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 on: Today at 01:57:43 am 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by theinevitable
Good lord!
https://achewood-tarot.glitch.me/

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 on: February 14, 2019, 08:52:57 pm 
Started by AugustWest - Last post by wombat
Awesome. Seems like a good career track - dealing with confusing government healthcare rules seems like a growing field, unfortunately for the rest of us but maybe good for you.

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 on: February 14, 2019, 07:01:41 pm 
Started by AugustWest - Last post by theinevitable
I'm about halfway into my 3-month coding program, and a company that recruits from them just got in touch with me! I am astonished. They're a pretty small team that makes data management software for healthcare providers-- they were intrigued by my experience dealing with confusing government regulations and procedures. When we met at a networking thing I was very open about what I know and what I don't, coding-wise, so I feel like now I can apply with confidence.

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 on: February 13, 2019, 04:43:49 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by theinevitable
Yeah, we already have that night owl/early bird thing going on, usually she goes to bed around 10 and I read a book or code until midnight. It's very nice. She just feels like she is letting me down when I go to things without her. Even though she goes to things without me?

[I think maybe what I need is... a guy friend to go to shows with. I think "dan is out to a show with his fun rock and roll gal pals" is not her favorite because she feels like she is being compared. "{gf} is boring so I'm going out with Asherdanielle The Fun Girl" Unfortunately I am not friends with many men!]

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 on: February 13, 2019, 04:19:25 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by Asherdan
Also, The Minutemen's version of Bermuda makes me want to run through walls angry and crotch first.

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 on: February 13, 2019, 04:16:52 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by Asherdan
Oh I am all about the balcony these days.

Oh hells yeah, that's exactly how I did The Fonda show in Hollywood back in April, by myself and straight to the balcony.

Inev, it's possible to work around the schedule issue and you've already started taking a good step by not making it a 'thing'. There's some pressure/guilt to the sleepytime schedule issue that can cause problems. Spouse is a nightowl and I spent too long trying to keep up with her. We finally got comfortable with the idea that she can have some quiet personal time to enjoy and my sleepy ass can go to bed and neither of us have to feel bad about it. It's an accomodation with each other you have to work towards over time.

Also, I really like Bob Mould's album Beauty and Ruin so here's a nice song from it that's in my 'rock out on the way to work' playlist.

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 on: February 13, 2019, 01:31:00 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by Carlos del Vaca
If I gotta go, I buy my ticket, get a good viewpoint and rock out by myself.

Oh I am all about the balcony these days.

Weeknights can be tough, sure; it has to be a show I'm SUPER excited about to get out on a weeknight. But even on the weekends, people are non-committal and don't want to do shit.
And I guess that's the thing, being non-committal. If someone said "Meh, I'm gonna pass," that sounds totally cool. But instead it's like "Oh, I like them," or whatever, but not "Yeah let's do it!"

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 on: February 12, 2019, 11:37:41 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by wombat
Well presumably she makes the effort to go because she can see how important it is to you but there's only so much you can expect of that, you know? I think in any long term relationship, you sometimes take turns going to things as a favor to your partner that you would just as soon skip if you were left to your own devices. I think in those cases showing up is enough, it's not fair to also expect fake enthusiasm.

This reminds me that I have seen a relationship break up partly because the guy didn't seem to understand the lifestyle consequences of the fact that my friend's job required her to get up at 4.30 am. and not everyone can easily maintain a totally different sleep schedule on their days off.

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 on: February 12, 2019, 09:38:20 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by theinevitable
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ugh, that is really asking a lot. I can't imagine it being worth going to an event that starts at 10 when I had to get up at 5am for anything short of the second coming of Christ or the landing of the first extraterrestrials, and even then, for sure you'd be able to watch it on YouTube the next day so I'd still hesitate.

Well, yeah, I don't invite her to things on weekdays. Even on the weekends she's tired and ready to go to bed by 10. But she refuses to admit when she doesn't want to go, so my solution is to not suggest it.

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 on: February 12, 2019, 08:38:36 pm 
Started by theinevitable - Last post by Asherdan
Also, I've been listening the shit out of The Interrupters lately.

Nice acoustic version of one of my favourite songs of theirs.

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