Dude, you need to broaden your mind regarding gender roles.
Before now, I didn't understand why people seem a little put off by A-CAP. Suddenly, I get it.
I actually asked because I've been trying to get my daughter to learn to knit. But I've considered taking it up myself. Something to do with ones hands whilst watching football.
Your daughter is...twelve now? IIRC she was about ten when Pearce was born? I would suggest starting with crochet if she is less than into the idea. Crochet is less versatile, but it gets one accustomed to handling yarn, it's easier to learn (IMHO), and one's work tends to "grow" faster -- read "less frustration, more gratification". Plus, picking up knitting is easier if you've got a little experience with crossover skills like gauge, reading patterns, etc. Linnea, would you agree?
I have personally taught kids as young as four to crochet. I view it as a gateway craft. Both knitting and crocheting are a great things for kids to learn because they both teach patience, perseverance, math skills, creativity, problem-solving, and following directions. I plan to teach my son when he's a little older.
However, if you or your daughter have a particular type of item in mind you want to make, figure out the best technique for that item and go with that. Don't feel like crochet is a prerequisite to knitting. They're quite different crafts. I learned to knit first, and picked up crochet because I had a pattern I really wanted to make that was knitted with a crochet border. Now I can do both interchangeably, and I often add crochet borders or other embellishments to knitted items.
Hats and scarves can go either way. It's possible to crochet socks, but knitted ones are more traditional. Lacy things are considerably easier to crochet; colorwork is easier in knitting. I generally prefer the look of knit sweaters, although there's nothing quite like a crochet cardigan for warmth. Afghans can also go either way, although having done both I would choose crochet over knit for a project that large any day of the week.
I've not done a careful study, but based on my experience I feel that in general knitting requires more math, while crochet involves a greater degree of intuition. Most people who do both have a preference for one over the other. I'm primarily a knitter; my grandmother was an avid crocheter of lacy things (think doilies, bridal dresses for Barbie dolls) but "never could get the knack" of knitting. So if you try one and don't like it, don't give up. You might be a natural at the other.
Let me know how this goes. I wish we were local to each other, I'd teach you both myself.