ADawg, do you think there is some benefit to prohibiting marriage between homosexuals?
I think that Marriage is a sanctioned relationship rooted deeply in the state's interest to ensure stable families, succession of property and knowledge of lineage. Most of these predate modern law and also have persisted beyond their specific usefulness since we have so much law around these issues.
Hospital visitation policies have nothing to do with the law. They are the purview of the hospital. Similarly, property accession through instruments like wills and trusts can be assigned to any individual. The ability to adopt already exists in many places for gay couples. There are few to no examples of this supposed 'benefit' of being married. Mainly, it changes your tax status unfavorably. A link to the 'marriage benefit' would be interesting to me; I've seen both sides of that fence and aside from taxes, things didn't change much.
Additionally, once marriage is altered beyond the traditional meaning, a precedent is created by which any two individuals should be able to sue for marriage. Farcical potential situations that would be difficult to legislate against once marriage is open to definition include brothers and sisters marrying, state-sanctioned polygamy, uncles and nieces, and other less than savory possibilities including individuals 'marrying' animals. All of this sounds silly but once the threshold is broken these challenges will occur. That's just the kind of people we have around this great country of ours and a way to keep those hosss in the barn is important in order to not let the entire institution of marriage - for anyone - become meaningless.
I think that Marriage should be reserved for one man and one woman. Other sorts of couples who seek some kind of relationship that runs contrary to the values of the majority should be protected if that relationship is legal. I have yet to see a list of 'benefits of marriage' that I can agree with aside from health benefits which I think should be allowable in domestic partner benefits. This, though, should also be allowable if I want to cover my mother under my work-based health insurance. As a Christian and a conservative, I draw a distinction around these relationships that does not allow me to use the term marriage. My guess is that my conservative Christian view still sees homosexuality as a state outside of behavior prescribed by God and I probably won't change my mind about that soon.
I love my gay and lesbian friends but I don't think marriage is the correct term for their relationship. And I understand their love for one another and I've witnessed truly beautiful things (including parenthood) between them - I just look for another word to describe it.
I'm gonna catch hell for this post but I'm being honest. Please try to keep the flames low...