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[wombat]

Can't I just point at an attractive woman who is single and in one of my circle of friends and then we're living together?

This should be how it works.

For fuck's sake.

I totally agree.

This made me think - we think of arranged marriages as barbaric, but is it really worse than dating?

[theinevitable]

I would like arranged marriage if it weren't my parents picking the lady. I have thought about this a lot.

I was all set up to do volunteer research for this guy at a local nonprofit thing, but then I started working at the coffee bar. A few weeks of 5 AM days, and then a month of working nights 6 days a week, plus I moved house. So I kind of let things slide and never got back in touch.

[AugustWest]

I would like arranged marriage if it weren't my parents picking the lady. I have thought about this a lot.

Yeah, my parents have some really weird mis-impressions about me.  Makes me doubt what I know about my kids.

[littlefallsmets]

A few weeks of 5 AM days, and then a month of working nights 6 days a week, plus I moved house. So I kind of let things slide and never got back in touch.

If you moved an entire house, I'm not surprised you were tired.

[theinevitable]

I look at job listings pretty frequently. Rarely see anything interesting/that seems within my reach. Even things that seem like "entry level" jobs say they want several years of experience. I apply anyway and never hear back.

All of the people I know who work at nonprofits have graduate degrees. It doesn't seem like any of them really have "entry level" jobs. No money.
And, frankly, is that even what I want to do? It seems like a horribly frustrating career path. And who the fuck am I to try to "help people?" Why should they give me their money, instead of spending it on their programs?

Related: this is why I laughed when my dad said "she wasn't the right girl-- if she was 'the one' you wouldn't have had any doubt." I don't understand how someone who has known me my whole life could think I have ever been sure of anything. He also recently expressed shock that I sometimes feel uncomfortable in social situations.

I have always identified with this comic, although the problem is definitely not depression.

The other day I was talking to my dad about how stressed out my dumb job makes me, and I heard a tone of voice I had never heard from him. A tone of sympathy, but that also said "oh, wow, my son is a neurotic loser."

You guys should be really excited about how much of this thread I deleted. Lately I am on a hair trigger for spilling my neurotic guts for anyone who will stand still. Have you ever had the dude serving you coffee tell you about his ex who moved to Chicago? I hope not, I'm sure that was horrible.

[theinevitable]

Try to live more like this.

[pmcd9]

Try to live more like this.

Yeah, but what that picture doesn't show is that guy landed in a broken heap.

[pmcd9]

Yeah, but what that picture doesn't show is that guy landed in a broken heap.

What I meant to say is that is fuck*ng bad ass!

[wombat]

Yeah, my parents have some really weird mis-impressions about me.  Makes me doubt what I know about my kids.

It is wise of you to make that connection. It doesn't seem to occur to so many smart people.

Inev has the right idea, we need arranged marriages but set up by someone other than parents. Come on, we can make this happen.

[wombat]

I was all set up to do volunteer research for this guy at a local nonprofit thing, but then I started working at the coffee bar. A few weeks of 5 AM days, and then a month of working nights 6 days a week, plus I moved house. So I kind of let things slide and never got back in touch.

Get back in touch. You might need to grovel a bit but I suspect you can do that.

I am pretty sure that in this case I am not doing that thing where an old person tells you, to do what I did when what I did follows the old rules. I think these are the new rules. You know, everyone is supposed to be doing unpaid internships etc. I don't see how society can continue to run this way without bad consequences in the long run but right now that is not your problem.

Also, you can't know what you want to do without trying it, and volunteering is a way to try without a lot of committment or investment of resources. If there's one thing I know for sure it's that no job is exactly what you think it is before you do it. And there are jobs you don't know exist until you are really involved in a business. This is a way to find that stuff out.

[CortJstr]

Last night The Lady's cousin bailed at the last minute so I had to go with her to see David Sedaris. I understand he's a writer or somesuch.

[doomglobe]

Can't I just point at an attractive woman who is single and in one of my circle of friends and then we're living together?

This should be how it works.

For fuck's sake.

If you don't desire that she also be attracted to you, that could be the source of some problems in your love life.

[Mr Trout]

Oh is this where we post pictures of our sweet trucks?

[doomglobe]

Try to live more like this.

I never want to stop having adventures.

[Mr Trout]

Rock climbing is something I really want to get into, but the last thing I need right now is yet another sport to buy gear for.