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[AugustWest]

Wombles has a point, though. Why does she need to call for backup?!?

Because Inev is too much man for just one woman.  Duh.

[Carlos del Vaca]

AW also has a good point.

[theinevitable]

Topical.

I thought about this some more and nothing she did is ambiguous. It wasn't a date, it was never a date, the only reason I imagined it could be a date is that I really wanted it to be a date. Besides that, she is rude.

Meanwhile, another dating-app girl has cancelled a date on me at the last minute, leaving me with nothing to do on a Friday night. Yeesh.

[wombat]

Well it turns out it's a good thing it wasn't a date because she's not the sort of person you should date. And you just found the same thing out the easy way about tonight's date as well. So it's all good.

[Carlos del Vaca]

Breaded Cats retweeted me today, so I got that going for me.

[pmcd9]

Well I have no idea whether you are less mature in real life than you seem on the internet... but you are certainly too old to date someone who acts like they are in middle school.

Preach!

[theinevitable]

There is a meme/phrase that stresses me out that goes around a lot on twitter, where women talk about how they date "mediocre men." This makes me frustrated bc I'm sure a lot of people date people who suck, but "mediocre" makes me think you're judging someone by all the wrong metrics!

...

And then this weekend I flirted with:
- a woman with a pulitzer
- a woman who did the cover designs for a bunch of books I own
- a woman who was just written up in the NYTimes
- a woman whose book is being published

...am I one of these mediocre dudes bagging super-successful women? Did the meme not make sense to me bc I am living it?

(No I'm pretty sure this is a shitty way to think about another human being)

[pmcd9]

There is a meme/phrase that stresses me out that goes around a lot on twitter, where women talk about how they date "mediocre men." This makes me frustrated bc I'm sure a lot of people date people who suck, but "mediocre" makes me think you're judging someone by all the wrong metrics!

The Bible says something about pointing out the speck in your neighbors eye and ignoring the mote in your own eye. Which I think is incredibly true. And by that logic, these women dating mediocre men are likely pretty mediocre themselves. Let's face it, nobody these days wants to take responsibility for their shortcomings. At least not publicly. It's too easy to sidestep and blame. It's because nobody presents their true face on social media, it's a curated approximation with most of the negative bits left on the cutting room floor. So literally everyone you meet is going to be a letdown from who they are on Twitter.

[wombat]

I have not seen this meme but I have to say that while on the one hand it is shitty to talk about other people that way, on the other hand, men have always talked about women that way and worse, and women calling men mediocre is very, very far from the worst things that one sex regularly says about the other sex online. So it's maybe crummy but it's a little hard for me to get worked up about it.

[theinevitable]

I'm just stuck on what does it literally mean. I can imagine thinking a woman was ugly or stupid or annoying or mean. But what is a "mediocre woman." I have no idea.

[theinevitable]

They have clearly achieved their goal of making me stress about it

[Carlos del Vaca]

Today I bought a Delaware 7-day out-of-state giraffeing license.  w00t

[theinevitable]

Oh wow, even after 3 dates in a row canceling the day of, this is a good one:

I matched on one of the dumb apps with this girl while I was out of town. We chatted back and forth. She was texting me today and I said I'm finally back in town, and she suggested I come straight out to meet her once I got home. So I dropped my bag off, splashed some water in my face, and went out to meet her. Waited at the bar for an hour while she had trouble getting to the place (her friend was driving her home from a party and got pulled over and other mishaps). Then she showed up and couldn't find her ID to get into the bar. I said nice to meet you, no I will not wait for you to go get it, it's after midnight on a work night and I just spent the entire day on planes, see you soon. I made sure she had a ride home and left.

Now: "hi sorry It's actually my birthday and i just really needed some compassion and positive energy after everything that happened tonight and I didn't get that vibe from you, this is it for us, best wishes bye."

Good lord.

[wombat]

Oh inev. You are smarter than this. How much more evidence do you need that these apps are not a good use of your time? You are living in one of the greatest cities on earth, you can't find something better to do than talk to jerks on apps and waste time meeting them to prove they are jerks? Take classes, volunteer... we talked about this! Take a photography class and learn to take great photos while you are walking around the city for your job. Take a language class and learn to talk to more of the people you run into. Volunteer at a museum or as a tour guide. Spend your time doing interesting things where you will spend time with people who are interested in interesting things. 

I mean, I don't get this. You've even claimed you're not that into casual sex, and you're not even successfully getting a high percentage of that unless you're leaving out a lot of the stories. Why are you still beating your head against this? Someday if you leave New York to take another job somewhere less interesting you are going to regret how you spent your time.

[AugustWest]

Now: "hi sorry It's actually my birthday and i just really needed some compassion and positive energy after everything that happened tonight and I didn't get that vibe from you, this is it for us, best wishes bye."

Good lord.

Good Riddance.