Thanks for the encouragement, you lovely figments. I'll let you know how it went so we can laugh together. Side_show, I get your point and agree with it. Here it's a big company and I rarely bump into this girl, though. So there'll be several walls and corridors between us blocking all the awkwardness after I hand this thing out. Hopefully.
Yes, this is a totally different situation, and one where such a thing doesn't hinge on the creepy. If you did this, then say, sat at a desk three feet away all day, five days a week, staring at her, then you know, my advice would be"Do not do this thing." Otherwise I am all for speaking your truth and say "go for it!"
There was a time when I worked in a larger workplace where a guy was pining over me, but we worked in different departments and would maybe see each other in passing once or twice a week maximum. He made a terrible techno song that I think may have been about me, since he wanted me to hear it and the lyrics were about a girl and his pining for her... It was more awkward that I didn't like his terrible techno music than that he had these feelings for me. Plus I was also in an unhappy pseudo relationship with one of his friends at the time. It was kind of nice to know he appreciated me though. Over time, when my other relationship passed, I was able to give the other guy a chance.
Terrible techno songs are not hearfelt, lovely poems though. Once he had me he didn't know what to do with me, so his chance was fleeting at best. The dude had major depression and catastrophically poor self esteem, which over time lead to problems with drugs, and then a break down. Ten years later, he lives in his parents basement and can't work due to "migraines." I ran into his brother who told me his bro hasn't left the house in years and continues to pine for me, and the apparently better life he once had (although he hated his life back then too), which is... just terrible. It hinges on tragic, really.
The guy I was pseudo dating and I are still acquaintances, and we bleakly admitted to each other a while back that we occasionally scan the obituaries looking for our old friend's name.
The lesson is - be careful with your pining. Say your truth, but have the courage to face rejection or lack of reciprocation if it comes. Do not shelf yourself in the endless loop of waiting and hoping for someone's heart to turn, for a better life or a better world.
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