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[theinevitable]

I just read a big ol' thing for psych about how ours is the only culture in the world in which parents don't sleep with their children.

To Sum Up:
Developmental Psych is the coolest thing ever
a lot of things we do in the West in terms of child-rearing are really dumb. so dumb.

I also learned that humans are the only species that has a problem with being "too smart for our own good."

[linnea]

I just read a big ol' thing for psych about how ours is the only culture in the world in which parents don't sleep with their children.

That is something that I think about A LOT. I want my child to feel secure at night, but then again I'm also loathe to ponder 12 years of no sex between me and my future spouse. Also, sometimes chilluns wet the bed, and that's no fun if you're in the bed when they pee. As rough as it was for me to sleep by myself, our younger sister never seemed to have a problem with it, ever. I hope that if I have a singleton child as opposed to twins that they will be okay with sleeping in their own room.

Basically...I think I'm probably going to put Junior in a room down the hall with a baby monitor during infancy. It might be rough when he or she is a newborn; i.e. getting up a million times during the night and walking down the hall for feedings, but later on the child will come to accept that it is normal for the parental door to be locked. Privacy is important.

[theinevitable]

I really enjoyed that the book said "Western females typically bring up Intimate Relations with their Husband as being a prime issue."

I mean... I'm sure people in every other culture in the world have just as much sex as we do.

I'm surprised my mom didn't try this shit with me, considering I was basically Experiment Child. I played with dolls, and was raised equally by both parents, and smoked pot as a baby and stuff.

OK, maybe one of those is a lie.

[Doc]

maybe one of those is a lie.

Yeah, everyone says it but no two parents really play an equal part in child rearing.

[KeithHernandez]

I would actually say that most parents play an equal part (at least where I am from), but not in an asexual way, which is what I thought theinev was trying to get across.

[theinevitable]

well, my parents raised me dually moreso than most parents. Out of my siblings, I was the only one to be as strongly attached to my dad as to my mom, as my mom didn't go to work after getting her PhD., and had my brother. Before that I was fed, cared for, changed, etc. roughly equally by both parents.

Of course after that, my dad started going to England for weeks at a time on business every month. So that got screwed up fast.