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[slink]

Just trying to help, when someone stands up and wants to be gayer than they already are I'm the man with the ideas to make it happen.

Oh hey, if you can come up with a way to make me gayer... Other than watching Robin Williams trash The Birdcage. (That said, as I young'un I use to rather love Torchsong Trilogy and Tales of the City, maybe my mother was trying to make me gay...)

My friend kept calling me 'GAY' in an amusing voice, after I kept talking about cooking, gardening, cleaning, hair... She had decided it really was the thing to say. Then I made some comment about wanting a new car, and how if I got rich I'd probably have to buy a few. She was confused as to why, and when I told her I could take them to open track days and race and such she was all, 'GA... wait... STRAIGHT', and decided she had found her new insult for me.

[linnea]

I swear, all you need to use is shea butter. The stuff is god's own moisturiser. It's the only thing that has even remotely helped my hair, which is too damn frizzy to behave, and naturally curly. A tiny bit of shea butter and it just makes it like normal (nay, good) hair.
That and it's a brilliant moisturiser for anything else, chapped lips and the like.

Geeez, could I be gayer?

I love shea butter. It is extremely awesome. For some reason, though, it makes my hair tangly. I use shea butter everywhere else, though. It's awesome.

[pmcd9]

Shea Butter is gonna be my porn name.  I am God's own moisturizer.

[kellichou]

RE:  losing hair in the shower

Ok, so I was mega-stressed over, say, the past YEAR about excessive hair loss.  Full disclosure:  I am a first-year teacher.  A thyroid test showed complete normalcy.  My doctor was a jerk and just snapped, "it's stress, you can't do anything about it."

Enter my goddess-like hairdresser.  She asked me at my last haircut, "do you lose a lot of hair in the shower?"  I said, "Hell yes!  I lose giant fistfuls, and my doctor blew me off when I asked her about it!  What can I do?"

She replied sagely, "Your scalp was ridiculously stiff when I washed your hair just now.  I couldn't even MOVE it, and your scalp is supposed to have a certain amount of give, so it slides around.  Massage your scalp every night, to loosen up those muscles until your scalp slides around a little, like it's supposed to.  Better yet, get your boyfriend to massage your scalp FOR YOU."

But seriously.  Before I get in the shower and at random times throughout the day, I'll massage my scalp with the pads of my fingers.  And LET ME TELL YOU, I lose pre-teaching levels of hair in the shower now (that is, HARDLY ANY TO SPEAK OF).  Victory is MINE.  Thank you, Ms. Goddess Hairdresser!  Now I just need to get my boyfriend to give me scalp massages.

[Beatrice]

indeed. all the best things for your hair your body already makes.  if you're eating well those oils will be available, and working them out of your scalp and getting that skin and such loose and lubricated will do wonders. 

[Nabubrush]

It's Beatrice!

(I always think of Frank Zappa when you post.)

[linnea]

One of my favored girly pasttimes is obviously thinking about my hair. I love to buy the hairstyle magazines and peruse them. I will clip out hairstyles that I like. Bea, your avatar is small so I can't really see your face, but your hair and face look familiar. Did your photo get shipped off to one of those maggies by your hairdresser? Or did you clip something out of Sophisticate's Hairstyle like I do?

[Nabubrush]

Beatrice, don't you owe us posting of that picture in a larger size in the picture thread?

[jay-ell]

One of my favorite non-girly save-times is to not think about my hair.  It is thick, wavy, and full, and it's impossible to deal with.  (When I had my hair braided, the Gambian woman who did it said, "Where you get dis hair?  I tink you black on de inside.")  I've been going to a stylist for seven years who expects nothing of me.  I walk in, sit down, and she makes me pretty.  She is aware that if she cuts my hair such that I have to blow-dry, tease, straighten, or otherwise mess with it, I will not do these things and instead walk around looking like a recent graduate of clown college.  So she takes care to give me styles that work with my hair type, and which require little more daily preparation than a shower (or a brief moistening), a little product, and a quick finger-comb. 

Unfortunately, she has moved her business into her home -- understandably so, since she has a little boy who is almost one -- and for the last year I have been driving thirty minutes each way to pay $40 for a haircut.  Now, $40 might not sound like much for a haircut, but to me that's quite a bit for what basically amounts to a "guy haircut."  And my son is mortally terrified of the hair dryer, so I can't take him with me.  I have to find babysitting for an hour and a half in order to drive there, get cut, and come back.  I'm just not going to be able to do that with two kids.  I'm going to miss her, but I've finally decided I need to let her go. 

I have an appointment today with someone at my mom's salon for $10 less that is 5 minutes from my house.  I have no idea what I'm going to tell this person to do with my hair.  I'm not used to having to make these kinds of decisions.  Because of my hair's texture, a lot of things that would look really cute are simply outside the realm of possibility for me -- even if I were willing to straighten and blow-dry every day, I'll never have fine enough hair to pull off a bob or anything like that.  I do have to my advantage the fact that my hair is really healthy -- I dyed it earlier this year with semipermanent dye but that's mostly grown/washed out now, and not heat-treating or over-washing helps keep it moist and strong.  But I know so little about hair (and even less about fashion) that I don't know how to explain to a new stylist (a) what I am and am not willing to do to my head in a 24-hour period and (b) what I like to look like when I leave the house. 

Any suggestions, oh ye goddesses (and gods) of super hair? 

[theinevitable]

BOY-CUT!
BOY-CUT!
BOY-CUT!

(but seriously, most people don't go for this, don't. probably.)

[jay-ell]

I'm thinking of something like this, but apparently this hairstyle requires the wearer to become unbelievably pallid and squint under several layers of mascara. 

I don't know if I'm down with that. 

[side_show]

I'm thinking of something like this, but apparently this hairstyle requires the wearer to become unbelievably pallid and squint under several layers of mascara. 

I don't know if I'm down with that. 

I got that hair cut once and (if your hair grows at any speed at all) it will turn into a fem-mullet really fast.  I swear it looked good for only a week, and my hair doesn't even grow that fast. 

I am a big fan of the Audrey Hepburn cut (aka the gamine crop).  She had super-thick hair like you.  I've had this cut a number of times and really like it - it's very wash and wear friendly, but can be punked/sexied up with some styling products and tousling.  But maybe this is too short for you?  I love it.

I'm getting my hair cut soon.  I've been growing it out and actually had a dream last night where a total stranger told me my hair looked like a mess.  I usually go to a hair school and pay $6.  Sometimes I got to a salon near my place though.  Since I've been growing it out for such a long time, I think it's best to play it safe and go to a professional.

[mavies]

Short hair! I find it can be immeasurably sexy on some girls. JLDunston, I have no idea what you look like, but am highly recommending either of the cuts just mentioned. Pallid and overly eye-painted or otherwise, that is some good-looking hair. But then, if a mullet is the price to pay, maybe not. My mother had something of a mullet for a time, and we never let her forget it. That Audrey Hepburn one looks awful fine. I find hair that needs no work to look good looks even better as a result.

My hair's been pretty long for a years now. When it was properly long, halfway down my back, I had to wash it pretty much every day else it'd look well scruffy. Now it's much shorter and more manageable, it looks alright for a few days. I still try to shower every day though, living in a desert tends to make one sweat a bit excessively. Herbal Essences shampoo & conditioner makes it lovely and shiny and pretty-smelling. True, no one ever comes within smelling range, but it's nice to know just in case of the unlikely event of my having close human contact with someone who aint a family member.

A couple of my friends think I'm gay. Just 'cuz I try to keep myself relatively well-dressed and groomed, am rather bitchy regarding other peoples appearance and like not shy about complimenting other guys.

[wombat]

I'm thinking of something like this, but apparently this hairstyle requires the wearer to become unbelievably pallid and squint under several layers of mascara. 

I don't know if I'm down with that. 

This looks to me like the kind of haircut that only looks good in professional photographs immediately after much fussing and styling, and in real life would look like you forgot to brush your hair.

But don't listen to me, I know nothing about looking like a girl.

[Nabubrush]

A couple of my friends think I'm gay. Just 'cuz I try to keep myself relatively well-dressed and groomed, am rather bitchy regarding other peoples appearance and like not shy about complimenting other guys.

Dude, I totally hear you. A couple of my friends think I'm gay just because I go down on men from time to time.

BOY-CUT!
BOY-CUT!
BOY-CUT!

(but seriously, most people don't go for this, don't. probably.)

My wife had seriously short, spiked hair all the time I was courting her and well into our marriage. She finally decided to try growing it out again and she kept telling me how shitty it looked and I told her to just relax, it'd be ok. Now she's happy as a clam at high tide. One thing to consider is thta if you get it cute really short, you may be somewhat committed to short hair because of this. However, you may not particularly give a shit about how it looks when you are growing it back out.