Well, like I say, we've each kind of established our positions and to go much further would turn into Point-CointerPount bullshit.
But I will say, man, if you're worried about strengthening your oppressors... the eventual result of a completely free market would end up a far more effective and brutal oppressor than any mixed-economic-model representative-democracy could ever be.
If I have to choose between the oppression of a mosaic of corporate fiefdoms or the mild economic stifling of the Northern European mixed-economic model, if those are the only two choices on the table, I'm taking Norway in a New York minute.
Anyway, the "hand up/hand out" false dicotomy has always rung as really short-sighted to me. If our lifetimes were the only thing we were worrying about, I'd be more sympathetic to that "well, everyone needs to just hit their bootstraps" thing...
But it doesn't work like that. We have to think trans-generationally and... unless there are some leveling counter-balances to the free market, economic momentum will barrel us toward a tiny near-oligarchic class and one vast unskilled underclass without the resources to "bootstrap" and will eventually revolt out of blind frustration with their suffering.
Yes, in many situations for certain windows of time, an unfettered free market seems like the scenario that grants the most liberty and democracy. But we're talking about an entire society and an entire society hopefully over five, ten, fifteen more generations.
Framing social safety nets as the government forcing you to make hand-outs is... convenient and possibly even sounds correct, when viewed at the individual level and in the short-term. But in the wider view, social safety nets are a collective investment in the preservation of the stabilizing forces that are the middle classes... as well as a buffer against the free market spiraling out of control and crushing competition/innovation/etc.
I'm a bleeding heart, yeah, but I have rational arguments for that way of thinking as well.
I think the arguements against my earlier point miss the long-view. In the short term, a completely free market sounds great... but money begets more money begets even more money... and that's the rub. It quickly spins out of control. That's why at the start of the American Experiment, corporations were only allowed to exist for the span of a man's adult working life, they were incorporated with the public good as the primary goal by law and state officials dissolved corporations on a regular basis.
Unregulated business can metastasize into an oppressive force as least as nasty as government can become.
Again, it's about balance.