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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #75 on: July 06, 2006, 04:56:17 pm »
yes, once I looked it up spelled correctly, that is what I found.

thanks, though.
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #76 on: July 09, 2006, 08:04:50 pm »
Quote from: jough on July 05, 2006, 03:57:35 am
Call me old-fashioned, but I would not marry a woman who would not take my last name.

Lemme ask, belatedly: does this change if there's a reason for it? I've been pondering this because, as I prepare to get my Ph.D., I've been told that women in scientific and academic careers more or less can't change their names once they've been published under the old one, since it'll muck up your CV and seriously erode your academic reputation.

(Guilty confession: I love my last name and am secretly grateful that I will have an ironclad excuse now to keep it when/if I get married.)
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #77 on: July 09, 2006, 08:50:31 pm »
just my 1/10th of a cent-- my mom's name is not the same as the name the rest of us have, and so everyone asks awkwardly if my parents are divorced.
also: she is constantly enraged about people getting her name wrong.

I dont know. if it meant that much to the lady, I would take her name. That seems cool.

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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #78 on: July 09, 2006, 10:43:02 pm »
Me and my main lady have been together for a few years now and so we've talked about this sort of stuff in a semi-serious manner and I was suprised to find that if we got married she wanted to take my name. Weirdly enough I was kind of disappointed. Neither of our names are anything special, maybe it was just basic fear of commitment that someone else taking my name would symbolise.

Then again I've only known one person that I can think of who kept their own name and she was a self-righteous asshole so maybe it's for the best.
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #79 on: July 09, 2006, 11:26:57 pm »
A friend of mine's husband desperately did not want her to take his name.  It was an act that was incompatible with his left-wing politics.  But she'd been wanting to get rid of her last name for years so she did it anyway.

I am surprised Doc that you know only ONE woman who kept her name?  I think half or more of the women I can think of kept their names.  I wonder if (going back to V's point) this is partly because I know so many academics?  Or has keeping your name fallen out of fashion with you Kids Today?
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #80 on: July 09, 2006, 11:37:12 pm »
Y'all just reminded me to finally fill out the paperwork. Tomorrow, after hitting up a notary public, I'll be filing my petition to change my name with the Fulton County Court. I will be taking my husband's last name, but keeping my maiden name as a second middle name. Then I will be S.L.C. Malec, and maybe people will think I'm British.

I'm doing this largely for convenience's sake, because I think hyphenated names are silly and I want to have the same name as my kids. I've been avoiding changing it because it's an enormous headache - dealing with the DMV and the social security administration will be the least of my concerns, I'm afraid. Luckily I have a month before the petition goes through to figure out who all I'll have to notify.

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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #81 on: July 09, 2006, 11:38:34 pm »
Quote from: Mite on July 09, 2006, 11:37:12 pm
Yikes! I'm gonna be a Real Married Lady! How scary is that!

Not all that scary... 20 bucks and a courtroom can do that... take it from me. 

It's more expensive on the backend with the divorce and all.


(I am not that jaded.. best of luck to you!)
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #82 on: July 10, 2006, 12:09:05 am »
good luck becoming a married lady! fo' real!

I had my own moment of Grown Up Scariness today. I was checking out a small child who was buying herself candy, and her mumma said "give the man your money, now. *in that giving-command-to-kid-sweetly voice*"
I wanted to say "no! I'm just a kid! I am not a man!"
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #83 on: July 10, 2006, 12:13:08 am »
Quote from: wombat on July 09, 2006, 11:26:57 pm
A friend of mine's husband desperately did not want her to take his name.  It was an act that was incompatible with his left-wing politics.  But she'd been wanting to get rid of her last name for years so she did it anyway.

I am surprised Doc that you know only ONE woman who kept her name?  I think half or more of the women I can think of kept their names.  I wonder if (going back to V's point) this is partly because I know so many academics?  Or has keeping your name fallen out of fashion with you Kids Today?

Only one of the female doctors I work with changed her name, and she went the maiden-name-as-middle route. And we tend to work with the top-top doctors that have like hundreds of published papers so I'd say this is pretty accurate.
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #84 on: July 10, 2006, 03:13:43 am »
Quote from: V-Adore on July 09, 2006, 08:04:50 pm
Lemme ask, belatedly: does this change if there's a reason for it?

I'm not going to marry you, V.  It's just not going to happen.
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #85 on: July 10, 2006, 03:27:09 am »
Quote from: jough on July 10, 2006, 03:13:43 am
I'm not going to marry you, V.  It's just not going to happen.

I always knew you were a cruel bastard, to play a girl's heart thus! And after all the months of co-administration, you won't even make an honest woman of me?!
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #86 on: July 10, 2006, 04:17:44 am »
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #87 on: July 10, 2006, 02:15:31 pm »
Mrs. del Vaca is not actually Mrs. del Vaca--she kept her last name.  Perhaps I should refer to here as Mrs. del Pollo or something.
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #88 on: July 10, 2006, 03:48:28 pm »
She's still The Mayor's wife, though, right?

So Mrs. Mayor?
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Re: Do you like your first name?
« Reply #89 on: July 10, 2006, 04:01:56 pm »
Quote from: jough on July 10, 2006, 03:48:28 pm
She's still The Mayor's wife, though, right?

So Mrs. Mayor?

What he's trying to say is that she did not buy the cow.
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