AW:
I respect your opinion, and I respect the idea that the most important elements of Christianity in terms of day-to-day living are Jesus's ideas about loving one another and basically, to put it in the vernacular, Not Being a Crap Dude. Most of Jesus's ideas in regard to Not Being a Crap Dude are pretty good, and my personal values are similar on most of the salient points. What really frustrates me, though, is the weird pseudo-logic of "Jesus told people not to be crap dudes, so by definition anyone who isn't a crap dude is Christian." It strikes me as both insulting to other religions and ethical systems (since it implies that Christianity has a monopoly on teaching people to live ethically) and Christianity (since it implies that there's no meaningful faith component at all).
I guess what I'm trying to say is this: I try to live my life decently, and as a product of late-20th/early-21st-century American majority culture, my idea of how to do this is broadly Judeo-Christian: "be generous, be merciful, and follow the Golden Rule." However, I am an agnostic. If the response from a Christian is to say that I need to be converted -- okay, I'll respect that as their opinion, although I probably won't convert unless presented with a case stronger than the ones anyone's made to date or an epiphany. If the response is to say "you're living a life at least vaguely in accord with Jesus's principles, and that's the important part, so the matter of faith can be let ride," I'll respect that too. However, if the response is "you're living a life at least vaguely in accord with Jesus's principles, so you must actually be a Christian!" I will be simultaneously confused and vaguely offended, is all.
EDIT: To answer Wombat, if people want a split, I'll split. However, if people don't care, I'll leave it be so people won't get confused.