Because generally and in nearly every single case I ever saw, one of the people involved was either being predatory or completely out of touch with reality about the situation? Not to mention that in the situations I was talking about, it got to the point where the thing that the people were into became entirely ancillary to the meat market for the socially inept that it had become.
Look, it is one thing is a romantic attachment develops organically through that kind of thing, that is fine... mazeltov, common interests, enjoy.
But people going to things like that trolling and I just wanna skinnydip in lysol to get the feeling off, especially when you talk to them and they barely know what the thing they were actually attending was about and had lost interest long ago in the actual... you know... conventions.
I'm just saying, I'm all for destiny and I understand desperation.
But calculation and delusion seemed to be the order of the day and much less time was spent... appreciating the thing they were claiming to be fans of and... a lot more time was spent trying to find an unused bathroom to fuck in because everyone was splitting hotel rooms three or four ways.
I dunno, maybe I had some bad experiences with some particular messed-up people but... shit.
At least people who go to singles bars are honest about what they're up to.