyone needs the same thing

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People are not unique. We get older and need medical care and money for after we stop working. Why are there 20 different options

Seriously. We all want not to live in a cardboard box when we are old. Why can't we just figure out one way that works for everyone for old people not to die in poverty?
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Post by: theinevitable on October 16, 2017, 02:33:33 am
OK. I called my dad and asked him questions until I understood what to do.

My job does not match 401ks at all. I'm mad.

On the flip side, I went on an incredibly good date. I am gushing about it. Trying to remember all the times this happened before and how it didn't work out. But, damn.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 16, 2017, 04:34:59 am
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Seriously. We all want not to live in a cardboard box when we are old. Why can't we just figure out one way that works for everyone for old people not to die in poverty?

This is one of the big critiques socialists have of the democratic party (https://www.jacobinmag.com/2013/12/socialism-converting-hysterical-misery-into-ordinary-unhappiness/) (at least, the one I think about the most, as a public policy type). That they are in love with the idea of competition and therefore "options." So everything has to be a "market" with a million different plans and programs and price points and then you pick the wrong health insurance and get charged out the butt for no coverage. In my urban planning studies this drove me INSANE-- for any one thing we would like to happen, there are three different programs with different funding formulas and you have to apply for the grant and follow their obscure metrics to get the grant, and then the limitations on the money keep you from doing what you really want to do with the money.

(Whether this is the best we can do at any given time based on the strength of the Republicans in congress, who's in the White House, etc, is a separate thing-- even when the Dems are in power this is the kind of program they propose)

But for now, setting a % to go to my 401k, and another % to go to my investment account which is invested in more conservative things than what my dad would like.

Yes, the socialist is investing his money in stocks and bonds. Oh well.
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Post by: AugustWest on October 16, 2017, 02:34:45 pm

Yes, the socialist is investing his money in stocks and bonds. Oh well.

If the world is going to be run for the benefit of owners, do what you can to become an owner, at least on a small scale.
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Post by: theinevitable on October 18, 2017, 04:03:07 am
2nd date Friday.

I do not understand how it did not occur to me before that I should be taking women on dates to places I find when I'm doing fieldwork. We're going to an Indian restaurant in a cute neighborhood she's never been to.

(on our first date we went on an architectural tour, it was nerdy and good as hell)
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Post by: theinevitable on October 23, 2017, 01:18:28 am
I guess there was no way to know that when I bought this ticket to the Courtney Barnett show several months ago i should have gotten two. I was nervous at the time that if I got two i'd just be bummed out when I went to the concert alone. But now I have someone who wants to go with me and tickets are hundreds of dollars.

...

on the flip side the girl responded "oh, that's too bad, but I'm sure there will be plenty of concerts we want to go to this winter.

Important concepts in that sentence:

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WE (us, the two of us)

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WILL (ie, at a future time, going forward)

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GO TO (implied "together," IE we will do activities together in the coming months in her preferred plans

 ^_^
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Post by: Asherdan on October 23, 2017, 03:56:32 pm
Future planning, even on a small scale, is really cool if you are into it as well.

So, I guess, don't cack things up?
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Post by: theinevitable on November 05, 2017, 03:40:31 pm
This lady is really not into text message convos, which I can understand, but it’s really hard not to read her curt responses as polite rejection. Even after we’ve agreed to meet soon. So what, I have to remember things I want to tell her IN PERSON? How did you people live like this.
The good thing is, “soon” is today. Finally.

Saw a photography exhibit yesterday that blew my mind... it seriously gave me the same feeling as a good rock show— looking at those photos made me want to give up everything and become a photographer. It was like photography finally “clicked” for me. Very cool.

Chile in 5 days. I was reassured by someone in my Spanish class that even if I were fluent, I wouldn’t be able to understand the average Chilean because they have such accents and use so many Chilenísmos. So, uh, hopefully I can find a good paper map and not get lost in an enormous city where nobody speaks my language.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 07, 2017, 05:47:59 pm
There is this dumb-feeling very vague project ("something with the subway") that my socialist group wanted to work on, and I kind of became the defacto point person because nobody else was leading it, and suddenly all the pieces clicked in a discussion and I realized we have the potential to do a REALLY COOL project with one very specific, very attainable demand.

But, um, I might need to talk to someone I trust at work about the optics of me working on a project with an activist organization where we make demands of the city. I truly believe that our request is unassailable and can't imagine anyone I work with disagreeing with it. But doing these kinds of things can piss people off. I guess I can always be the behind the scenes guy, that's more my speed anyway.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 12, 2017, 04:05:13 pm
Ready to move to Chile. I don’t understand why every time i go somewhere with slightly different apartments and different food in the grocery store i want to move.

Ash, my grandparents said sometime they see this amazing South American fruit at Whole Foods in LA. Chirimoya, but maybe in Mexico/the US they call the related fruit guanabana? It’s super weird looking but like a ... pineappley banana? Damn, it’s very good.
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Post by: Carlos del Vaca on November 13, 2017, 01:57:20 pm
guanabana

doot doooo, doo doo doo
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Post by: Asherdan on November 13, 2017, 05:11:29 pm
...Chirimoya...

Last weekend we had a hankering for homemade menudo so I took spouse through a couple of our local 'local' places for supplies. This is a good one (https://www.elranchomeat-markets.com/promotions), guess what they have in the produce section.

Also, the menudo came out excellent. The butcher cut the tripes to the size we requested fresh out of the cow.
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Post by: theinevitable on November 19, 2017, 09:02:15 pm
My great aunt who is a famous (in Chile) fortune teller read my palm. Normally I think fortune tellers beat around the bush and say vague shit, but she was going hard.

1. You're not meant to live in New York, you will leave soon
2. You're going to be married in the next 2-3 years
3. You'll meet her this year
4. 2 kids, a girl and a boy
5. You're going to switch careers and do something with teaching, you're going back to school somewhere prestigious

I feel like there was some more hyper-specific stuff that I forget. But she also said 3 or 4 untrue things about my personality.

Also, it's all made up.